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originally posted by: Gryphon66
Maybe, if we actually are "growing up" as a culture, we will be more respectful to what a marriage is, and further, before we involve kids in our situations, we will understand the level of our commitments?
originally posted by: queenofswords
originally posted by: Gryphon66
a reply to: queenofswords
I introduce my partner as "my partner."
When we get married in a few years, he will be "my husband."
Perhaps there is an inequity in the structure of the laws when your so-called "wifely extras" are factored in?
He will be your husband, and you will be his husband? If you adopt a child, then get a divorce, who will get the child? Now, the courts usually give the wife custody with visitation by the father (husband) and child support? She usually gets the house as well.
How will that work in a same-sex scenario?
originally posted by: ScientificRailgun
originally posted by: queenofswords
a reply to: ScientificRailgun
Oh, it will be different. What if both husbands are capable and competent? What if both husbands are not in the least bit destitute? The female aspect will now be removed and same-sex divorce with children involved is going to line the pockets of lots of attorneys, especially those who "specialize" in same-sex divorce.
Courts generally give custody to the mother, not because the mother may have more rights to the children, but because the mother is usually seen as the more nurturing caregiver. The female of our species will die to protect her young. She is the one that suckled her infant, provided the physical and emotional element to help it thrive. Unless a woman can be shown as unfit, 1 out of 6 times the courts will assign custody to the mother.
As you implying a father wouldn't die to protect his child? Because that's patently false.
The whole "mothers are more nurturing" thing is becoming a thing of the past as the rise of the working mom has given birth to a generation of "Mr. Mom"s and same sex couples who SHARE responsibility of nurturing a child. To imply that only mothers can give a child the nurturing they need makes you just a sexist as the men who held you back before the women's sufferage movement.
I'm not being "PC". I'm being honest. Men are more than capable of taking on the nurturing role of a mother. I've seen it happen personally. One of my best friends is a Mr. Mom who hangs out with me on occasion. He's adorable with his kid! And yes, historically the courts have sided with women. And that's been a sexist stance. Something I hope very soon will be a thing of the past.
originally posted by: queenofswords
originally posted by: ScientificRailgun
originally posted by: queenofswords
a reply to: ScientificRailgun
Oh, it will be different. What if both husbands are capable and competent? What if both husbands are not in the least bit destitute? The female aspect will now be removed and same-sex divorce with children involved is going to line the pockets of lots of attorneys, especially those who "specialize" in same-sex divorce.
Courts generally give custody to the mother, not because the mother may have more rights to the children, but because the mother is usually seen as the more nurturing caregiver. The female of our species will die to protect her young. She is the one that suckled her infant, provided the physical and emotional element to help it thrive. Unless a woman can be shown as unfit, 1 out of 6 times the courts will assign custody to the mother.
As you implying a father wouldn't die to protect his child? Because that's patently false.
The whole "mothers are more nurturing" thing is becoming a thing of the past as the rise of the working mom has given birth to a generation of "Mr. Mom"s and same sex couples who SHARE responsibility of nurturing a child. To imply that only mothers can give a child the nurturing they need makes you just a sexist as the men who held you back before the women's sufferage movement.
There you go taking offense for nothing. I---me personally---did not say that fathers wouldn't die to protect their children. I am telling you that being a loving and nurturing mother (female) has always been considered in the courts when assigning custody of a child for the historical reasons stated. Don't get all PC on me.
Me, personally, know that dads can be just as nurturing. When there are two dads, no moms, the female aspect that has HISTORICALLY been factored in is now gone. This is going to create more money for child custody lawyers as they take up same-sex divorce.
originally posted by: Gryphon66
a reply to: ketsuko
Do you ever use the word "spouse" to refer to your husband?
Has your husband ever used the word "spouse" to refer to you?
Aside from taking the opportunity to grind your usual axes, what is the big deal to you if "spouse" is added to the laws so that they address everyone equally?
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
That discriminates against me. I'm a wife.
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Gryphon66
a reply to: ketsuko
Do you ever use the word "spouse" to refer to your husband?
Has your husband ever used the word "spouse" to refer to you?
Aside from taking the opportunity to grind your usual axes, what is the big deal to you if "spouse" is added to the laws so that they address everyone equally?
Actually, no. We are husband and wife.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
That discriminates against me. I'm a wife.
Society progresses for all inclusion on legal forms.
Be whatever, whoever you want in your personal life.
originally posted by: Gryphon66
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Gryphon66
a reply to: ketsuko
Do you ever use the word "spouse" to refer to your husband?
Has your husband ever used the word "spouse" to refer to you?
Aside from taking the opportunity to grind your usual axes, what is the big deal to you if "spouse" is added to the laws so that they address everyone equally?
Actually, no. We are husband and wife.
So, in all the years you've been married, neither of you have ever once filled in a form with the word "Spouse" on it?
No offense, color me skeptical.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: Kromlech
Query:
Why are the gender specific terms being removed, rather than just adding extra terminology to the pre-existing document?
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
That discriminates against me. I'm a wife.
Society progresses for all inclusion on legal forms.
Be whatever, whoever you want in your personal life.
So in the name of inclusiveness, I have to be stripped of my identity? How is that inclusive?
And again, no one answered me. How many gays do you know that don't refer to their partners as either husband or wife regardless of what they are?
It seems to me that this is simply abolishing gender to fix a problem that doesn't exist. That means there is an ulterior motive for it.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
That discriminates against me. I'm a wife.
Society progresses for all inclusion on legal forms.
Be whatever, whoever you want in your personal life.
So in the name of inclusiveness, I have to be stripped of my identity? How is that inclusive?
And again, no one answered me. How many gays do you know that don't refer to their partners as either husband or wife regardless of what they are?
It seems to me that this is simply abolishing gender to fix a problem that doesn't exist. That means there is an ulterior motive for it.
You seem to be perfectly fine discriminating and excluding others for personal glory.
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ketsuko
Should we next demand that we abolish the words "cat" and "dog" in the name of "companion animal equality?"
Should the cat and dog get a lawyer and fight it out in court?
This is mostly about legal forms.
Forms have 2 lines. Line 1: husband/wife/partner/other. Line 2: husband/wife/partner/other.
Or maybe just: Spouse/other. So much simpler. And saves on ink
That discriminates against me. I'm a wife.
Society progresses for all inclusion on legal forms.
Be whatever, whoever you want in your personal life.
So in the name of inclusiveness, I have to be stripped of my identity? How is that inclusive?
And again, no one answered me. How many gays do you know that don't refer to their partners as either husband or wife regardless of what they are?
It seems to me that this is simply abolishing gender to fix a problem that doesn't exist. That means there is an ulterior motive for it.
You seem to be perfectly fine discriminating and excluding others for personal glory.
So gays are NOT fine with being husbands and wives? I thought their marriages were just like ours?
Now you're saying they're not?
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: Rocker2013
I just think it would be nice for people to have their status described in a manner they feel most comfortable with. I have never been fortunate enough to be married, but if I did, I would want the government to refer to my lady in communications, as my wife, not my life partner, spouse, or what have you. Couples should select from a list upon marriage or upon taking up domestic premises, in order that their preferred choices be remembered in communications from the state.
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: Sremmos80
a reply to: ketsuko
It has to do with gender specific language, pretty simple.
Zero to do with your personal life.
Oh, but it has plenty to do with it. Legally, my personal status is being changed to strip me of the "outdated gender roles" I would rather keep.