posted on Jul, 5 2015 @ 11:33 AM
Just my thoughts...
I don't think you need to make "amends" so to speak.
This is about you and your Dad not anyone else. If they get upset or are hurt then that is their feelings.
They didn't have the experience you did so really shouldn't judge you but, they may.
I left home at 15 because I thought I hated my Mother. I'm sure she hated me at times also.
In the end, I was the only one left to care for her. The past didn't matter. Well, let me say it did/does matter but there was no time/reason to
discuss it. What was done was done.
We did reconcile years ago and had a fairly good relationship. It turned into a caretaker/patient type relationship in the end.
I live with regret everyday of the lost years. There is never enough time with someone you truly deeply love. I regret all of the years that we spent
angry and selfish.
On the other hand my birth Mother passed right after Mom. She wanted me to come see her. She knew she was dying. I chose not to go but, not because we
weren't getting along. I chose not to go for my own mental health. It was only three months after Mom passed. I couldn't do it again. She had her
family around her. WE had an on again off again relationship for years. It was always good. I just didn't feel the same connection I did with the Mom
who raised me.
I suppose I was being a little selfish, I didn't think I could handle it!
A few days before she (my birth Mother) passed, she sent me a letter written by Mom back in the days I call the lost years. It was thanking her for
letting Mom have me to raise and how it completed her life. How much love and respect she had for her for giving her this gift (me). Had I known...oh
things could have been so different!
In the end, I am the one who was given the gift, the gift of life (as corny as that may sound!).
She helped mold me into all that I am. Good and Bad. I miss her dearly. I dread everyday waking up and her not here...again...
I had no idea how much her presence in this world impacted me. When she left, she took a chunk of my soul that will never return. The regrets for
things said and unsaid, the loss. Sometimes we just sat quietly looking at the lake, lost in our thoughts. No need for words. Being in each others
presence was somehow enough.
I held her hand until the end. No talk of the past, no need, we both we knew, we both lived it.
The journey to the other side, wherever that is, is a huge feat, to have to cross over into heaven? a void? nothingness?
I wanted to support her, to help her, to hopefully give her some of my strength to ease the transition. To let her know that I forgave her. I did not
need to know if she forgave me because it was her time. Her soul was leaving,
I won't tell you what I think you should do as that wouldn't be fair, You need to decide on your own what you can live with.
I just hope you can live peacefully with whatever decision you make.
Good Luck to you! I hope my ramblings help in some way!