Sure we can always look upon humanity this way-
But if we dare to get closer, we see this-
Daring to get closer. Taking the risk of intimacy, of opening to others, and letting them see our differences, is a risk.
Can they deal with the awareness of my specific angles and curves, my colors and textures, and still love me??
A challenge life poses before us constantly.
I think first glimpses into the world of difference can feel negative- like when we are teens, and individuality first becomes apparent to us. I
experienced though, that being couragious enough to keep that close up look, and becoming accustomed to the concept that we are ALL different,
neutralizes that discomfort.
Yes, some individuals have traits in common, but none are exactly alike. We don't need to consciously search out those with common traits- our
instincts in our body will do that, with amazing balance between same and different (being attracted to potential partners who have a very different
immune system, for example, for optimum procreating).
Perhaps it is a bit too dualistic, and not totally realistic, but I tend to regard myself as having a body that tends toward sameness (synthesis,
assimilation, mergence) and a mind that tends towards contrast (divergence, distinction, separation).
My emotions are of that body, and search, like water, similar states and levels in others.
My mind revels in the opposition of individuals- in contrasting "I"'s. Not meaning only conflict with others, but it is also terribly excited by the
discovery of new individuals.... this is where "other" has a real value- precisely in it's "otherness".
If you are in touch with that excitement about otherness, then perception of difference is not a obstacle to love, to friendship, to respect and
trust- on the contrary!
In the context of current social issues about gender, race, sexuality..... I suspect that those for who it is a preoccupation, they are mostly people
who identify more with their emotions and body than with their intellect. But I may be wrong.
But when it becomes "bad" to verbally acknowledge differences in others (do not openly acknowledge a person is black, or gay, or female) it just seems
like there is a lack of appreciation that these specific qualities are a positive thing. Like it is prejudice and hate parading as it's opposite.