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That said, I also feel strongly that people will have much greater concerns in the future that worries about which bathroom a trans person might use will seem quaint and silly by comparison.
Transsexual (adj.)
An older term that originated in the medical and psychological communities. Still preferred by some people who have permanently changed - or seek to change - their bodies through medical interventions (including but not limited to hormones and/or surgeries). Unlike transgender, transsexual is not an umbrella term. Many transgender people do not identify as transsexual and prefer the word transgender. It is best to ask which term an individual prefers. If preferred, use as an adjective: transsexual woman or transsexual man.
originally posted by: EKron
I haven't been out in the world much and involved in LGBT awareness or issues for a very long time. A story here and there - something on the TV now and then and I generally avoided related threads here because they always became rancorous. I knew the "T" had been added at some point but honestly not much more than that. It was but two months ago when I did click on something here and started reading about transgender. I became curious about this word, where it came from and when it came into widespread use and how it was being applied and what was being implied by its use.
When I first found medical help at 19, the label given people like us then was transsexual - trans:cross, sexual -the sexual characteristics you were born with.
The ultimate end-game of the therapeutic process was to undergo sexual reassignment surgery or to use the lay term, another one I despise, a "sex change". It was diagnosed as GID or gender identity disorder which is now instead called gender dysphoria syndrome. I'd probably have to look it up but I think GID was pretty narrowly defined where gender dysphoria syndrome is somewhat different with various flavors and degrees? At any rate, as the numbers of us grew and came together, it became obvious we were a pretty disenfranchised, and crapped on motley crew and for political expediency and combined power, some of the grassroots groups absorbed into the national gay and lesbian rights groups that added a B and at some point later, the T. I wasn't involved of any of this at any level, it just was all something that happened in the world while I was just off living my life and being me. Somewhere along the line, transsexual became transgender for some PC reason I don't fully understand, to get away from the sexual part of the word or something and probably to be more inclusive for the broader spectrum of gender dysphoric flavors of people with gender identity issues that didn't specifically just mean having surgery for sexual reassignment.
Maybe my own ego or something but transgender seemed to mean a hella lot of things
Heck, my geriatric mind is even confused by "trans woman". If I put together trans and woman, shouldn't that be a man then? I know how it is used, it just doesn't seem to fit the language rules. I like to play by my own rules when I can and I've never used trans woman or man in a sentence until just now, I think?
At any rate, if by calling myself transsexual instead of transgender has felt exclusionary toward anyone, I apologize. If you feel it is part of some divide and conquer strategy by the TPTB, don't worry about it too much because I'm sure before too long, I'll crawl back into my quiet little life and not even think about this crap as I have for many many years.
If I've always felt I was or known in my heart like a girl/woman all my life and at the earliest opportunity that was available to me had surgical procedures to become one physically, does that make me just a little bit special? Well, yeah, sorta maybe a little?
Yeah, lots of little boys play with dolls at some point and hang with their girl cousins but do they keep doing it? Handwritten note on the back of the color pic says "Xmas 57" so I was a few days short of 2. The other one must be from '59 maybe? I have plenty throughout the years and most incredibly, I still have that dolly as one of my most cherished things.
Does that make me one single bit better than anybody else here that identifies as transgender or gay or whatever letter they are, straight or purple polka dotted. No it does not. Not at all.
It does make it different for Jade and I to talk about bathroom issues or marriage equality because these things are different than those of our T and GLB cousins as well as medical considerations that are unique to our experience.
In practice, it is even possible to disengage entirely from the GLBTQ community, ideals and concerns as I did the 11 years of my marriage. I am not "out" in my life now except for my involvement here. But do we face the same potential for discrimination, violence, prejudice, ridicule, backlash and who knows whatever the hell else that spans the whole GLBTQ spectrum, we're right there with you brothers and sisters and who ever is in the middle.
originally posted by: EKron
Thanks for the links, Darth. It was educational.
I'm going to lay low for a bit as certainly, I've already spread enough of my drivel across this thread and alienated some in the process for which I am sorry. I get it and as far as transsexual separatism or superiority, there are differences and uniqueness' but it doesn't make them better than something else. Up until a few weeks ago when I came out about this here, I wasn't trans anything except for something I did forty years ago. That's a lot more simple life and I'm hearing the call of the woodwork for me to blend back in.
originally posted by: Darth_Prime
a reply to: EKron
I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be addressed how you want, i'm only 23 so i only know what i know now.. but if it wasn't for people before us where would we be?
if it wasn't for strong people like you and others who were your authentic self and paved a path for others to walk down, i think that many of the generation now don't even think about the past and the Herstory( as i call it ) before them.
originally posted by: JadeStar
All transsexuals fall under the transgender umbrella but not all people who identify as transgender pursue surgery or in some cases (believe it or not) even hormone therapy.
originally posted by: JadeStar
It does -not- make us -any- better than someone who discovered themselves later in life, or those who have "blended gender" identities, etc. Their experiences are equally valid and valuable.
I know your head is probably exploding about now but yeah, keep an open mind. There are some really good people out there of from all over the trans* spectrum.
originally posted by: JadeStar
The one thing that is wonderful about today is that one can be out in some places like say an online forum and not be out in other places like your day to day life.
I realize how emotionally draining this all can be. Trust me, i was very scared when I decided to come out in the hormone blockers thread.
originally posted by: EKron
originally posted by: JadeStar
The one thing that is wonderful about today is that one can be out in some places like say an online forum and not be out in other places like your day to day life.
It's not like there haven't been times I've been out but I've known people for 30+ years that don't know and it's not really a conversation I'd like to have with them. I am not embarrassed by my past but I am a pretty private person and it's really nobody's business unless I choose to make it that way.
I think when people do know, it changes their perception and it's difficult for them to not make comparisons in their mind. I do some things that could be considered "tomboyish" and while not the incredible hulk by any means, am kind of "big boned" (but then again, so was my mother). All stuff that a (need the PC term here - cis?) woman would ever be thought twice about for doing. People knowing does make them think twice. It's not the end of the world but it isn't my favorite vacation spot either. Usually after the shock wears off, it's no big deal and soon forgotten.
I realize how emotionally draining this all can be. Trust me, i was very scared when I decided to come out in the hormone blockers thread.
And you know if it wasn't for your courage and example (and a little nudge), I wouldn't be here either. This can and has been taxing. I've thought about things I haven't thought of in a long time and of some things I'd really rather forget forever. In a way it has been cathartic though and I've thoroughly enjoyed getting to know you and others that have joined us here and in the similar threads.
I've poured so much of my life out here which I'm as tired of doing as I'm sure others are probably as tired of reading and there's not much more about me to say. (Well there is but you're gonna have to pry it out of me) This thread has left me warm and fuzzy as it hasn't been the typical ATS thread full on unpleasantness. With that said, I've almost reached a certain level of chill enough to do something I am highly uncertain about doing and hope I don't regret.
Heeeere's Granny!
originally posted by: JadeStar
Well first of all thank you for that post detailing what your feelings were and how you had to reach a certain "tipping point" and how that tipping point can perhaps come later in life. In your case it came fairly early.
originally posted by: JadeStar
Or maybe, since i was able to talk about my feelings with my parents and stuff, i never had to reach a tipping point because the option to grow up as a girl was there for me.
What were considered "dark thoughts" which dare not be said, i was told were not uncommon and that other kids had them. in other words, I wasn't alone.
...so it's obvious that you've treated yourself well.
... love it if people with other experiences joined in.
I feel that you are a little relieved that there are others like you or I or TrappedPrincess on ATS. I hope that anyone else on ATS like us will join us.