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originally posted by: EKron
However, my opinion on a penis in the ladies gym showers is that it is a complete disrespect for the comfort levels of female bodied women that I find almost inconceivable from someone claiming woman identity. It is absolutely alpha male privileged behavior no ifs ands or buts. Transgender deconstructionist bloggers are clamoring for this as their civil right which I think is absolutely nuts. (no pun intended) For those that are directly working toward or have completed sexual reassignment surgery, that I still use the unpopular term transsexual for, feel the struggle for their own unique rights is losing potential allies from the demands of the transgender jihad. (Boy, I'm really gonna get it for that) I don't mean to offend anyone. I'm dumb as the next person but this does show that all of us no matter what we are, are all different and unique and that labels suck.
Whatever the case, I don't have a solid answer for you. For what's worth, the transgender or transsexual person is usually the victim, not the aggressor.
These issues are new and evolving and not all figured out yet. I guess I could say if their are women in the bathroom that aren't acting like ladies, I'd probably be pretty damned uncomfortable and if I saw penises in the showers at the fitness center, I'd probably lose my s**t.
I'd happy to continue this line discussion. Maybe I can figure it out too?
Thank You!!!
originally posted by: honested3
I am glad to find people are becoming more aware, or at least trying to understand transgender issues and things that we face though we have a long ways to go. I am a transgender woman myself in fact I made one of the threads EKron posted (Thank you by the way) I am also making myself available for questions if they come from the right place not one of condemnation
originally posted by: pl3bscheese
a reply to: GENERAL EYES
Rappers have attempted to transform the N word towards something that they can be proud of. Maybe transexuals can take a cue from that.
Meh, I'll bow out of this one.
I'm sorry for the (apparently) huge offense of my previous posts, it wasn't intended.
originally posted by: JadeStar
Oh dear.
Here might be another case where there is a generational divide.
Ekron - I do not think pl3bscheese meant you or I or anyone any harm. They were calling themselves a tranny. While, I personally detest that word and feel it is still a slur I know that there are girls my age and younger who use that word or trap to describe themselves and heard both used affectionately by those with an attraction to trans* women.
It is still a slur if used as a slur but there are those who believe in defusing the power of the slur by using it in a different way. (i know, i know, I hate that too!)
originally posted by: EKron
originally posted by: JadeStar
Oh dear.
Here might be another case where there is a generational divide.
Ekron - I do not think pl3bscheese meant you or I or anyone any harm. They were calling themselves a tranny. While, I personally detest that word and feel it is still a slur I know that there are girls my age and younger who use that word or trap to describe themselves and heard both used affectionately by those with an attraction to trans* women.
It is still a slur if used as a slur but there are those who believe in defusing the power of the slur by using it in a different way. (i know, i know, I hate that too!)
Oh, I know. I really only pointed it out with feigned outrage so that people that might not even be aware it was a slur or derrogatory, would be and I do agree some of my irritation with its use is probably generational as well as regional but I thought the context itself was mocking.
The white dude that goes into "da hood" and starts nigga this and nigga that is gonna get his lily ass whooped good or at laughed at for being such a tool. When a bunch of gay guys call each other fag, queer or homo, it's a traditional slur used as an endearment within a group but when some straight man directs those words toward a gay man, it's usually in a less friendly, buddy buddy sort of way. I hardly think Mr. Cheese was trying to endear me by coopting what is apparently my clan's slang unless he is transsexual and I am unawares?
originally posted by: pl3bscheese
People wanna tranny out let them shake it like they want. I like to wear me a mean dress on occasion and strut my stuff. You got a problem with that? Your deal.
I haven't met or been around other women that share our commonality to hang out and shoot the breeze with for at least twenty years up until we bumped into each other here just a few short weeks ago.
That's cool, I can be your tranny granny if you like but nobody else better damn well call me that.
Also keep in mind, I ain't made it this far and been through the things I've been through that anything some jackwad (sorry dude) behind a keyboard says is going to bother me in the least. I may be a sweet mom/grandma type lady but I'm a pretty tough cookie when it's called for and sticks and stones and all that. I even pretend to act like a grownup sometimes.
As we are kind of using this thread as a platform to hopefully be available to help people maybe chill out on some of this alphabet stuff and just discuss things, it should become apparent the LBGTwhateveritis "community" is as full and diverse as any other community with different types of people with differing attitudes and opinions. We are family. We are all unique.
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
LMFAO...This penis in the bathroom argument coming out of the dissenting camp in ingenious and desperate at best.
Despite having no sexual use for it or emotional attachment to it I am perfectly fine with my body and if someone doesn't like it they shouldn't look.
I had to get comfortable with my own nakedness and others while showering with 30+ angry, sweaty and dirty recruits in boot camp.
That being said I have enough class, tact and etiquette to never unleash the beast (sorry couldn't help it he he) in the company of natural born women not that I would ever de-clothe in a public setting.
No thank you I will wait till I get home as to avoid a national and potentially embarrassing incident because of some prude with a loud mouth.
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
I'll just keep my mouth shut and let those that are more eloquent do the championing of civil rights and equality as I just laugh in the shadows awaiting orders. I am more of a soldier than politician after all and when in certain moods love to fight if and just for the sake of it.
a reply to: EKron
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
I'll just keep my mouth shut and let those that are more eloquent do the championing of civil rights and equality
Just want to say that I understood your post perfectly and some of us (not me) are more eloquent at this kind of thing than others are. Clearly, Ekron and JadeStar (you both rock!) are eloquent beyond my capability, to bring light to the issues and inform people. I'm not even LGBT (but a strong ally) and I can't help sticking my nose in and sometimes flying off the handle at those who have issues with LGBT.
I know that probably sounds kinda bad. I'm not ashamed of them or my own personal story I just don't feel that being a girl born differently should first and foremost be the thing which defines who I am to the world any more than the amount of melanin in my skin should.
Girl Scouts return $100,000 check to anti-trans donor
Upon returning the money, council CEO Megan Ferland said to Seattle Met:
"Girl Scouts is for every girl and every girl should have the opportunity to be a Girl Scout if she wants to."
Unfortunately, such a large donation doesn't come around too often. The organization could have used the money to send 500 disadvantaged Girl Scouts to summer camp. However, the organization's values take precedent. Instead of accepting the donation, the Girl Scouts of Western Washington have launched an Indiegogo fundraiser. They stated:
"$100,000 is a lot of money. In fact, it's almost a third of our entire financial assistance program for this year—and girls need this support now. That's why losing the gift is such a big deal."
The Girl Scouts of Western Washington hope to raise back the $100,000 in the right way through their #ForEVERYGirl Campaign. Their statement continues:
"Our vision at Girl Scouts of Western Washington is that EVERY girl in our region — regardless of her race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, gender identity or geographic location — is empowered to unleash her potential, build her future and transform her world."
originally posted by: seagull
a reply to: JadeStar
I know that probably sounds kinda bad. I'm not ashamed of them or my own personal story I just don't feel that being a girl born differently should first and foremost be the thing which defines who I am to the world any more than the amount of melanin in my skin should.
Why would it sound bad? You have your own life to live. ...and from the sounds of it, you're doin' just fine.
originally posted by: EKron]
Oops! Edit to add - I just reread this and it may have come across a little more uppity than I intended? It's 3:30 AM for cryin' out loud and I should have been in bed hours ago.
Sorry, let's all talk more tomorrow and be friends, k? (and thanks, Jade! You're a sweetie)
I guess it would sound bad to some who have more of an, idk if activist is the right word but those who feel that we shouldn't have to hide our birth status.
originally posted by: GENERAL EYES
I just sometimes throw out worst case scenarios as a form of preventative maintenance.
The last thing any of us need is more intrusive technologies and wasted tax-dollars on "security systems" that we can be more effective in doing ourselves just by remaining alert and aware of our environments. There are already CCTV cameras installed outside of many public restrooms to make sure shifty people aren't preying on innocents.
After a good night's sleep the best defenses I could come up with are self-defense classes, purse friendly disarming techniques (pepper spray, those little key fobs that double as defense weapons, lighter and hairspray), rape whistles or tiny air horns and a good strong voice to call for help for oneself or someone else if nothing else.
I hope I didn't go overboard expressing concerns in the manner by which I did. Like I said, I detest violence and aggression against good people and sometimes get a little hyper-vigilant trying to cover all the concerns that sometimes spring to mind when I hear these types of issues being addressed casually in mainstream and alternative new sources.
On one hand it's me trying to address issues that well-meaning but woefully inexperienced persons might have when dealing with this kind of subject matter, and I thank you all immensely for bringing such a strong perspective to the table on this topic.
originally posted by: seagull
a reply to: JadeStar
I guess it would sound bad to some who have more of an, idk if activist is the right word but those who feel that we shouldn't have to hide our birth status.
You shouldn't have to hide it. But... I can see why some might be uncomfortable putting it out there. It's not something I can really understand...I've never really run into the sorts of discrimination that you, and others, have or will run into.
Someday, and I take this as a matter of faith, this will change. Not might change. Will. Maybe not today, or even tomorrow, but it will. Maybe within your lifetime, as you're a young-un. I'm a tad bit older, but I've seen remarkable changes in society in my lifetime as regards matters of civil rights. So, I know it will happen.