I was working with my anger management clients today and someone brought up this line "Don't make me slap you..."
Thanks to that line I have now realized how stupid I am and how stupid others are too
Oh yeah....Kyo is picking on everyone today
Let's start with me. The idea of don't make me slap you is so ludicrous that is just drives me up a wall. Only I can decide if something makes me
angry enough to cause harm to others.
I don't by the way...I don't hit or yell at people...I do other stupid crap....here it is. I've come to realize that individuals are very often the
cause or exacerbation to many of their problems when it comes to petty stuff. Now people who are abused, victimized, assaulted, etc are not in this
category. I am talking about the following example and how thought and preparation can help you avoid being inappropriately angry, offended, upset,
Every....single...day...I pull up to my office. I park the car and take out the key...then the lunacy begins. I generally have several items to carry
in with me. My bag, water bottle, cars keys, office keys (have to be separate), wallet, cell phone and sometimes a breakfast and/or lunch for the day.
That's a lot of stuff. I grab it all and every once in a while I drop something. Now my situation is ten times worse because I am juggling stuff AND
have to bend over and pick up what I just dropped.
Know what my response is? I get angry...at the keys...that I dropped...because I am stupid. So tomorrow when I get to work I am taking 30 seconds to
pocket or bag what I can. I bet you that 30 seconds of preparation will solve so many irrelevant and pointless issues.
So what does my stupidity have to do with others? Well let me tell you. This is going to be one of those sorry-not-sorry posts so....deal
I look around all day, and without picking out names...myself included...people are so angry, offended, hurt, upset, frustrated with pointless crap. I
am going to carry on a new experiment of my own and begin by telling you my bias out front
I AM in the LGBT community. I am pan. I love me some men, women, trans, asexual...don't care. My experiences are varied and thoroughly enjoyable. So
yes I support Caitlyn Jenner. Yes I support LGBT right, gender rights, race/class/status equality and so-called gay marriage.
So there I have cleared the air.
But one thing I absolutely support is freedom of thought, expression and speech so long as it is not inciting violence. You think Caitlyn Jenner is a
freak and a man? You think marriage equality will destroy the nation? Fine. I think you are 100% wrong...but you are free to say/think so. This is a
public world where private thoughts can surf the web all day. My problem lies in this one question...Why do you (again...generic you) let Caitlyn's
change bother you? Why does it matter if two men marry, have sex, and competently raise a child when sociological study shows that there will be no
damage to the child based solely on the gender of parents? Granted abuse/neglect is possible...but then...it is with hetero parents too.
The best part is that people will crap all over Caitlyn's transformation then immediately follow it with "though to be honest I really don't care what
she does." Then why are you here posting how wrong it is. Bull crap you don't care. But again...why do you let it bother you? It comes back to the
number one basic principle of anger management (bear in mind I am not attempting to suggest anyone here has anger problems...just like the
YOU are the only person who has a say in what you let anger you. Let that sink in. Hate Caitlyn Jenner? Ok fine...that's well and good. Let it go.
Nothing she has done has personally affected you. If it has...please let me know. Did she come to your house and flash your family? Did she hold you
up at gun point and tell you to declare acceptance for trans rights or I kill you family? If she did...holy crap...call the police.
Otherwise...we as a society...again...myself included...have GOT to relax and learn how to let it flow off you like a water off a ducks wings.
I think people like WBS are the worst people ever but they haven't affected me one bit. When they show up at a PRIDE parade with their signs I see so
many people laughing it up and realizing how sad they must be as people. Again...if something directly and TRULY affects you...then do something about
it. Obama screwing up health insurance might well affect you. Do something. Bush's war might have affected you. Do something.
But Caitlyn transforming into a woman...I just can't accept that it has some personal and direct/real effect on you, me or anyone but her. If it DOES
have such a strong effect on you I have to ask..is your foundation THAT shaky and built on sand that someone's personal life causes you to fly off
into a rage and call society ruined? Because the part that bothers me the most is when people talk about how it ruins society..how. The media is
covering it over war, famine, drought, disease, corruption? Yeah they are...but let me ask you...whose fault is it really? ABC/CSPAN/FOX/etc or the
people who choose daily to gobble it up and care more about the Jenners than ISIS? Sure media is culpable but if people truly wanted a widespread
change and completely ignored the news that mostly reports tabloids, then revenue would disappear and they would either make a change or perish.
That's what I am getting at. YOU (and me) are the only one who can decide what causes us sorrow short of being specifically victimized or again
victimized by society/policy (again...like my policy example of the Affordable Care Act...etc)
Thanks y'all....and no I am certainly no sorry...mostly because I am just as guilty...not just about dropped keys...but letting external and unrelated
events mess my day up
Kyo is taking his stand
edit on 17-6-2015 by KyoZero because: (no reason given)