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A shared SP occurrence with my wife

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posted on Jun, 16 2015 @ 04:49 PM
Im looking to gain a little feed back on something that happened a few weeks back to my wife and I. First some brief history:
I have been experiencing SP since a child. I was sent to a Dr. because i became terrified of going to bed. It wasn't the boogie man i was scared of, but rather Aliens. When i was 7 years old i was convinced i was being abducted. I told my parents, my teacher even a guidance councilor at school. Children's Aid was alerted by my school and did an investigation in my parents home. After all was said and done, it was recommended i see a psychologist that dealt with children. After explaining what was going on he told me i was experiencing Sleep Paralysis. Before long, my once a week occurrences became almost nightly. Over time ive learnt how to deal with it and get myself out of it when its happening.
My wife had never heard of SP before she met me. We have been together 8 years now. After our 3rd year of marriage she started having SP as well. Which that alone i thought was odd. Before long she was waking me up in the middle of the night, crying because she terrified. She always has demons coming after her when she has an episode.

Soon a lot of weird things started happening in our home. Im not going to go into much detail about it at this time, but it got so bad that we had a medicine man come to our home to smudge and bless every corner of the house. (I live in Thunder Bay Ont. Canada. My family's home was on Ojibwa land 15 minutes outside of the city in a wooded area.) After the blessings, things actually increased. We eventually moved into a new home in the city.
My wifes SP decreased and mine continued on the same as usual. Which brings us to 2 weeks ago. My wife fell asleep before me because i was reading.
I put my book down and started to drift off. The familiar heavy feeling started coming over my body and i was now in SP. I laid on my side looking out my bedroom into the hallway. A dark shadow came into my room, along the ceiling and above me out of view. As this was happening i could hear a muffled crying sound. I started flexing my stomach repeatedly to cause my body to shake ( a method i use to wake myself out of SP) As i was coming out i felt my wife move in bed and heard her take a deep breath of air. At the exact same time, i sat up awake and swatted at a black shadow mist above my bed that i could still see even though i was now awake. ( a shadow mist is the only way i can think of explaining it but it dissipated more like smoke) My wife started crying hysterically and shaking. She grabbed me around my waist. I stood up beside the bed and yelled "What the F$%k!"

From the moment i sat up and swatted at the mist to when i stood up was a total of a second. She yelled "whats happening?" i told her i was having SP and there was a smoke like mist that i could still see when i got my body awake. She was still crying and told me she was having SP and heard someone come in the front door, run threw the house, down to the basement stairs and down the hallway outside our bedroom.
I was shocked, i lit a cigarette turned the bedroom light on and tried to make sense of what just happened.

Now my question is, to everyone that experiences SP: Has anyone else had a shared episode of SP with their partner or someone else in the room with them? Has anyone else come out of SP and there was a shadow or smoke like mist still visible?

And now of course i have to also put this out there. I have A LOT of peoples lives dependent on my sound judgement every single day at my work, not to mention my own life. I am 100% of sound mind. I do not drink nor do any sort of drugs. My companies work policy ensures this is upheld by random urinalysis.

If anyone needs any further details, please feel free to ask.

posted on Jun, 16 2015 @ 05:00 PM
a reply to: macenroe82

I stood up beside the bed and yelled "What the F$%k!"

Next time shout GTFO! directly at it, own your space, tell it this is your house now and time to move on.

"This is my house!!", at the top of your lungs. Scold it like you would a school yard bully. Its only power over you is your fear of it.

(whipsers) After all it hasn't actually harmed you directly other than bad dreams and waking nightmares? No broken bones, no disease? Tell it to GTFO. Say a little prayer, too, ask for help. Then next time, jump up and scold it loudly. laugh at it, rebuke it, clown it.

posted on Jun, 16 2015 @ 05:27 PM
a reply to: macenroe82

No entity is psychically stronger than any other entity, this includes you and your wife. Induced Fear and panic , just make you think it is. Some entity's like, doing this, just like some living people in the normal way of things, act in this way. Just tell it to F%$& off, and don't respond. it will get bored and do one.

posted on Jun, 16 2015 @ 05:42 PM
There's a method for warding your sleep in the book Qigong Empowerment.

I'd highly recommend using that or another technique to shelter yourself while you sleep. It sounds like you've both got some serious issues with SP.

posted on Jun, 16 2015 @ 06:43 PM
Thanks everyone so far.
When the occurances started at our old country home, our house already had a reputation of being haunted. If you google thunder bay hauntings, a place called trowbridge falls comes up. This is a well known hot spot for paranormal activity. Well our country home was less then 3 km's as a crow flies from the area. I googled how to deal with a typical haunting and read that you have to tell the presence that this is my home, you are dead and dont belong here.... Well that had a negative effect, and things got worse. One instance my wife and i were asleep, and i woke up a little after 3 am. I could hear our oldest child who was 4 at the time talking in her bedroom. I woke my wife up because i thought she was sleep talking, my wife thought how cute, and started creeping to her bedroom. When my wife got to her bedroom, she could see threw the crack in the door that she was sitting up in her bed talking to the window. My wife opened the door in a wtf moment and turned the light on. She said my daughter turned to her, and my wife asked who are you talking to? And then my oldest stared at her and then started bawling. My wife was trying to ask her what happened. what my daughter said still gives shivers up my spine. She told my wife the "little boy" said that we got in an accident.
My wife called me in the room, she told her to tell daddy what she just said, and such enough she said the same to me. I tried telling her she had a bad dream and mommy and daddy are right here with her and theres no accident.
So we went and checked on the other kids who where 2 and 1. They were fine but we made them all come sleep in our big bed.

Almost Every night we would hear bangs and things would fall off shelves. I would have SP. Thats when my wife started as well.
I got so fed up with it that i called a local psychic to come to the house. She told us its not the house thats haunted, its the land around the house and to have the house blessed. Thats when i got ahold of the medicine man from a reserve just outside thunder bay. Then we moved across the city, about 45 minutes away to the outskirts on the otherside of town. Things started up a few months later there but no where near as intense. My wife went threw a bad depression, she was having horrible luck with every thing. Theres just to much that started to happen to be ruled coincidence.
We moved again to our current home. Things were great for the first 3-4 months, then the same things started happening again. We got a hold of another smudger named Jared. He came to the house and did a walkthrough, he said theres nothing wrong with the house, but that he thought something had latched onto my wife. It sounds absolutely crazey, and if i hadnt witnessed it all, i wouldnt believe it myself.
So being the good sport she is, had him bless her, smudge the entire house, all her clothes, pictures, everything. My house smelled like a fire by the time he left.
That was last summer he did that, and 2 weeks ago we had the shared SP

posted on Jun, 19 2015 @ 08:50 AM
Really interesting...

I suppose the rational explanation would be that if you both experience it, then probability dictates eventually you will both experience it at the same time.

However, as someone who has experienced SP once before, I feel there's more to it than just your body going a bit out of sync in the waking up process.

Here's what happened to me.

I live on a longboat, I was sleeping at the bow end, facing the bow, so the whole boat was behind my head, including the "front door" at the stern.

The sound of the front door slamming shut woke me up. I heard a slow "thump, thump" approaching the bed, footsteps that stopped directly behind my head. I couldn't turn to look, but I could see exactly what the entity looked like in my head. A very tall figure with a long coat, wearing a tall hat of some sort. I'm not embarrassed to say I was literally petrified. I've never felt terror like this before. My bones ran cold. Really weird thing for me that's never happened before or since. Anyway, I could barely speak like i was paralyzed except in my eyes, but I finally managed to whimper "who.........the.......F&$*..are.YOU, GET THE F*** OUT. As I spoke it got easier to speak until by the end of the sentence I'd managed to sit up to see that nothing was there.

The weirdest thing I remember about this, was this feeling of terror. I say terror, to distinguish from fear. Fear would leave your heart thumping, maybe feeling light-headed etc. But this was different. I've never felt such terror, but from the moment I shouted at the entity, I felt absolutely fine. No physical consequences from the experience at all, just felt normal, although a bit confused.

p.s. my fiance is "gifted" and has had lots of experiences with the paranormal from a young age, picks up lots of info from people, as if out of thin air. I was always pretty skeptical of such things, but she's proven me wrong too many times to not think there's something to it.

A few months after this experience, I was working on the engine, whilst she sat and watched and she said...

"Is there a Derek in your family". I told her there was but he was still alive so "haha wrong this time!"
She said...
"Oh, there's a tall man watching you work. I think he wants to help"

posted on Jun, 19 2015 @ 09:24 AM
Dem0nic, thanks for sharing!
It simply amazing that people all around the world have seen the man in the hat.
He was present in all my SP experiences when i was younger. Now i rarely see him.

Last night i had a really interesting one. What started as SP turned into what i think was an OBE, something ive been trying to achieve at will for a long time. I have had them before but not by choice.
Last night i had a goal in mind and was going to use some techniques that i have read. My mind awoke in my bed laying on my side i relaxed even further by telling myself i dont need to breath my body will do that for me. The presence of fear was still there, it was very dim. I got out of my body and willed myself down the hall. I wasnt able to turn around so i floated up my stairs backwards. I seen my cat laying on the couch. I looked at my front door and moved to it. I went threw the door and got to my front steps. Outside it looked like winter. Everything looked white but it wasnt snow. I got into the front yard but something stopped me and next thing i knew i was back in ky house looking out the front door. I thought about me being in my bed and was suddenly back in my bed again.
Now i dont know if thos was just a lucid dream or if it truely was an OBE. It didnt have any characteristics of a lucid dream and pretty much what i would think an OBE would be like.
I think that by me thinking about being back in my bed, made me return to my body.
But then again it could have all been just a dream that i had complete control over.
Ive been looking forward to going to bed everynight, almost like its a new world that i am to explore. Crazy or not, i really enjoy whats been happeneing for the most part.

posted on Jun, 19 2015 @ 09:49 AM
Well, that sent a shiver down my spine!! Thanks (or maybe not) for letting me know the hat man is something many have experienced, that has freaked me out somewhat!

I had no idea about this phenomenon but a little google search tells me you're correct, there's even a book about it. Wow!

That was a very strange element to the whole thing, as I can't really explain how I saw it, as I couldn't turn my head but I knew exactly what it looked like and exactly where it was standing, maybe I went slightly OOB without realising it? I could even see his stature and standing position. My boat is very narrow so curves at the sides and I just got this image of a shadow with a flowing coat and a top hat, contorted around the edge of the boat, bending over to fit in the short headspace. Now reading the comments of others, he's always very tall.

Really odd....

I've been interested in OOB and meditation etc. for some time now but haven't taken the plunge really. I've always wondered though, if you could perfect a technique of lucid dreaming and meditation at the same time, couldn't you feasibly spend 8 hours a night, in a dream state, but one you are controlling, yet still wake up with a refreshed mind? There's lots of research that proves that physical actions/practices etc. can be improved by mental practice.

So could you for instance, construct a dream world that contained a dream guitar and spend 8 hours a night dream shredding and wake up feeling refreshed still, but with some added skill on the axe?

posted on Jun, 20 2015 @ 09:33 AM
Thats actually an interesting point. Dreaming of a skill and becoming more proficient at it in real life. I suppose you could if you became good at controling the dream.
Myself though i know when i have lucid dreams, things change a lot in my dreams, like the area or room im in. Even though i know its a dream and im able to do some amazing things i cant in real life, i still end up going with the flow of the dream.
I think you would have to become quite the master at lucid dreaming to be able to create something that you could constantly come back to.

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