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Scientific Dating Advice for Women

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posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:07 PM
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Ladies I think we have this one nailed down.....LOLOL!!

This is an observation....guys pick really low rent females & then wonder WHY it goes all wonky.
Yeah.....quit doing that!




posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:20 PM
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originally posted by: TruthLover557
Wow, speak for yourself.

I am a single woman who definitely doesn't fit your description, and I don't think most women do. It's ridiculous to assume women only want taken men. No. Just no. That's not true. I don't even look at my friends' boyfriends and tend to be happy with and supportive of my friends' relationships, and vice versa. Also ever think about the possibility that no one is trying to make you jealous and you are just jealous?

So, I wish you would have made it clear that this has been your experience as a result of your choices in women and specific to you only, instead of making the audacious claim in your thread title that you have something scientific to offer the dating world.

You can go on about your territorialism theory, but please leave describing the strategic motivations of all females to all the females. Especially here, where females always appear underrepresented, and your diatribe about women gets confirmed by a bunch of people who are not in fact women.

P.S. Tinder and all dating sites can go to hell. What a crying shame.



I didn't say women only want taken men. I said that because of preselection they are inherently attracted to taken men., where men are completely the opposite.

It's none of this is really a theory. Some of the great apes have similar mannerisms. Like it, hate it or whatever (tho you might be the acception to the rule) it's irrelevant. Your genetics, just like mine don't care about your personal morals.

Also Appearently you didn't do much reading on this thread because no one has pretended like ANYTHING, including your opinion, applies to all women.

The reason it is getting confirmed by men as well as women is because it's a fairly universal experience. It's a plot device in countless movies, books and other media.


Oh and p.s. I was giving the women in these hypothetical situations the benifit of the doubt. At least where those in relationships are concerned. Assuming that them vying for the attention of other males was to refresh the relationship/marriage to the person they have already commited to. Rather then assume they are just cheaters of low moral character.


IMHO your rant did more to make women look bad then my attempt to have a logical conversation about the Psycology of the situation ever did.



posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:23 PM
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originally posted by: Caver78
a reply to: TruthLover557

Thanks for the common sense! I've never seen a bigger pile of rubbish in a thread in awhile, real train wreck!! Scientific
Dating advise "should" presumably include some science & not just personal opinions.

Are you guys scraping the bottom of EVERY barrel whilst out? Where the heck do you find people who act like this??
This is like the wordy version of "the people of Walmart"
SHEESH!!!!

Speechless....just speechless.....


Pre selection. Is science. We are not the only animal who's females use it as a strategy to get mates.

But maybe your right and women are all just inherently perfect.... Except for all the ones you deem walmart trash of course.....



posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:25 PM
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originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: Caver78

It is totally unscientific and offensive to women, imagine if a woman wrote the same thread about men!

It is really a disguised rant, the sort made by men when they didn't get the response they wanted or that were spurned, and instead of looking inwards they automatically blamed 'women in general'.



You mean saying some thing like " the way men expect women not to be attractive to other men is crazy"..... Exactly like I did in the OP?



posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:31 PM
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originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: Entreri06

I wouldn't consider my lack of bitchiness towards other women ''male wiring'', not all women are the boyfriend flirting, untrustworthy sort. I just happen to know some very vain women.

That said, it takes two to tango and men are often just as untrustworthy with their friends girlfriends and I know that as a fact.



Agree 100% I'm talking about initial attraction not how they treat a commitment afterward. That is a rational thought out decision. Because your in a relationship doesn't mean you stop being attracted to others. It means you choose not to act on it.



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posted on May, 31 2015 @ 11:35 PM
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originally posted by: Caver78
Ladies I think we have this one nailed down.....LOLOL!!

This is an observation....guys pick really low rent females & then wonder WHY it goes all wonky.
Yeah.....quit doing that!




Lol your right any woman not up to your personal standards should definatly be considered low rate. Espeacially any that have any genetic programming that effects their decision making processes.......


IMHO yall are making women look bad by not even being able to have a discussion about it without resorting to name calling.



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 12:41 AM
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Sorry if I hit a nerve. I felt it was my duty to defend women from the picture you painted of us and the confirmation bias that always ensues thereafter. I disagreed with your "advice." Deal with it.

I feel strongly that men are unqualified to speak on what is inherently woman in basically any forum. Sorry not sorry.

P.S. IMHO, your assertion that we (women) are making women look bad is laughable.



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 03:03 AM
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Why would we be interested in our friends when we are the ones who get to hear about all their relationship problems? For most women, (yes there are exceptions) are off limits and that makes them less attractive.

For the good ones out there that are taken, we may think, "I would like a guy like that," but we want our on guy, not someone elses. I think the OP is projecting his own traits and desires onto women.

BTW I accidentally gave the OP a star on one of his posts on accident. I meant to star Caver78's post. We really need an unstar option.
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posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 03:30 AM
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a reply to: TruthLover557

Also ever think about the possibility that no one is trying to make you jealous and you are just jealous?



I thought the same thing!!!



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 05:25 AM
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originally posted by: TruthLover557
Sorry if I hit a nerve. I felt it was my duty to defend women from the picture you painted of us and the confirmation bias that always ensues thereafter. I disagreed with your "advice." Deal with it.

I feel strongly that men are unqualified to speak on what is inherently woman in basically any forum. Sorry not sorry.

P.S. IMHO, your assertion that we (women) are making women look bad is laughable.



Your right!!! Only women scientists, anthropologists and psychologists should ever even consider doing research or medical/psychiatric testing on other women. Even if it takes an extra decade to cure breast cancer or post partem depression it'll be worth it as long as no men comment or make any assumptions about the women of the world.


It's not y'all would ever assume that say "Any woman who try's to make her partner jealous is oviously a second rate trailer park queen"......



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 05:28 AM
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originally posted by: MimiSia
a reply to: TruthLover557

Also ever think about the possibility that no one is trying to make you jealous and you are just jealous?



I thought the same thing!!!


Your right. No woman has ever tried to make a man jealous....every form of media and historical account of it is obviously just anti woman male propaganda. At birth all men are initiated into a vast conspiracy to pretend preselection is an actual scientific fact.


Good catch!!



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 05:30 AM
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originally posted by: calstorm
Why would we be interested in our friends when we are the ones who get to hear about all their relationship problems? For most women, (yes there are exceptions) are off limits and that makes them less attractive.

For the good ones out there that are taken, we may think, "I would like a guy like that," but we want our on guy, not someone elses. I think the OP is projecting his own traits and desires onto women.

BTW I accidentally gave the OP a star on one of his posts on accident. I meant to star Caver78's post. We really need an unstar option.



Your right!!! It's definately unheard of that any woman would ever pursue a man already in a relationship........



Do y'all put any thought into what you are saying?!?!?!?any???



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 05:41 AM
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a reply to: Entreri06

i didn't read yet your point of view
now still not trying to get into how it makes you feel specificaly
(bare with me! I will rant too given I date woman too)

I will say to the woman here:

so far it is woman 1: man 0

but I have to say woman are goldiggers these days!!

woman 0: man 1

-woman here is like 1% of current woman population
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posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 07:30 AM
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a reply to: Ashirah

This thread kind of brings to mind the "women are more attracted to men wearing wedding bands" thing.

more like

"all good man and woman are taken" lol



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 07:55 AM
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a reply to: Entreri06

I am confused

1. what are you trying to say personally

2. what is this scientific advice..

is it to

not to make man jealous? ok that is common sense if you want to be in a relationship



if a woman is trying to make you jealous that means she is insecure


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posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 07:55 AM
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a reply to: Entreri06

I am confused

1. what are you trying to say personally

2. what is this scientific advice..

so far what i am hearing is

not to make man jealous. ok that is common sense if you want to be in a relationship

then i say

if a woman is trying to make you jealous that means she is insecure



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posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 08:44 AM
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a reply to: MimiSia


I am confused


You finally said something I agree with. Just be careful to speak for yourself, and not all women, okay?



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 09:24 AM
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a reply to: ladyinwaiting



I don't want to talk on behalf woman but on behalf of me

I stated that almost in every reply

am I allowed to chat with others by being me?
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I am a bisexual female end of story

can I have an opinion on woman? I am dating them so I hope so

same goes for man can ask him ?






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posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 09:33 AM
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I haven't really dated alot in my lifetime, but I have been married to the same woman for almost 15 years now. we have been together for more like 17 but here is my observations on it all:

If somebody hits on my wife when she stops at the gas station or wherever, thats the first thing she tells me about when I ask her "How did your day go?" when she gets home. Its like she literally cannot wait to let me know that there was another guy that found her attractive (whether real or just perceived by her as such) I always tend to downplay or ignore it when she tells me and she seems to get irritated when I do. The thing is when I observe and point out this behavior its like she really doesnt notice it at all.

And this is something else I've noticed throughout the years, if you ask a woman what kind of man she wants, 90 percent of the time they will all say the same things: They will tell you they want a nice looking guy who treats them like a lady and takes care of their family and has a good job and is a good provider and doesnt cheat on them etc. etc. Then many of these very same women I see get men like this, exactly as they describe them. Then (I think unconsciously) its like they purposefully sabotage their relationships with the guy. They'll do and say things to distance themselves from him, or make him distance themselves from her. Then I see many of these same women get with a guy who treats them like a doormat, talks down to them, uses them for money while they never work, on and on and they stay together for years.

I know I cannot say that about all women for sure. I do know some women that actually have a good man and have been happily together for many years, but that does'nt seem like the trend to me at all.

I was home schooled for most of grade school and I went to a public high school becasue I wanted to play sports. So when I hit 9th grade, I felt like this total weirdo becasue all of a sudden I was thrust into this environment where all of these social factors(that I had never really thought about or considered unimportant up until then) came into play over who your friends were, what group you hung out with, how to talk to girls was a biggie too becasue it seems most people start flirting/learning how to talk with girls in jr. high and I had skipped all of that. I had always assumed "Well, if a girl is interested in me, she will find a way to let me know if I just be Mr. nice guy like girls say they want."

I was 21 years old and in college when I finally lost that mindset. A cute redhead girl started going to classes there and she always hung outside in the smoking area after tests, bumming cigarettes off of me and talking non stop (usually about her ex-boyfriends). I wanted to ask her out but figured I'd get the awkward "Sorry, but....blah blah I like you as a friend" speech that I had gotten from practically every woman I had ever asked up until then, so I did something that I just generally don't do to people. I started to make fun of her and say stuff like "damn, looks like you need to lose a few pounds" or "Do you consider getting botox to get rid of those lines around your eyes." Within a day....A SINGLE DAY she was waiting for me by my car to leave one day and wanted to know if I wanted to get a drink with her after class. I could'nt believe it.

So I guess some dating advice to guys would be talk down to your woman, treat your dog better than her, let her know shes fat and ugly and hit her up for money all the time!

(I'm joking by the way, I would have not been married to the woman I have for as long as I have if that's how I really was. Still does'nt mean I don't see it all around me though.)



posted on Jun, 1 2015 @ 10:08 AM
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a reply to: ladyinwaiting

lol even if I do
what are you going to do about it
if I tick someone of so be it


it is actually you who is speaking on behalf of all woman
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