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originally posted by: ladyinwaiting
originally posted by: Mugly
a reply to: ladyinwaiting
the duggar parents are the only ones to blame.
they are not raising well rounded, mentally healthy kids.
anyone who does not see that has blinders on
To say the Duggars are completely and fully responsible is a bit of an overreaction, don't you think? Don't lose sight of the fact that fourteen year olds without question know the difference between right and wrong, so one can't dismiss personal responsibility.
I am unable to find a correlation between religiosity and child sexual abuse within the home. My guess is it's about the same in religious/non-religious homes.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: ladyinwaiting
You're very brave to deal in facts only Lady - all my respect for that
It's an impossible subject
That article was written in 1986. But nope, give him a pass because he isn't religious and yet he is advocating incest and he doesn't say the age at where incest is appropriate.
More recently, Lee has questioned conventional views of incest. In a paper, "Behind the Fig Leaf," the professor suggests that "incest brings the family closer together."
Sibling sexual abuse is the least recognized form of incest, while sexual abuse by related adults in a family receives the most attention. Meanwhile, victims of sibling abuse remain unseen, waiting to be found and helped. Social workers are in a unique position to lead the effort to uncover the injuries of sibling incest and promote a climate that supports victims in disclosing their experiences and receiving appropriate services. The prevalence of sibling sexual abuse in American society is not well documented. Researchers estimate that the rate of sibling incest may be five times the rate of parent-child sexual abuse (Finkelhor, 1980). These rates are based on reported incidence, and incest is known to be underreported. Sibling sexual abuse has been dismissed as “child’s play” in many cases and/or as a normal aspect of sexual development. More recent research has documented the traumatic, long-lasting, and damaging effects of sibling incest (Carlson, Maciol, & Schneider, 2006; Weihe, 1997). When sexual acts are initiated by one sibling without the other’s consent, sibling incest is, most often, a serious and secret problem.
Being religious or repressed has NOTHING to do with child abuse. You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
originally posted by: WarminIndy
You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: WarminIndy
Being religious or repressed has NOTHING to do with child abuse. You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
Before you have another tanny-tantrum - or some kind of a cow - you should read what people have been saying
Never assume Windy (it's just shorter...) - never assume...
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: WarminIndy
You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
Actually, NO. But, there is major hypocracy with this family. And to deny there is repression in this situation?
IMO - we are born sexual beings of ALL "flavors". We need to stop using children as an excuse to deny early awareness and education.
We need to be 100% open to sexuality and dialogue from first interest ---- not set a chronological age that some adult determines is appropriate.
And yes I do think it happens more often then some want to believe. And I'd guess most families keep it within the family.
I waited a day before I posted but kept seeing "repression" and about religious nuttery.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: ladyinwaiting
You're very brave to deal in facts only Lady - all my respect for that
It's an impossible subject
So what do you mean?
No, honey, it's not appropriate to hump your sister. Go hump the neighbor girl down the street.
originally posted by: WarminIndy
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: WarminIndy
You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
Actually, NO. But, there is major hypocracy with this family. And to deny there is repression in this situation?
IMO - we are born sexual beings of ALL "flavors". We need to stop using children as an excuse to deny early awareness and education.
We need to be 100% open to sexuality and dialogue from first interest ---- not set a chronological age that some adult determines is appropriate.
And yes I do think it happens more often then some want to believe. And I'd guess most families keep it within the family.
And at what point chronologically should we allow as 100% appropriate?
1 year-old? 3 years-old?
It's your suggestion, so you tell us what chronological age is it appropriate?
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: ketsuko
So what do you mean?
No, honey, it's not appropriate to hump your sister. Go hump the neighbor girl down the street.
How on earth did you get that from what she said? She's talking about education
You just wanted to dis Annee - and then say something crude - amiright?
:-)
Ya know sometimes we take off and speculate on a topic given the facts we have now and it later turns out that what we thought were facts, weren't facts at all.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: ketsuko
So what do you mean?
No, honey, it's not appropriate to hump your sister. Go hump the neighbor girl down the street.
How on earth did you get that from what she said? She's talking about education
You just wanted to dis Annee - and then say something crude - amiright?
:-)
Weird, huh?
Just like WarminIndy ---- slid right past "First Interest".
We need to be 100% open to sexuality and dialogue from first interest ---- not set a chronological age that some adult determines is appropriate.
originally posted by: WarminIndy
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: ladyinwaiting
You're very brave to deal in facts only Lady - all my respect for that
It's an impossible subject
Being religious or repressed has NOTHING to do with child abuse. You are all shocked because this is a religious family? And you blame repression?
originally posted by: WarminIndy
And what age is appropriate for first interest? And what is the most appropriate education about sex, from first interest?
What that is called is hyper-sexualization of children and it is happening at a young age. That's why the dress litte girls up as grown women for beauty contests.
I did not miss it.
What that is called is hyper-sexualization of children and it is happening at a young age. That's why the dress litte girls up as grown women for beauty contests.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: WarminIndy
What that is called is hyper-sexualization of children and it is happening at a young age. That's why the dress litte girls up as grown women for beauty contests.
I'm sure Annee can speak for herself, but I think it's interesting that you assume that this discussion is about rushing children into being sexual