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originally posted by: randyvs
a reply to: CirqueDeTruth
She sounds bitter and lonely. I hope she works her stuff out. Is she pretty set in her ways?
No Cirque there's nothing pretty about her. And she picks her personality
daily. She can cook and sometimes can be the sweetest person. the
next day make you regret every nice thing yousaid about her. By
revealing her intent behind her sweetness. One soon finds out that is
her only MO. Herself.
You can't very easily tell your wife who her friends can or can't be can you? Not without a wicked tongue lashing coming and possible whipping coming your way - I suspect.
No I could get away with it with out the whipping if I chose.
I just respect my wife enough not to choose that. I've even said
such things but with no enforcement behind it.
As we all know in our heart of hearts, people have been through some bizarre stuff and pain in their life, and that contributes to their emotional state and behavior. The way she treats people, is very likely the way one of her parents treated her. You know, to get some perspective and empathy. That's if she is set in her way. If her behavior is from the pain of divorce, mistrust, paranoia, or some other emotional trauma - well she should be in therapy.
Indeed, this is what will most likely keep us putting ourselves
in the belly of the calf so to speak. I have never been someone
who can totally crush another person. I'm just not built like that.
Thanks Cirque
Personally, I believe you'll be doing this lady a favour. Clearly others have bowed out of her life without explaining their reasons. This gives her an opportunity to face at least some of her undesirable behaviours and work on them for her own betterment
If you do go the film route, let me know how it goes!
My wife is all for going forward with this and you can consider
yourself completely involved now.
originally posted by: halfoldman
Well, if the situation needs to be a bit entertaining (which I wouldn't advise), why not get or innovate some costumes, and when she pitches again tell her you and your wife have converted to a strict version of Islam.
No more board-games, and no more booze.
No strange adult females in the house, unless she wants to become your second wife.
(OK, that's a bit risky.)
Add that you have new friends now, and cannot hang with infidels.
Then slam the door with an Arabic-sounding curse.
No more board-games, and no more booze.
Bolt the chair to the ground,
Actually, I've done it. You approach the person in a friendly way, smile, and say "Come here, I want to show you something." They follow on your heels, and you lead them straight to the door, which you open, motion for them to exit, and say "you have a good day". Close door. Game over.
originally posted by: randyvs
a reply to: ladyinwaiting
Actually, I've done it. You approach the person in a friendly way, smile, and say "Come here, I want to show you something." They follow on your heels, and you lead them straight to the door, which you open, motion for them to exit, and say "you have a good day". Close door. Game over.
My lady, you make that sound so easy. And knowing it is just that easy only
confuses me further.
Sigh. Yep, I recommend going with Brit's suggestion.