This Woman

If she were committed, THIS WOMAN by virtue of her toxic mannerisms
and completely vacant social skills alone and by no exaggeration, would
clearly and undeniably be, the most nightmarish human wrecking ball, to
the entire professional worlds of both psychology and psychiatry.

Simplistically speaking, because THIS WOMAN, can let no sentence go
uninterrupted. Even when she asks another person a question. She
interrupts, totally uninterested in the answer, with something she has
to say. Even if totally unrelated to the question, she herself just asked.
Unbelievably, this is true of how her mind is capable of moving ahead.
And I feel it's how she controls a conversation and indicates selective
intelligence.

My wife befriended THIS WOMAN, who most of the time plays dumb,
when we moved to where we are still today back in 2010. The immediate
nieghborhood being vacant of any kids her sons age, led my wife to take
him on walks around the block. Hoping to meet some other kids his age
and today, THIS WOMANS son, is my wifes sons best friend. And he is a
good and likeable kid who seems uneffected by his mothers disfigured
personality.


There you have the avenue by which this frieghtliner of a woman
ploughed her way into our lives. And as you would expect from a couple
who wish to follow Jesus Christ. And because of the friendship
between the two boys. We now have this manipulative, extraordinarally
smart only when it comes to getting her own way. THIS WOMAN, whom
we have tried to help, being careful of her feelings, is now a part of our
lives.

Indeed to reveal all that is true about this absolute horror of a human being.
THIS WOMAN, who lunges at her food, speaks with her mouth full. And who
fires food particle projectiles in any possible direction randomly. While
knowingly doing so, yet failing at even the slightest attempt to apprehend
herself from doing so repeatedly, time after time after time. To describe
all that has gone on with this obese atrocity that rates a church only by
the quality of food they give away.

THIS WOMAN, whos unwilling husband with a great paying job. And who
enables her a constantly jam packed full of food kitchen that would last
them months. And yet goes to church only for the food they give away.
Truly it would be better to conserve still vast amounts of the challenge
it is to remain THIS WOMANS friend for the course of the thread.

But hoping to keep this on the Above boards I pray the gray area is
the right choice of forums. Because I really want all the ATS information
and help I can get in relation to knowing someone like this. How do
you help somone who seemingly God himself couldn't help? Someone
who would drive a psychologist or psychiatrist right of their fricking
mind?

THIS WOMAN, a person who whines about not having any friends. And
yet has no quams at all about how she treats my wife. Criticizes and
insults my wifes husband to my wife. And who can't come to
our house ever and leave without first getting swacked on her ass
drunk. Then leaving in a rage because she lost a backgammon game
and was scoulded by my wife for THIS WOMANS insults. As she did again
just last night. Angrily laying on the horn in our driveway. and on and
on and on and on and I could easily keep going on on on on...........
Deplorable!

She is so lucky I have a good sense of humor and so am I.

Any help? Any advice?

a reply to: randyvs

Avoid social interaction or have that "heart to heart" talk.

a reply to: infolurker


advice ??

ya, ...cut her off.

.....and if your wife wont do it, simply make yourself scarce when she comes over.

your wife will inevitably end up picking you, and invite this woman less.

friendship goes too ways, cant complain too much.

a reply to: randyvs

I know someone like that. I feel for your situation, but does your wife want her around? If so, you can go somewhere else when this woman is around and avoid her. If your wife feels the same as you, then you should either break off the friendship and let your boys be friends or not, or resign yourself to the situation you have now. Because this woman isn't likely to break off a friendship with you seeing as how 'she has no friends' and you support her... personality handicap. It sounds miserable and I wouldn't put myself into a situation where I'd have to be social with her. I would just refuse. That's what I would do.

It sounds like she has some problems, if your very funny account of the situation is accurate.

a reply to: infolurker

My wife really is set on not giving up on her. Caring person
that she is and finding that most honorable. I have to support
that. But THIS WOMANS ability to interrupt makes any attempt
at a heart to heart frustrating and unbareble.

a reply to: randyvs

I grew up in a family of interruptors. Conversations were disconnected morass of people talking over each other. Maddening as hell. I later discovered this is part of narcissistic behavior by people who are self absorbed and arrogant.

There is nothing you can do to change a narcissist, that goal is hopeless. The only thing they care about is themselves the only value you have to them is how you can be useful to them.

As advice, just muse at it, excuse yourself from the conversation and if you can't, don't get sucked into their vortex.

They are so busy talking about themselves they won't even notice.

Sounds like my sister in law.

I have no problem being nice, accommodating and biting my tongue to avoid issues, but there comes a time when you have to stand-up for what you believe is right.

I've had to do that recently and even though a few people think I'm an asshole, my life is much better without the drama.

Just my opinion.....be honest.

a reply to: Benevolent Heretic

If so, you can go somewhere else

I remain in my man cave on ATS.
And last night it invited her to open
the door to my cave without knocking and
shout LOSER! As she was on her way to the
bathroom.

I was completely uneffected by this and it wasn't
given the slightest response. I just giggled.

There is something worthwhile in everyone, even if all we can learn is how we don't want to be.

At the very least, the son is seeing that not all families have to be like his own through contact with yours.

Randy? You don't by chance live in Washington state? My sister-in-law moved up there about 6 years ago. This woman u describe sounds Exactly like her lol.

a reply to: ketsuko

You are immensely popular with me right now.

a reply to: randyvs

I know it wasn't intended to be funny, but one can literaly read the foam dripping from your mouth, inbetween the lines.
Sincere condolences & Good Luck getting rid off her without a huge neighborhood shaking drama.

originally posted by: Quadrivium
Randy? You don't by chance live in Washington state? My sister-in-law moved up there about 6 years ago. This woman u describe sounds Exactly like her lol.

No we're in So Cal safe to say as she will never know
anything about my inquiry here.

originally posted by: Peeple
a reply to: randyvs

I know it wasn't intended to be funny, but one can literaly read the foam dripping from your mouth, inbetween the lines.
Sincere condolences & Good Luck getting rid off her without a huge neighborhood shaking drama.

You read with 20/20 vision my fellow member.
How funny.

a reply to: randyvs

Well to me it is, I don't know her.
But if you want a sincere advice: Tell her, in a calm polite way, you find her manners questionable and how you don't want the little ones exposed to such crass behaviour.
She will take it as offense first, no matter how careful you word it, but maybe she reflects a bit. Maybe she just thinks she is funny and doesn't know you consider her to be rude?

a reply to: randyvs
Disengage from that which is not beneficial or conductive to harmony. Specialy in your own home, your temple. Sooner or later its going to happen! For example, I love dogs but if someone brings their dog around and it urinate in my house, its my duty to impede entry. Good luck!

a reply to: randyvs

I don't think you have to do anything. From the sound of it, this woman has a pretty good life and is determined to try to be miserable. Nothing you can do to her worse than what she does to herself.

Whenever you encounter her, just think to yourself, "I am not married to that thing. When she goes home, I don't have to go with her." If that doesn't put a smile on your face, I don't know what will.

Oh my goodness, I'm not married but live with family, and although I have a huge tolerance for people having drinks and a good time, if anyone spouted abuse like "loser" at anyone, that person would be out the door.

I wouldn't even disengage, I'd tell them right out to get lost and never come back.
I'd call the cops to remove them if necessary.

As a Christian you're the man of the house, and I've seen enough crime programs where unstable people end up murdering others.
Get your wife on the same page, and kick her out, before she ensnares the situation more.

originally posted by: randyvs
I remain in my man cave on ATS.

Well, it's good you have an outlet.

And last night it invited her to open
the door to my cave without knocking and
shout LOSER! As she was on her way to the
bathroom.

If a woman ever did that to my husband, she'd be out the door. And I'm the one who would put her there.

originally posted by: VictorVonDoom
a reply to: randyvs

I don't think you have to do anything. From the sound of it, this woman has a pretty good life and is determined to try to be miserable. Nothing you can do to her worse than what she does to herself.

Whenever you encounter her, just think to yourself, "I am not married to that thing. When she goes home, I don't have to go with her." If that doesn't put a smile on your face, I don't know what will.

I have often said to her hubby, " You're a better man than me! "