posted on May, 16 2015 @ 11:46 PM
I am a transgender woman (meaning I was assigned a male body at birth but identify as female) I have a serious question for you. In light of some of
the transgender topics that have come up I have seen a lot of unacceptance, fear, and downright hatred towards us. Why is this?
My own family in real life has shunned me and do not accept me for coming out as transgender last year, and I am/was the 'good' kid in the family.
It has left me flabbergasted that of all my siblings who have been to prison, gotten DUIs and so on, I the transgender child am viewed as the absolute
worst. If I may make some things very clear:
-I do not have some agenda, nor do the transgender people I have come to know, I repeat THERE IS NO TRANSGENDER AGENDA! I suppose the only
"agenda" we have is to be treated like equal human beings. If there is some other agenda then I don't know about it.
-I am not mentally ill, confused, a sex offender, nor a pervert. Yes there are transgender people who do fit into these categories just like there are
for any other types of humans, because we are humans. Being transgender doesn't make one ill, or vice versa.
-I lead a normal life, I go to work 40 hours a week, I pay my taxes, I am happily married and I have hobbies. Granted not everybody is like this nor
is this a criteria for anything, but only to help you relate to me. In fact I have thoughts and feelings, dreams and nightmares, likes and dislikes
just as any other human would.
-This is not some recent thing that came up and I decided to go with, I have identified as a woman my entire life and brought this up to my family and
parents countless times before they shoved the "love and acceptance of Jesus Christ" down my throat to the point I hid who I was and suffered severe
depression of which today I still am fighting. Expressing my gender identify and feeling that acceptance helps me heal, or would you feel better if I
succumbed to my depression and killed myself because I made people uncomfortable?
-In addition to my above point, I am also a Christian but not a very typical one but more open minded. Transgender people aren't devil worshippers
trying to "destroy the foundation of family and home." We are human beings just the same as people of color, people who are queer, people who are
straight and are cisgender (identify with their assigned sex) and any other type of human being. We have spiritual needs just like any of you do.
-Yes I have worked harder than you know to "try and just be a guy" and try to take my churches and families advice, but denying who I really am in
attempt to keep up a facade only makes it worse. Being a woman and expressing this is what saved me, in addition to realizing that Jesus is and was on
my side all along. Yes the church is wrong in their assessment that transgender is a sin. (in my opinion)
-I am not trying to confuse the world or be a special snowflake, I am doing this only for the simple reason of existing in peace. I would rather not
have to go this path, I would rather not have to literally stand up among my family, friends, coworkers and even you people of ATS and feel like I
have fight just for the right to exist. For those of you who are cisgender, when did you ever have to fight for the right to identify as the gender
-40% or higher of transgender people who attempt suicide, a higher percentage of transgender women (especially of color) are murdered. We have
discrimination in the workplace, in social life and even in the media. We are the next civil rights movement and I hope you know what side you are on.
This is a real condition and struggle for us, this isn't asking something ridiculous as though you should accept us as giraffes or unicorns etc. We
are only asking to be accepted as opposite to the gender we were assigned at birth. (and anything in between for those who are genderqueer/fluid)
So again, I am not some criminal, nor some deviant with a hidden agenda, in fact I would like to meet you face to face so you can see with your own
two eyes what a transgender woman looks like, and realize I am just as human as you and then ask what do you hate or cannot accept about me? If you
are only here to spew bigotry then dont even bother answering, you only make it clear that you are a neanderthal and eventually you and your breed
will die off. But if there is some valid unseen fear or worry or concern that is truly unique to trans people, I want to know it. I dont believe there
is anything truly fundamentally different about trans people than from cisgender people that would make us less human.
I do not claim to be the spokeswoman for Transgender people, only that I have been part of ATS for years and have vented all kinds of frustrations and
rants on here but this is something that really strikes my heart. I hate seeing the ignorance and hatred from a site that supposedly refutes
ignorance. I know most days I feel like people just want me to go away and die, but we are not going away, we have been around since the dawn of
humanity and will continue to be around. We are your Mothers, Fathers, Sons, Daughters and so on.
Lastly, if you are not transgender/genderqueer then don't comment like you can understand these struggles, becasue they are real and just like I
can't comment on the struggles of certain things, it doesn't mean they don't exist or I shouldn't care.
That is all.