a reply to: Midnight13
I'm writing to you as a mother of four. Three grown daughters one 16 1/2 year old son. Let me just lay down a tad bit of their background. I'll name
each child as numbers 1-4 with one being the oldest and four being the youngest.
Came back into my life at age 16 after I hunted her down. Her grandmother ran off with her while I was at college.
There's years that we missed, but I encouraged her to go to college just as I did. She's just now graduating after a 7 year bid in college with a BS
in chemistry and who'll be 25 in June. Hell, had that been in my collegiate days, I would have had 3 degrees after 7 years. She went to a Cal State
institution where the tuition more than tripled since she began and classes were cut. She insisted on caring for herself while a student, so she
worked at an elementary school until her 6th year when she had to resign so she could get the classes she needed to graduate. Her work schedule and
school schedule made it impossible for her to do both successfully. To this very day, she feels like she let hundreds of middle school aged children
down by leaving. She wants to be a Principal of a middle school one day. In a matter of weeks, she'll be back in Los Angeles looking for work as an
educator. Right now she's a bartender at Applebee's
However, she did need a couple of degrees to follow her pursuit of being an educator. So sometimes and often a college degree is necessary depending
on what you want to do. Discipline is a must completing college, it's not easy and it's even more difficult and incredibly expensive even at a state
level if you're paying for it on your own (which #1 is not she has us). That however, should not deter you if you know you need a degree to do what
you want with your future and to secure your financial future.
#2 Didn't go to college at all, but was accepted to over 20 schools nationally. Some offered full rides and some did not. She was also an incredible
athlete as she ran track. Instead she opted for Vocational training as a cosmetologist, quit school because she wanted to live on her own. Found a job
working as a Bud Tender at a Medical Marijuana Dispensary 3 years ago. That dispensary has now opened up 3 stores which she manages all three and
makes well over $8,000 a month. She's doing incredibly well for a 23 year old. Has since bought her own condo, financed 2 cars since she was 20 and
pretty much is enjoying life her way. #2 had all the options available to her to go to whatever college she wanted. She told us that college just
isn't for her...so screw it. She's working on her personal stylist business here in Los Angeles and it's going quite well. The only problem is, is
that she spends most of her time working 12 hour days 5 days a week. She depends on no one and has a very large bank account.
#3 Went off to Temple University, majored in bio-chemistry finished 3 years and said "what the hell am I doing, this is costing you guys a ton of
money and I'm coming home". #3 just returned home in January after being laid off from a very very good job doing medical sales for a huge company
that flew her all over the US selling their products. With only 1 semester of school left to obtain her BS. She said "screw it, this is insane and for
now, I'm done". She's now working for a huge corp selling their crap (I seriously disprove of this corp). Nonetheless, she lives with #2 and she's
doing well and promises herself she'll return to school just to get that Doctorates degree to prove a point to herself but at her pace.
#4 My son who graduates in 2016 just doesn't seem to know what he wants to do
He sure as hell plays a lot of video games though. So I advised
him to start his own game company where he can create characters and write story lines for new games. He's an incredibly gifted writer and very
intellectual...very opinionated indeed. Instead he shows most interest in wanting the collegiate experience and wants to start his own food delivery
service while in college making his "Special Sandwhiches", which are exceptionally awesome! Not sure which way he'll go, but whatever he decides, his
father and I will back him. He doesn't want to leave the west coast however and is considering North Cali or the Pacific Northwest as his next new
home for learning. My son is a truly gifted writer and strategist. Hell, I even ask my kid for advice more so than anyone else. As a matter of fact, I
find myself asking my children for advice before just about anyone...except child #1. She just seems so attached and lost
So, in closing it is my sole opinion that unless you do what makes you happy...nothing will make you happy. However, you must try, try and try again
until you find what's right for you. It's a trial and error type of deal life is and you just never know what you're going to get until
Whatever it is that you see yourself doing I say go for that immediately. I'm by no means putting a formal collegiate education down BUT, I am saying
that it's not for everyone. College nowadays is not looking out for you. These institutions along with the Dept. of Education are looking for you if
you're willing to rack up debt. Unless, of course you come from one of those families who has endless funds to pay for it. Then maybe, who cares just
spend Mom and/or Dads money up as "you" see fit.
By the way, my two eldest children have two different fathers as well. #2 Has a very famous father (singer) who drops her money in her bank account
without her ever asking. As a matter of fact, she dislikes him very much and always sends his money back. #1's father is broker than a joke and
graduated from Indiana University with a degree in Science and never has any money to assist her with.
You need to do some soul searching and do what you think is best for you. Guidance from someone who's been there done that wouldn't hurt either.
There's a reason the world is full of entrepreneurs. Some successful some not so much, but they all tried.
My entire family are made up of entrepreneurs. Myself, primarily because I don't like to be told what to do, having someone breathing down make neck
and I have a bad temper. I have 2 degrees, worked at the CDC as an intern and even went to volunteer for the Peace Corps after college. I've worked
for 2 of the prior biggest corps in the world when in 1997 just before my son was born I said "# it, I'm done with getting stepped on". That was my
interpretation of work and professional gratification at that time. I experienced depression, setbacks, collection notices being delivered via USPS
for years until I found my calling. I can't tell you what I do as I'm fearful of ATS T&C's, but it's similar to what daughter #2 does only, I
manufacture legally and I love what I do as my company assists tens of thousands of people
Just find your calling fearless of what others think of you. All you can do is be you right? So be you and be happy with being you and always hold
your head up high while you're being you
I've been a little lofty here, but I hope I haven't sent the wrong message. If you're wanting to be a professional you'll need a professionals degree
and that costs money...college/university money. Either pay for it or figure on something else, maybe such as a trade or vocational skill. You can
always private message me if you'd like.
The Best of Luck to You,
edit on 5/19/15 by ThePublicEnemyNo1 because: spelling