a reply to: Layaly
Well, my oldest died in 2005 as a result of a drug overdose. My youngest lives with me now, she is 23, and has blessed me with a granddaughter and
grandson. I have explained things in detail to them including all the police reports. It was a bit hard to do, as she is their mother. However, after
the fact they could see it all themselves. The whole thing they lived through and it was the reason I believe my daughter overdosed. She just couldn't
handle everything. My youngest was suicidal herself after her sister died at 15 in 2005. I am a bit over protective from life experience. So, I try to
talk to her as much as she is willing. We have had very long in depth talks about the whole thing since she has grown up into a full grown woman now.
As I said before, it is hard to grasp it all when you don't think like one. I think my daughter had a hard time with that, i.e. not being able to
think like that.
I realize I could save someone from her. I actually tried that once and almost got into it with one of her boyfriends. All I was doing was warning
him. He didn't see it like me. It cost him his law enforcement career in the Navy. And that just brings you back into their sights for trying to
interfere in their relationships. Not a good idea with a sociopath. All I can do is be prepared and do my best to make sure the family is careful,
like my daughter. Mainly imho, from manipulation because I don't think she would harm her daughter. She has continued committing an array of crimes
and it has only got worse because she no longer fears prison.
I actually tried to get a warning put in law enforcement computers as to her when they pull up her record. The reason is I wanted them to be aware
that if something happened that they need to look a little deeper into the issue because she is so deceptive and dangerous. I seemed to be rebuffed in
those efforts, however later an officer told me they were all aware of her. I don't know if it was because of dealing with her and her crimes or they
eventually did put some warning in there. For example, people that have concealed carry licenses a warning pops up showing they are probably armed. It
is just good information to know before you deal with someone imho anyway. I feel the same way about her, but more on investigations after the fact.
She is a beautiful woman and men are often to willing to overlook things for some reason. For example, she actually went out with a fire fighter that
came and got me from the scene when I was shot years afterwards when she got out and he didn't even realize who she was. Fortunately, his colleagues
did and ended it in a matter of a few days.
And I don't joke about her. I only post this stuff so it may possibly save someone dealing with someone like her. I can't be running around worrying
who she may encounter and deal with. She has lived in several states since getting out of prison as well. It is a sad state of affairs. Being a fellow
CT'er I don't like to say you should run a background check on someone before you get too seriously involved with someone on a personal relationship
basis, but I don't know any other way for someone to figure out they are with an extremely dangerous person without it. Even then, some have never
been caught doing wrong and the background check would not help you. Now the background check pulls in like 17 social media accounts from different
social media like FB, MySpace, etc. You may be able to divine something with that. She was on FB once and my nephew had posted something about country
girls will shoot you and she came there and was posting. Nephew called her 'shooter' and she had no problem admitting she did it. Heck, she told lots
of people. I know because the family has had out of state calls from other guys family members trying to find out if she really did that. Why she says
that is beyond me. Perhaps in some way she is using it for some other end like scaring people in order to manipulate them somehow.
Oh, I almost forgot. My own mother did not tell me about 3 years into our marriage that she could shoot me any time and get away with it. I only found
out after everything happened and my family was irate she never said anything. My mother said she didn't want to start some big fight between the
families, although she wish she had. Talk about jaw on the floor moment! So, there are things that I look back on and say there were warning signs.
Perhaps I didn't know of them though. And, she did not ever try to harm me while married. It was 7 years after our divorce. The theory is she thought
that due to my job they would not be able to determine who shot me and she would get custody of the girls back. She could not do it in court no matter
how many times she and her family tried and no matter what lies they told. I think it was an act of desperation on a sociopaths level. My daughters
were 9 and 11 then.
edit on 10/5/15 by spirit_horse because: typos