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originally posted by: quantumist
Shame is wired into our brains as an evolutionary safeguard for maintaining social cohesion. Only psychopaths are completely free from it. And experiences in life can strengthen the shame pathways strongly.
However, we have been given the power to change our brains and minds, but it requires time, effort, concentration and meditation. To gain freedom from shame, one should focus on it, trying to see it as it truly is, when it is seen, accept it, and then let it go. It will never be permanently gone, but when it is let go once, the process becomes far easier. It is a game of perspective. Once you realize your place in the universe(you are very small) you realize shame has no power, after all it's is a lower feeling of a very small being, and therefore has no power in the grand scheme of things.
originally posted by: ImaFungi
a reply to: Bluesma
When I first read this;
"Had a bit to drink at my brothers wedding, and some French type humor came out, but all it did was piss off my cousin, who didn’t “get” it."
I wanted to ask but I didnt, and now being back on this thread I am so curious if you wouldnt mind saying, what type of humor occured, or can you share what are the things you said and did? Please dont be ashamed to say
"I feel powerful when I have reined in my own drives to dominate others, to fulfill my own appetites at the expense of others."
Give some examples please, purely for my curiosities sake.
I don't know why I feel shame.
originally posted by: DAZ21
Shame is pretty basic to understand really.
Shame is what we feel when we are inadequate or fail in some manner.
Now if we use the common phrase, 'survival of the fittest' It should start to be self explanatory.
If one is incapable of meeting a required mark set by a multitude of individuals, then one feels shame.
It's basically a failure of the individual to meet the requirements of human nature, which is why it's so strong.
These feelings can then be used to empower the individual, until they overcome that which caused them shame.
Shame just comes from hanging out in the past. Actually, once you've survived something, it's done, over, you've learned all you need to learn from it. Shame is like that luscious place of victimhood that so many of us love to revel in.
Once you've realized what's done really is done, your shame will evaporate. It's easier said than done, because we are so programmed to chew on something, anything .... once you get past the void of not feeling like a victim, you start to see how our whole life is a fun movie directed only by us.
Choose more, do less
originally posted by: MimiSia
a reply to: ImaFungi
I always have this quote in mind
there is always truth in jest..
70% of the things u joke about is really what u think
originally posted by: MimiSia
if I combine that with other posts I read from bluesma now I picture the person like at least six people in one bundle