posted on Apr, 30 2015 @ 01:56 PM
a reply to: Baddogma
or you can ask for an unrealistic level of unnatural cultural, romantic effort that one in twenty might posses... it all depends on honesty with self
and expectation... after a few years romanticism tends to get quietly taken out back and shot... unless one is really lucky, that is.
I think it is planning not luck and especially honesty. People need to be very very careful that any possible mate is aware of each others needs and
deepest dislikes, dreams, hopes and desires. They need to be sure that the person they meet is not pretending to like what you do in order to get to
the sex part of the relationship so you have to go slow and leave that part of compatibility for last. people get tired of trying to pretend after a
while of not getting what they are really after.
Personally I dated anyone who asked and ask many myself with no physical or other requirement ahead, many times we are unaware of our true needs and
the possible soul mate may be someone you have no idea you would love.
Other than this it is clear that the first years of even the best marriages like ones I know that are in their 40-50 years have it rough the first 3
years or so. People will have adjusting to do to live with another person no matter how compatible. My husband and I once had a fight over a potted
plant (his) lol...I mean a major fight not long after he moved in with me.
After 7 years things get better and better and people who are truly compatible grow closer and closer.
We love the same movies, we grow flowers and vegetables together we love the animals and feed the birds and sing together, we read ATS and and talk
talk talk together and drive miles to lay out and watch the stars. We are best friends.