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originally posted by: American-philosopher
a reply to: tridentblue
again that's obvious. but lets put the same sex couple and opposite sex couple on the same playing field and say that they have no criminal background and income level is the same and all that. what situation is the best??
#3. Single-Parent And Blended Families Were Always Normal
All that divorce and dying meant that people found themselves in their 20s and 30s, single, and looking to bone someone new. While sex outside of marriage was always going on, most people wanted to get married again so that their dick supply was on tap, if you will. And since those first marriages had often produced children, this meant that blended families were totally common.
In fact, they may have been the norm. Some historians think that stepparents and stepsiblings were almost more common than original families in the late medieval period. Even third marriages weren't strange, and stepchildren were considered as much a person's kids as their own biological ones. This doesn't mean that all remarriages went swimmingly, of course. The "wicked stepmother" trope goes back to at least Ancient Rome.
But before those parents chose to remarry, or if they never did, children would find themselves being raised by a single parent. This is another supposedly "modern" development that is going to ruin the next generation. And in the gay marriage fight, this has taken on a new angle. Apparently, all kids need to be raised by both a mother and a father, or they will be forever #ed up. According to these arguments, a single parent, and certainly two same-sex parents, can never provide an appropriate home for their offspring like a mother and father.
The thing is, in the old days you would count yourself lucky if you managed to reach adulthood with both of your parents still alive and kicking. Even up to 1900, a quarter of children would lose a parent before they turned 15. And in the 1950s, those halcyon days of supposedly perfect families? Between divorce, death, and sex outside of marriage, 22 percent of kids were still being raised by a single parent. If being raised by one gender ruins children, our ancestors were screwed.
originally posted by: American-philosopher
alright What does everybody say is the BEST not only situation/scenario for a child to grow up in??
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
a reply to: American-philosopher
The best situation is to have a mother and a father...A child should grow up in a normal household IMO....Please don't argue and tell me father and father or mother and mother is a normal situation either because it isn't...Kids will be asked by friends at school why they have 2 daddys or 2 mommies and it will make a child not only feel uncomfortable but questioning his childhood for being completely different! This can cause a child much stress and anxiety for not feeling like they fit in...
School and kids have a hard enough time growing up without having difficult situations about their parents...
But this again, you said "ideal", not saying that same sex couples can't have a child in an "ideal" circumstance, but you said ideal and that is my opinion on the topic....Thanks!
originally posted by: Gully
a reply to: American-philosopher
Mom & Dad. One of which stays at home.
Involved Grandparents.
Siblings/cousins/lots of friends to interact with.
Child has opportunity to participate in activities outside of school (library programs, scouting, etc.)
Quality of education is important and I would encourage people to move if that's what it takes to get their child in a good school.
Just my thoughts off the top of my head.
originally posted by: LadyGreenEyes
a reply to: American-philosopher
The best situation is to be with the biological mother and father, whoa re loving and caring and concerned for their child. There are studies around (no, I don't have links) that show this is the case. Divorce hurts, single parenting hurts, and non-traditional situations hurt. I am saying that as someone who was a single mom for some years.