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originally posted by: American-philosopher
a reply to: corvuscorrax
So is basically what your saying is two parents are better then one?
originally posted by: tridentblue
a reply to: American-philosopher
I talked to a friend in who is a social worker working with adoption about this very question, and she said its an interesting question, but actually does't play in. All parents are not ideal, and those who want to adopt are limited. If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
originally posted by: tridentblue
a reply to: American-philosopher
I talked to a friend in who is a social worker working with adoption about this very question, and she said its an interesting question, but actually does't play in. All parents are not ideal, and those who want to adopt are limited. If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
Can I ask something without a fight here?
Why would you say that different sex parents are "more likely to abuse"? Or "more likely to have criminal backround or alcohol problems"?
I don't understand why this comes up all the time in this discussion about gay parents...Are gays saying that gay couples will not abuse children or have drinking/drug issues? If that is the case, then gays must have mental health issues or possibly a disease to have them not act like other humans whom are not gay...(I mean no disrespect or anything argumentative here, just asking why this part comes up in these discussions?)
OP, I appreciate you saying your single mother was excellent and I don't doubt that because I have friends with single parents who did awesome with them as well, but my opinion is just that having 2 parents (ideally a mother and father) who love and care very much for their child is the ideal situation for a child.
If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
a reply to: corvuscorrax
If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
Intent? "If you have a choice?" "MIGHT??" "Less likely??" Please read it again and understand what I am saying...Then answer again please...What you said clearly is not what he said here...
originally posted by: corvuscorrax
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
a reply to: corvuscorrax
If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
Intent? "If you have a choice?" "MIGHT??" "Less likely??" Please read it again and understand what I am saying...Then answer again please...What you said clearly is not what he said here...
Okay I'll try again
The MIGHT applies that the child MIGHT be at a higher risk to be abused because the couple ALREADY HAS A CRIMINAL RECORD AND ALCOHOLIC TENDENCIES.
If you still would take a risk on the straight couple well then I guess you really don't like gay people eh?
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
originally posted by: corvuscorrax
originally posted by: Chrisfishenstein
a reply to: corvuscorrax
If you have a choice between a same sex couple with no problems who aren't likely to abuse, and a different sex couple with factors saying they might (like criminal background, alcohol problems) the kid will be better with the couple who are less likely to abuse.
Intent? "If you have a choice?" "MIGHT??" "Less likely??" Please read it again and understand what I am saying...Then answer again please...What you said clearly is not what he said here...
Okay I'll try again
The MIGHT applies that the child MIGHT be at a higher risk to be abused because the couple ALREADY HAS A CRIMINAL RECORD AND ALCOHOLIC TENDENCIES.
If you still would take a risk on the straight couple well then I guess you really don't like gay people eh?
And now you missed my question....It's okay, it wasn't intended for you anyways...
Anywho...There are many parents both traditional and gay who raise a child properly with much love and care, and we will also always have the d-bag parents that shouldn't have a child in the first place! No matter what anyone says about who is proper to have a child just needs to have a child for themselves and do their level best to be the best, loving, caring parent you can be! I have a daughter with my wife and we love this little angel so much I have no idea how parents could see a child as anything but a blessing! Not only that, a challenge to prove that you can be the best parent you can be, and to raise your child with love and passion to see him/her grow up to be a great adult one day!