a reply to: deadlyhope
Seems to me that people around the world may have it worse right now, that's possible. The folks over in Nepal at the moment, who are under their
houses, or mourning generations of their family right now have to be hurting, for example.
But you have to understand that some people on the planet have it bad because there is little to no help available to remedy their troubles. That
need not necessarily be the case with you. Its a damned shame that relief efforts are so slow in the aftermath of the various cataclysms which befall
mankind in remote areas. But you are not up in the Himalayas right now, nor are you stuck out in the dunes of the Sahara. You are not thousands upon
thousands of miles from the nearest effective balm for your woes, and those of your loved ones.
So yes, its terrible that things happen every day that no one can prevent, or mitigate for in any meaningful way, but you must recognise that if
there is a route you can take to getting assistance, then you MUST seize upon it, and the reason that you must do this is simple. Assuming you live in
a developed western nation, there are mechanisms that one can put into motion, both governmental, and indeed crowd sourced, which could see your
troubles mitigated, and these systems exist because people saw suffering and thought it was shameful to allow people to go on through life with such
things pressing upon them, holding them down, drowning them in hardship and sorrow. People created methodologies and institutions to try to help do
everything, from dealing with homelessness, to coping with disabilities, from getting off drink, to dealing with mental health issues.
Now, granted, no system is perfect, and certainly no system attached to government. But there are options available to you outside of that too. Kick
starters, crowd funding, these are good routes to getting improvements made to lives lived hard.
I can understand your being proud never to have asked for help. Self sufficiency is something to be proud of after all! But the reality which assails
you at present, would appear to represent a good reason to step outside your pride and seek aid. Whether you seek it from your local, state, or
federal government, or from the wider population of the whole planet, through the omnipotence of the internet, it is clear that you need the help, and
that not having it will damage you.
Look at it this way. Those who cannot access aid will not have their circumstances improved by your failing to access what aid may be out there for
you. Once you have secured improvements to the circumstances in which your loved ones are living, perhaps rather than avoid the aid entirely, you
ought to get what you can from it, and pay it forward, so to speak (Bleh, sappy movie reference. I am going to have to clean my teeth
No matter what you do end up doing, never think that you are obligated to suffer alone, or to suffer needlessly. No one bought you up to do that, or
to allow another to do so, if the capacity exists to relieve their pains.