posted on Jun, 28 2015 @ 09:23 PM
a reply to: Night Star
I think that the causes here are a combination of things. First, he subconsciously realises the importance of upcoming events, and intensely dislikes
change. He is a big fan of routines.
Second, he is too much a fan of his own space, values it intensely. His brothers coming in to his room has meant that things of his have become
wrecked before apparently. He does not yet understand the total unimportance of the material things in life, despite his relative intelligence. These
things can take time I suppose. In any case, it seems that territorial invasion is something which he reacts badly to. I suppose it could be a
decompression problem. Spending his weeks surrounded by other kids in class rooms is not Ashley's idea of a safe learning environment after all, but
he has no choice about that, and may feel that the time he spends at home, is time he wants to spend alone with his data, with YouTube, with the
internet or games.
Either way, I have had a very serious word with him. I told him that I was very angry and disappointed with him, that after my talking to him last
week, he would continue to be a bugger to his mother, let alone get WORSE!
I made him come down to the park and use the exercise machines there, because his mother had been trying to get him to walk around the block, and he
had refused. We worked out for an hour, and then walked home to my place, ate dinner with my mother and a couple of family friends, and then I sat him
down on the couch with pencil and pad, and we drew, just drew the entire time. He kept saying "Can I use the iPad to learn how to..."
Every time he did, I told him no. After the fifth time, I told him that this was just going to be another month before he got his guitar, and another
month on top of that if he complained. He will get the idea eventually. I intend to keep this up next week if things have not improved. It will be a
Zero Fun household when he is around, until he behaves for his mother.