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I got them into marshal arts, sports like boxing,
...ways in which they will learn to use that force and master it- so that a moment where a push or a slap is used, they won’t “lose it” and go overboard. Their brain will stay in charge, as it has learned not to run when the thunder from inside comes.
I think you are right to funnel the violence of your boys into something beautiful and artful such as martial arts,
How does that make sense? "Something beautiful and artful as martial arts"?
In application it's only "beautiful and artful" when difference in skill, skill at violence, is vastly different between fighters.
So, what then? An "artful and beautiful" bully is just another variety of bully and it still won't result in the life-changing qualities that the OP thinks it will.
originally posted by: Bybyots
Those are two totally different things, and it's a myth that the first leads to the second. The second thing cannot really be found in sports or MA, it's a lie.
The only way to totally let go of violence is to totally let go of violence. And then you walk around unarmed. But for sure, you are not going to be able to transmute "repressed feelings of violence" by training violence.
The french have a saying I found thought provoking the first time I heard it, "to do violence against myself".
What it is used to describe is to counter,or clash against, your own fears, principles or most base ideas.
To question your fundamental precepts about reality or yourself, or your own fears and limits. It is experienced inside as a sort of violent impact. This is often used in contexts of artistic expression.
From past knowledge of your posts here, I am guessing you get exactly what that is, and like me, rather enjoy pushing your limits that way!