posted on Mar, 29 2015 @ 02:00 AM
In a general manner, I will tend to respond to the posts rather than the poster - which means I will disagree with one, agree and support another,
even if they are written by the same person.
It has happened here, once, that repeated run-ins with the same person who repeatedly resorted to personal insults started to irritate me and caused
me to notice his name on posts before I read them- and so didn't read them anymore.
I think part of the problem is that we don't have the person in front of us, and our idea of who we are talking with is only the written word - they
ARE those words. If we don't like the words, we think we don't like the person; if they use a word that has an emotional charge for us, we feel that
emotion is about the person.
In one discussion, which I have found very interesting and constructive for myself, the person had a habit of using language which would rub me the
wrong way, and i had to be very vigilant against that irritation being transfered onto the person.
At one point I just said it frankly- These words used in reference to this subject have a negative effect on me, if I start to sound bitchy, please
forgive me and know it is not directed towards you personally! Because obviously, if i was continuuing to engage in the discussion, it was because I
value the interaction, and the other persons active part in it, we're just approaching concepts that might be touchy for me. (and that is a good
thing, in my mind challenging my bias's and thought patterns is part of being a good sceptic!)
But I sometimes get the feeling that many are so focused on trying to hold a discussion, even an argument, without any emotion, like a robot, that if
any emotions start to creep in, they don't want to admit that outloud.
I figure it is sometimes unavoidable, and they can be better mastered if you just own it, and are honest about it, to avoid them going into subversive
occult mode -where they will be influencing what you say, but you are unaware of it, claiming you are purely rational, and in fact, you are not.