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originally posted by: InfinityandBeyond
Yes I've considered a lawyer. But money is a constant road block. Custody is the least I'm concerned with; I just want to live without having her tell me what to do and keep my daughter from me as if she's teaching me a lesson. If you feel I shouldn't have posted this in a "Relationships" forum because this is a conspiracy website, I hope you are also hanging out in the pets forums saying the same thing, what with the conspiracy with pets and all.
Thank you however for the replies.
originally posted by: hopenotfeariswhatweneed
a reply to: InfinityandBeyond
Tough situation i have been through similar myself.....as other have mentioned speak to a lawyer and the advice you get should be sound.....just make sure you go to a lawyer with family law background and experience ....
If you go to court you will get access to your daughter via a court order..........that much is certain as the court does not care for your or your ex's situation...it is about the child and what is best for her and the ruling that is decided will be relative to that......your little girl has the right to spend time with both parents
Now if you can avoid court and come to an agreement together both of your lives will be much easier and there will be less stress for the little one...sadly this is not always achievable as was the case with my ex,my daughter was also used a peon and still is...i am in the process of taking her back to court for the 3rd time as she does not adhere to the court orders and i havent seen my daughter in 18 months as a result...i can tell you first hand that it is gut wrenching and heartbreaking.....my little girl means the world to me and i will fight for her tooth and nail....my daughter is 10 now and this has been going on since she was 2......
I am clearly retarded because after all that i decided to have another child with another mad woman and lo and behold more dramas...on the upside i have full custody of my son now and that helps with the pain of not seeing my daughter,but i will see her again soon all i have to do is remain calm and collected and go through the motions....
Best advice i can give you is never ever put your ex down in front of the child...even if the ex is putting you down....just wear it...never ever show negative emotions to your child about her mother it will cause insecurity and resentment ...... good luck i hope it works out for you