posted on Mar, 16 2015 @ 08:30 PM
Thank you to those of you who take the time to read this and possibly reply...I'm curious as to what a court would rule if she or I ever took one
another to a family court? Here's some background information...
So before Christmas, my ex (who I was with 4 years) kicked me out and ended our relationship. Long story short I couldn't commit to a 24 year old
woman with no license, no motivation to get a vehicle, lack of communication and an extreme sense of irrationality...etc.
I'm living in a constant strain of lack of sleep, walking on glass as to not upset the rule maker (ex) and hoping I don't cross the line to anger
her and have her use our daughter against me. Her and I both work opposite shifts. This way I am able to have my daughter during the day, and my ex
has her at night. We each have her every other weekend (all per her rules). This works out great. What I am tired of is the extreme lack of respect
(even though she says she has it for me) and the constant pressure of not being able to have an adult conversation with her. I work 'til midnight 6
days a week. I get home about 12:30am. Fall asleep (hopefully) by 1:30am. Wake up at 6am to get to her house so she can leave for work, then if I'm
lucky, sleep another hour or two on her couch until our daughter wakes up. I absolutely hate doing this, but I suggested other ways of dealing with
this and instead my ex gets furious and tells me I need to let her sleep. Alright. Fine.
What I absolutely can not deal with is how my ex treats me. She tells me what to do. She gets mandated at work sometimes (forced to work in case of
a call off) so then it's my responsibility to keep my daughter and miss 8 hours worth of overtime, which currently, keeps my car (the only source of
transportation as she doesn't drive) driveable, and me in a home and food for my daughter and I to eat. I get called immature, childish, that I'll
never grow up. She doesn't believe me when I told her this childish attitude is why we would never have gotten married. It will never change. Every
mean word she calls me almost exactly describes who she is as a person. I would pay around 600$ a month just for insurance and my vehicle...so she
would pay rent which was $650. I got yelled at and was told I should pay half since I live there too...but my car was ONLY my responsibility even
though it was used for both of us...gives you an idea of her lack of rationality and money smarts.
Like I said earlier I have my daughter 50% of the time. More than that as I take my daughter on her mothers weekends, so her mother can go be with
friends, or go on a date with her new boyfriend (who she loves and plans on getting married to 2 months in). Since I'm the only one with a vehicle, I
take her to a toddler school 15 minutes away, 8 times a month. I end up sleeping in my car for 2 hours to not use gas and to help catch up on sleep. I
take my ex's rent money for her to get paid as she can't ever find a ride to do it (where's her boyfriend?). I try real hard to be civil as I feel
I'm getting stepped on and treated only as a baby sitter and a convenience, there is no respect. If we were to go to a family court, what could I
expect? Can anything I've said (texts can prove it) be used for placement? Honestly all I really want is to not be told what to do anymore, and keep
it so my ex can't use my daughter against me and keep me from seeing her. I have a college degree. I own my car. Have an amazingly fun and enjoyable
job. Share an apartment with a guy I work with. Would I still get ruled against?