He could be angry that you went away for a while - it would seem like a really long time to him, and it would break all his "rituals" or "routines"
that he had about you being there and that is pretty overwhelming to kids with autism, from what I understand (my boy has severe autism). The new
pattern being established is one where he feels angry at you. Breaking that is going to be hard but I have an idea that might work.
Try getting a relative to do a simple social story with him. Use pictures to make a booklet of "People that love ____" (fill in his name).
Have a relative he is currently attached to go through each picture and say "Mommy loves ____". "Daddy loves ___" - go through several people, and
include you, "Uncle ____ loves ____" and make you part of the total group that he is attached to now. Perhaps show a picture of him with these people
who love him. Finish the story with a group photo that includes you in the group as well as others from the booklet.
It communicates that you not only love him, just like the others he is currently attached to, but that loving you doesn't mean he gives up the new
people he's attached to - that he doesn't have to go back to "just you and him" because that might be the sticking point. His world has expanded and
he likes it - he doesn't want to go back to not being attached to everyone else - he needs to know you can be included in his new expansion, and that
you aren't going to take him away from everyone else. Now this is making a big assumption that he is feeling/thinking this way. In any case, he will
get a wonderful book to look at! (Argh - I'm reading this, and I'm realizing it might be off base - but in any case, this is a still a powerful tool
and good reinforcement that he is loved. I am looking at two things 1) him being angry and feeling his world rocked when you went away, and 2) the
result of that anxiety was to reach out to new people to escape that "bad feeling" and now the "bad feeling" is associated entirely with you.)
I'm running a lot on intuition here combined with what I've learned in working with my son. I hope it is helpful, though I'm making a lot of
assumptions here as to what he might be thinking. It might be worth a try though...
ETA
Story based communication works very well with some kids - you mentioned he'd been watching a lot of TV lately too. If his favorite character ever
got mad and had to forgive someone, or something like that, it might be good to talk to him in terms of "just like ___ forgave and hugged ___, (use
his name) forgive and hug Uncle ___."
peace and good luck - I hope you will be hugging that little guy soon!!!
- AB
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