Well, individuals vary, all things can be found in all genders, I realize this is talking about a majority count; generalization. So any person could
not relate to a generalization.
But I personally find there is truth in this conclusion. Men tend to have their own concerns, goals and intents higher in focus than most women.
Women often have more empathic urges which make distinction between their own concerns, goals and intents and those of others, rather weak. Being
aware of anothers desires or preferences can cause them to easily identify with the same, as if it were their own. (and just as easily project their
own desires or preferences upon others).
That said, this is what I find complimentary between them. I'm pragmatic that way.
Self awareness is very useful and so is other-awareness. Each only gets to be problematic when it is at an extreme and unbalanced.
I have found that my relationship with my mate has been constructive for us both in that area-
when he spontaneously makes a judgement based only upon his individual experience, view, and intents, I speak up and remind- wait, think of the
other... I help him put himself in their shoes, and then be able to deliberate a choice or judgement which takes that into account too.
When I get so lost in trying to fulfil the needs and intents of others, I lose my self, he is there to say- wait, think of you! Who R U ?????? and I
can better try to find choices which take that into account too.
So yeah- men are good at that, women are good at something else, and great things happen when we mix it together!
ETA- and it is my husband who has a passion for shoes and clothing, and takes up all the room in the closet. I don't really get into looks that much.
But the little that I do, I find it to be an activity of individual creative expression- I choose forms and colors which express what I am feeling
each day, bringing what is inside, out. It allows me to feel "integral" that my perception of me and the way others perceive me, approach similarity.
My husband, however, seems to enjoy the regard of others, the admiration, the attention he can draw, (no matter whether the look is expressive of his
internal state or not). He is more likely to dress very colorfully and flamboyantly especially when he feels drab inside, because he is aware that the
regard of others is a formidable force in manipulating his interior state! If he feels "blah", but others are reacting to him as if he is "Wow!" it
makes his mood change, and he becomes "Wow!" inside. I don't think that is so bad or stupid!
-I just prefer embracing whatever is occuring in me, and others can deal with it... or not. Their choice.
edit on 6-3-2015 by Bluesma
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