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originally posted by: Look2theSacredHeart
This sounds like emotional abuse, plain and simple. I will pray for R.
The only thing I can think of is that she can reinforce her boundaries with the "broken record" technique. If you repeat the same thing, over and over, when people try to argue with you, it is like silver or garlic to vampires.
originally posted by: ketsuko
Sounds like this is a family that needs to sort of reform around the two problem sisters.
Start having events without them. See who will come to those.
originally posted by: Eunuchorn
Humans make me sick. Our species is disgusting, despicable, & pathetic. I hope our world ends soon.
ps. Stop voting.
originally posted by: Char-Lee
originally posted by: Eunuchorn
Humans make me sick. Our species is disgusting, despicable, & pathetic. I hope our world ends soon.
ps. Stop voting.
...we were not meant to be like this and I feel very sure of this ... everything is always misconstrued or twisted by hateful Family gossips ... Family should have love for one another, we should be able to be there for each other throughout our lives and share in each others births, deaths, home fixes and everyday life, but we can't! ... Instead of wishing for our end I wish and pray for our complete change!
originally posted by: Atsbhct
May I ask why you're so invested?
My mother has 5 sisters, and things like this happen constantly. At the worst of it, none of sisters talked to each other except for the oldest, and the youngest. What really made everything worse was if anyone in the very large family took a side or brought up a feud... This is just the natural way of things.
By responding in any way, and continuing to yearn for acceptance, R is just feeding the fire of D and J's childlike ridicule.
By continuing the conversation with her, you yourself are dragging out the feud.
No one will ever like everyone in their family, because families are made up of individuals with differing perspectives, etc. and that's just fine.
R should spend time cultivating relationships with friends and family that in no way revolve around the drama between she and her sisters.
originally posted by: seentoomuch
I agree with Kek, all family events at other family member homes. No exceptions.
First diva to raise her head...[/quote]
I love that! So perfect!
...oh, and cut them off from the martinis and vodka.
STM
In their case, the wine.... but please don't make me cut out my tequila!
D will! When I've had events at my house, she's offered to host the event, and when I say no, she finds a reason not to come. I can only think of two events she's attended at my home.
That's exactly what it is. But I don't even think they see how cruel it is. It's mind boggling to me.
originally posted by: seentoomuch
a reply to: Boadicea
Personally, I would not go to the wedding if R wasn't comfortable with going. I would have absolutely no problem with letting the mother know why I didn't want to go and btw that includes the gift registry. I would choke on the wedding cake thinking that R wasn't there or was being made fun of. Therefore, why be there? Let it be known beforehand. Consequences.
STM
originally posted by: Dimithae
a reply to: Boadicea
D will! When I've had events at my house, she's offered to host the event, and when I say no, she finds a reason not to come. I can only think of two events she's attended at my home.
Then throw the event anyway,and if one or both of the sisters don't come,guess what? You have peace in the house,no loss there.
After being left out of enough family parties,the sisters will start to feel the loss.
My family is gone now,there is only us siblings. Out of 4 of us,one younger sister will have nothing to do with us,no matter how we have tried to draw her in to a relationship with us.... So yeah we all get along and enjoy each others company now days.
originally posted by: seentoomuch
a reply to: Boadicea
Just people knowing that it wasn't a true family situation should tell you what to do, as you know.
Please push for family gatherings in different homes, take the two sisters out of the pictures imho.
STM
originally posted by: brandiwine14
Record the Antics of D and J.