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originally posted by: crayzeed
It seems to me that D is the most successful sister. She owns a company that employs a few relatives, she has the biggest house and seems to be the instigator of trouble with the tacit help of J.
I think this leads to D feeling she is better than the other sisters, maybe J is only going along with the tormenting to please D
You or anyone else cannot change Gs make up, only she can do it.
As the saying goes "with family like that who needs enemies".
At one family gathering for the funeral of a family member who committed suicide (due to unbearable phantom pains from an amputated leg), “J” and others decided it would be a good idea to make a bet to see who could get “R” upset first.
originally posted by: Dimithae
a reply to: Boadicea
1.The 'mom' should shut up.Unless she plans on taking the other 2 girls to task for being hateful,she needs to just shut up and stay out of it.She is only making it worse. I am willing to bet that the roots of all this go back to her anyway.
3.I don't care what the size of the house is,family events should be rotated between homes.
If they don't like it,they can stay home.
Sometimes it is just better to go on with your life and cut those that hurt you out of it. If this becomes the case,R needs to find friends that she can spend holidays and such with and not even talk to the family.
...cruelty...
It sounds something like what my family was like when we were kids... When both my parents were finally dead,of all the things we could have said,we said "thank god that is all over now".... Quite a thing to say yes? But it was that bad.
originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: Boadicea
At one family gathering for the funeral of a family member who committed suicide (due to unbearable phantom pains from an amputated leg), “J” and others decided it would be a good idea to make a bet to see who could get “R” upset first.
If this is truly what happened it tells one all you need to know about these persons.
Is there a way that gatherings where R can feel welcome can be separate from the “D” and “J” ones.
Maybe Mothers and Grandmothers should realize the cruelty of the acts of “D” and “J” and step up to the plate and tell them it has to stop. They may feel impotent in the situation due to the money and job factor which is really sad if so.
...group counseling, but I would bet “D” and “J” would have none of it.
Thus we are back to my first conclusion, sometimes letting go is the best and healthiest way as much as it hurts.
originally posted by: TheLieWeLive
a reply to: Boadicea
I have friends who have become my family. They treat me way better than some of my own blood does. Sometimes you have to find or make your own family and leave the riff raff behind.
originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: Boadicea
Anyway she has you!* You stood up for her that makes you a true friend...rare now days!
originally posted by: research100
a reply to: Look2theSacredHeart
...so do you remember what started this whole thing back when in the first place???
No, I don't. But it's a good question. It's always been this way to one extent or another, but it just kinda ramped up to extremes the last few years.
originally posted by: Ksihkehe
a reply to: Boadicea
If she chooses to continue associating with them then she is allowing the behavior to continue. There is obviously no reconciliation possible.