posted on Mar, 1 2015 @ 02:22 AM
Not everyone hears the same thing when you say "detachment". In some cases, they could be referring to being detached from themselves, their body,
their emotions.... sometimes it means a sort of "running away" from reality and being active in it- which seems to be a coping reaction for people
who just cannot handle the challenges life gives them.
I found there is another state, which I would call detachment, but that has the opposite effect- of grounding, of bringing you closer to reality, and
in a positive way.
I would want to say, it is detachment from outcome- so that you get involved and active in influencing events, but able to remain stable no matter
what the outcome. That is hard to explain, because the obvious question is- if you don't care what the outcome it, where or how do you find the
motivation and energy to fuel action???
I don't know how to explain it other than, a love of the experience in the present, an enthousiasm for the effort or voyage, rather than desire to
get to the destination.
I am trying to read a book by a Tibetan monk right now, that many people found extremely uplifting. For one, I do not identify with the beginning
premise- that everyone is afraid and haunted by death. Every time I see this asserted, I feel like there is something wrong with me, because
apparently "everyone" is different than me and there must be something wrong with me because I do not fear death. I am not suicidal, and am all for
future experiences in this world, but if I suddenly croak right now and cease to exist, that is fine too! -and I don't have a belief in an afterlife
to sustain that feeling. But perhaps some people need to place that deadline before them to create motivation- to live most intensely right now,
before they get there. But it is certainly possible to live intensely right now without fear of it ending!
I'm going off on a tangent. What made me think of this book is the teachings of various spiritual "masters" of many disciplines, who talk a lot
about detachment as key, and yet- they do not have wives, children... they spend their days praying in isolated places, or with other ascetics. To me
that is no example. It is too easy. Who are they too tell those adventurous souls who dare to invest and incarnate into complex relationships on
earth, how to do so?
The whole goal for incarnation on earth is to learn to hide away from it, and avoid getting involved in it? Seeing how many lives you can sustain
isolation and remain pure for the next life of hiding? I am sorry to offend those who identify with that view, but I can't relate.
The real challenge is to get in there, relate, be interdependant, experience, and not have to use fear to protect yourself. To me that is compassion.