In watching the outpouring of sadness over Leonard Nimoy's passing, I got to wondering about the profound effects that we can
have on others and that others can have on us, whether in small ways or in large, and how we can collectively, across all other boundaries, agree that
some people really speak to us.
We all in life, lose people who are dear to us. Family. Friends. Teachers. Loves. The grief and the sadness and the holes those people leave in our
lives are a given. We had a personal and tangible connection with them and to them. It makes sense.
But what about the people we miss who are not our friends or our family? Those who live in our lifetimes and touch our lives in the intangible ways
and seem to leave gaping holes in the universe, well, universally, when they make their transition from this plane to the next?
The people we didn't know but who made a contribution to the world or just to us personally. And whether their contribution was in science or in film
or in their humanitarian efforts or simple commentary, doesn't matter as much as what they said to us personally. Or those who just plain made us
laugh or think or cry and touched one of us or many of us for a myriad of reasons.
This doesn't relate to hero worship of pop or sports stars as much as to how someone touches us in a positive way, in a cerebral and more fundamental
way. How they become part of our individual or collective consciousness and spirit and weave their way into our very soul.
The people who, even though we are thankful that they left us something to remember them by, for what they left us, we grieve because they were or are
own personal heroes, flaws and all. People who we found something in, solace or inspiration, hope or joy, and when they left us, it just shook us in a
way we didn't expect.
Maybe we grieve maybe because they won't be able to do that anymore despite having left us what they did. Maybe we're sad that all we have of them is
in our memories and can now just hope that these things they left behind, their ideas or irreverence or kindness, made enough of a spark to sustain us
and to carry us on.
And sometimes when they go, we find that they also affected a lot of other people this way. Sometimes it's only just you. It's not as if they were
part of your daily life. You may not have thought of them for months or even years. But then, all of a sudden, when they;re not here anymore, it's
like a wake up. and you reflect, and you grieve, and you miss what just won't be there anymore. And you begin to get sad more because there won't be
There may be no logical reason that someone's passing strikes a cord in us deeply. We know they were only human, not perfect. We don't even
necessarily agree with all they said or did or were just singing or acting or parroting someone else's words or one someone else's mission or that
some may say had a nefarious agenda. But we don't care about that though. We miss them anyway.
These are my top five. I didn't know them. I wish I knew them. They'd be who I picked to have dinner with. And who I wish were
still here giving us more.
And I hate it that my list keeps getting longer and that so few seem to be filling those holes that, at least, I personally am
left with. I need and the world probably needs more heroes too.
Who do you miss that you didn't really know? Who would you pick to have dinner with?
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Could it be that fear of sadness is what drives us to achieve greater things? I wonder. Perhaps this is the emotion which drives mankind to build the
highest monuments, to make a mark on the universe before they die, to defeat death itself. Perhaps it is what drives Man to make an eternal gift
Because in the end, men are not defined by what they are, but by what they do.
I used to pass a very elderly gentleman who shined shoes each day in the lobby of my building as I went on my way to work. He always had a smile or
kind word. He always stopped to assist anyone who may have had their hands full or tripped or whatever. He always new what was going on when there was
activity, drama or some sort of festivity. He seemed to know everyone.
Then one day he was just gone. And the world was diminished for me for a long while afterwards...it just felt lonelier.
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The first person that came to my mind was JFK . I remember being on the school bus and someone flagged the bus to stop and told the driver about the
assassination . I didn't know much about him at the time but can remember the effects it had on the adults that were speaking about it at the time .
Just typing into google brings up About 52,600,000 results . I sometimes wonder about the man and what might have come to be with America had he
finished his term and left to influence the country . I fail to imagine any of the bad things about him personally contributing in a negative way to
the country he loved .
Thinking about it , I would almost bet that ATS may not exist had it not been for JFK .911 may never have happened and most of the crap we see going
on in the world would look much different . thanks for the thread and allowing me to express a feeling that has hovered next to my hear all these
He wasn't a philosopher or political ideologist and didn't create music or great Art. What he did was bring lots of love and kindness to his family,
wildlife, environment and his fans in the general public. His skewering by the ray was one of the first times I'd ever felt true sadness at the death
of someone famous. To me, he represented the very best example of a working class man and he was a crazy bastard too lol He was a rare public figure
whose death brought only tributes
Amy Winehouse, Iain M Banks are another two that spring to mind from recent years. I feel robbed of a Winehouse album and western culture lost one of
its most creative minds in Banks.
On a political level, I miss someone like Thomas Paine or Karl Marx. Not because I agree with their ideologies (maybe some), but because we've had
the same garbage political system for years and need a change of thinking to try and inject more fairness. It's a con to say that change comes from
the masses, it really comes from charismatic people who have access to the elites. A shiny new figure with novel ideas is long overdue.
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