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originally posted by: anticitizen
yeah people in the usa are extremely weird when it comes to sex.
not long ago the mods deleted a thread where we talked about sex in a funny way.
reason was: there are kids watching.
but discussing beheadings every day is ok.
i think violence is more harmful to children but ok, that's their rules.
i'm not a fan of a constant flood if sex related discussions either. for me it's more a private thing.
having other topics and interests than sex is one reason that separates us from apes.
originally posted by: ketsuko
What many don't understand about men is that they are much more physical. Little boys are far more likely to be touchy, feely cuddly than their female counterparts who are going to tell you all about how they feel.
originally posted by: DeepImpactX
You see promiscuity and experimentation as "ambitious" and taboo, and people think that you're more evolved on a sexual level than your peers. You're not. When you go out on a limb sexually because you're being rebellious against your parents' and societies' hang-ups about sex.......that's not being being ambitious. That's being a spiteful child. You're being a freak out of spite.
When you do whatever your sexual thoughts tell you because you realize that sex is a natural part of life that should not be handcuffed, blindfolded and whipped into submission..........well, then you can do all of the above without feeling or thinking "Man, that was progressive and "out there". You can do that and feel really good about it.
When you do what you do because your mind knows it's natural, your body feels better about it.
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: DeepImpactX
And then when one of your partners comes to you and says, "I'm pregnant ..." or "I tested positive for HIV ..."
How do you handle that? Sex is a normal part of life, but the thing that so many who have your mindset tend to forget is that it's natural because it's intended for procreation by nature, not pleasure. So to treat it solely as a source of pleasure and recreation without the respect it deserves for its true natural function leads to all kinds of unintended consequences which are very uncomfortable for a lot of people.
originally posted by: DAVID64
If emotional needs are met, why would someone want to be with someone else? Just for a different experience? Different size , technique or whatever? If all parts of the marriage are going well, one partner should not be seeking someone else. I would take it as "not good enough" and I would absolutely take it as "I don't love you anymore" if my wife wanted someone else. That's not insecure, it called Being Married. When you marry someone, you are saying that you've shopped around long enough, that you've found the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
There seems to be a taboo in our country against acknowledgement of men needing affection. The need for sex is easily admitted, but affection? Just love and care? Not so easily said. That seems to be considered too effeminate.
1. A synapse connection between nudity and Sex. It should not be there. It is simply wrong.