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originally posted by: onehuman
Perhaps she was just trying to save the piano as you also thought. She probably does get that it is part of the family as well. As you said though, she comes from a time when cats were varmets. So, she was probably raised to think it is ok to discipline the cat the way she did.
I think instead of getting upset about it and trying to figure out what to do, why not just try to show her better ways about how to discipline the cat if it is on the furniture or what have you. A simple rolled up paper to just slap across her wrist to make that smack sound may be enough to startle the cat to move on. Or just show her how the family goes about it.
Let her know that you know she has accepted the fact that it is part of the family. You said she had a sweet side. Try to address the sweet granny, not the old grumpy lady with a walking stick.... Hope that all made sense.
originally posted by: halfoldman
I'd like to tell you all a story about a grandmother and the cat.
It's not the story you all might think - a sweet little old lady with a pussy-cat at her feet.
Oh no, this grandmother came from a time where pets caught vermin, and were perhaps fed some table scraps.
Now this cat arrived with a family as a kitten, and it quickly stole everybody's hearts.
It was a black and white Maine Coon type cat, with a sweet personality.
Now the cat had already been living with the family for about a decade, and never caused much fuss.
Then a grandmother was moved into the house, who wasn't charmed by the kitty at all.
Now one day the grandson heard a scream, and it was his mother, and she cried that grandmother just tried to poke or hit the cat from its perch on the piano with her walking stick.
So the grandson confronted his granny, and told her that the cat is allowed to lie there.
Actually it was a good thing the father (the granny's son) didn't see any of this, because he had told her before that the cat is a part of the family.
Granny was unrepentant, and replied that this is fine, let the darn cat scratch everything.
The cat had never scratched furniture ever.
Now granny is very upset.
She refuses to interact fully as before, and thinks everything she does is wrong.
Granny also has a sweet side, and maybe she really wanted to save the piano from damage.
Maybe in her day, cats weren't allowed to lie on furniture.
How does one resolve this?
originally posted by: eeyipes
They make silicone nail sheaths that can be attached to kitty's nails to prevent furniture damage and scratched skin. I realize kitty has no history of scratching things, but if Granny is truly very upset about the possibility then giving them a try might console her and help her feel that her worries matter to the family.
Also, does kitty like to catch the laser light? That's a fun and easy game and perhaps Granny and kitty need some playtime together to bond.
Don't be too harsh on Granny, moving to a new place and trying to fit in with the family is probably more stressful to her than anyone realizes. And as she ages she is probably not herself in many ways and may show stress by acting out similar to how a child would. She is no longer in full control of her life anymore, and that's a hard thing for her to deal with. I'm sure she is grateful to your family for helping her and caring for her. Show Granny she belongs in her new home by trying to accomodate her concerns whenever possible.
Oh and I thought I'd add ... does Granny like little dogs? Perhaps if Granny had a pet of her own to to care for and love on, she would feel more in control of her situation and feel like she had a daily purpose to care for the little guy.