I've lost many family members and other loved ones in my life and now believe when one is dying, the days or hours before the actual death occurs,
they are orienting between two worlds.
My father passed many years ago after a long illness. While hospitalized, a few days before he passed, and slipping in and out of consciousness, he
suddenly opened his eyes real wide and said to my sister and I, "I just saw Grandma (his mother) and Aunt Lucy (his mother's only sister) and then
fell back asleep for a few hours, and woke up again with a big smile, sat up and all happy and excited said, "Yeah, they are there -- I saw them
both", and then fell back asleep again. Both times he spoke he was wide awake, very coherent and not drugged.
This is a man who had always believed when we die we turn to ashes and go blank...end of story. He would not engage in discussions about a possible
after-life or similar, related topics. My father was also an Atheist. He was a man who believed in nothing that could not be supported by scientific
facts and proof -- a "pics, or it didn't happen" guy.
My sister insisted he must have been hallucinating, but he wasn't on any drugs that would cause hallucinations. He was not on a morphine drip or
painkillers, etc.. So, we asked the Nurse (whose nursing specialty was geriatrics/death & dying) and she said that many dying patients do report
seeing loved ones who have already passed. She said it's actually more common than not.
My sister felt the Nurse just said that to comfort us and that it's not possible, insisting our father was hallucinating. She was so much like dad --
believed nothing without solid proof, that was not grounded in reality.
Fast forward a decade later and my sister was in the same situation. She was dying of late-stage cancer. She had always shared my father's viewpoints
and beliefs, including 'we turn to dust and go blank -- the end.'
But, about 5-days prior to her passing, she too suddenly woke up and looked right at me and said in the most serious tone I ever heard her speak, "I
just saw Grandma and Aunt Lucy," the same two relatives my dad had mentioned (out of 7) who had already passed.
I had wondered why my father didn't see my grandfather (his father) and others, and why his mother and aunt, the same two relatives out of many whom
my sister also saw. I don't know if this means anything, but the commonality between my grandmother and great aunt is that they were both spiritual,
occasionally read the Bible, prayed for others and belonged to a prayer group. They only attended church on Holidays and special occasions.
I wouldn't say they were religious, but they were both very spiritual and with a strong moral code, loving and empathic, and not at all judgmental of
others. Not a day went by where they weren't in prayer for a least a few moments, praying for someone, somewhere... including those whom they didn't
know, but whom they knew needed prayers.
So, my sister who had firmly believed that our father was hallucinating and that it wasn't possible to see dead relatives, insisted she saw dead
relatives the days before she passed away, while orienting between two worlds. And, the last thing she said just before she passed, "It's so simple."
I've wondered what that means.
I also know of another family member who didn't see relatives who had passed, but his last words were also, "It's so simple" moments before passing.
I've always wondered what they both meant by that final comment. I also find it a bit ironic that these two skeptics, two family members who didn't
believe in anything that couldn't be proven without a doubt, saw these two specific deceased relatives.
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