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Utah girl forced to wear a coat over her dress at the dance for violating "dress code"

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posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:04 AM
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a reply to: SkippyBalls

Well, as I was sitting there on the roof, it occurred to me that there was never going to be any good music at the dance anyway, the thumping pulse of speed garage was resonating through the structure beneath. I hate that nonsense. I had a better night on the roof than I would have inside.




posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:09 AM
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a reply to: TrueBrit

Well at least you were high.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:11 AM
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originally posted by: Anyafaj
I'm honestly curious here as I'm not aware. Is the entire state of Utah Mormon, or are there some parts where women do not live as if they are in an oppressive regime? This dress is pictured and I see not a thing wrong with it. Unless if shoulders have suddenly become porn. It states in the dress code shoulder straps. It says nothing about bare arms. She's dressed very appropriately, so I'm curious as to other opinions.

Girl in Saudia Arabia *cough* I mean Utah, forced to wear a coat over dress at school dance





A Lone Peak High School student was told her dress must be covered up because it was too inappropriate for the Preference Dance at the school last Saturday.

“She said, ‘Would you mind putting on a shawl?’ I didn't want to make a big scene so I said, yes. I had a coat in the car so I had to go back and get it,” she said.

“Somehow my shoulders are sexualized,” Finlayson said. “Like it's my responsibility to make sure the boys’ thoughts are not unclean.”

“Formals, backless dresses and/or tops may not extend beyond the bottom of the shoulder blades. Girls’ dresses and tops must have a 2″ minimum strap on each shoulder. Shawls, boleros and other shrugs are acceptable if worn over the dress at all times. Cleavage covered.”

Finlayson says her dress, which was purchased in Paris, and resembled in her mind, the classic, graceful style of her idol, actress Audrey Hepburn, was within the parameters put forth by the school dress code, and she says there were other girls at the dance whose dresses were
questionable in her mind.


The dress straps seemed to have about 2 inches, if not more. She even had it altered to bring the bodice higher. It obviously extended beyond mid-calf. Very appropriate. If a bare arm is going to get a boy excited, then maybe we need to teach boys more on how to control themselves and send more right messages to girls, instead of "Cover up, you're enticing the boys to want to rape you."

It is a public school receiving public funding from the federal government, so not a private LDS school. What more does this school want? A burka and a veil? Have we really reached that point where girls must wear a full length robe or something to school, lest boys see an inch of flesh? Shall we bring back bathing suits that cover our ankles? [sarc]


What is a Preference Dance?

If her parents bought the dress then they thought it was appropriate. And boys will rape girls no matter what she is wearing.
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posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:15 AM
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originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: SkippyBalls

Well, as I was sitting there on the roof, it occurred to me that there was never going to be any good music at the dance anyway, the thumping pulse of speed garage was resonating through the structure beneath. I hate that nonsense. I had a better night on the roof than I would have inside.


What's this speed garage music?

I'm getting old, all these new kinds of music. Oops, off topic.

School dances and dress codes, sometimes they are so limiting but the schools think that it reduces violence.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:25 AM
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I think it's bad for a school to not follow it's own dress code, a lot of money can be spent on buying a dress for a school dance, and they they make her cover it up because they dont folow their own policy, i think thats petty bad.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:43 AM
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a reply to: WarminIndy

The "Preference Dance" concept was explained in the video if you actually watched it. It is a dance where the girls get to choose their companion (i.e. boy) for the evening.

As for the dress, Seeing it on the hanger in the video, the only thing I can think that may have violated the dress code was the back. We never get a photo of her in the dress from the back. The back may have extended a bit lower than the code allowed. If that is the case, then whether I personally agree with the code or not, it was a violation. Perhaps in future, there should be a required pre-qualification step for the students (male and female) to provide photos of them in their attire, front and back views, submitted for approval by the staff? That way, if it is pre-approved and THEN deemed in violation at the event, it can be challenged successfully.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 06:03 AM
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My god. How dare she wear such a revealing dress. I mean come on people, you can see HER WHOLE ARM. BOTH OF THEM.

What a ridiculous, ridiculous situation. Considering the way some (many?) girls dress these days, this confuses the crap out of me. There's nothing wrong with that dress at all. It's pretty, classy, and tasteful.

And this is coming from a guy who swore his daughter (if I had one) would wear a snowsuit every day of her life.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 06:11 AM
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a reply to: subfab


Well said. I agree with you, totally.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 06:21 AM
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originally posted by: Krakatoa
the only thing I can think that may have violated the dress code was the back.

At my daughters school, dance dresses couldn't dip in the back. No bare backs. If it dipped to the bra strap line then it was too low and couldn't be worn. Follow the rules or don't go to the dance. Very simple.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 06:26 AM
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a reply to: WarminIndy


What's this speed garage music?



An example of speed garage . Just pitched up garage music with a heavy bass line usually 130 ~135 BPM beats per minute



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 06:29 AM
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originally posted by: Irishhaf
a reply to: OccamsRazor04

Right one girl = the state of Utah.

Without a picture of the entire dress you can only guess, but I would wager she did violate the dress code she agreed to.

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Yeah, The Dress in question might not have had a Arse to it for all we know. we need to see the hole (pun intended) dress



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:18 AM
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originally posted by: IShotMyLastMuse
that dress looks conservative, not provocative in the slightest, especially by today's standards.

As a european it puzzles me, how when it comes to guns, it's all about amendments and freedoms but when it comes to something as trivial as clothing, then WE NEED REGULATIONS AND CONTROL!!

It's because American's are a sexually repressed people, who still see their body and sexuality as "dirty". Sex is a guilty pleasure. That's why the porn industry is huge here. It's ok to murder people, and show the carnage, but show a breast on TV, and the whole nation goes into convulsions. Ask Janet Jackson.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:31 AM
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Good Lord, that was a conservative and modest dress, nothing at all wrong with it!



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:50 AM
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originally posted by: FlyersFan

originally posted by: Krakatoa
the only thing I can think that may have violated the dress code was the back.

At my daughters school, dance dresses couldn't dip in the back. No bare backs. If it dipped to the bra strap line then it was too low and couldn't be worn. Follow the rules or don't go to the dance. Very simple.


The bra strap explains it. The shoulders didn't extend out far enough to ensure that the bra strap was covered.

Utah is not all Mormon but you will meet one everyday. Not that you would know it.

Mormons have always had women's choice dances, and Mormons have a lot of district dances, about one per district per month.

"Proper" is good word to describe Utah.

A bit too communitarian for me personally.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:53 AM
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a reply to: Anyafaj

There is s prom dance dress code here in our public school system, Although she seems dressed modestly to me.

In the last few years the dress codes have been more strict also.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:56 AM
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a reply to: Klassified

None of the Americans I know are sexually repressed.

Our school system had to take steps and make some changes because students were pushing it to the limits, some public school going to uniforms.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 08:58 AM
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originally posted by: WarminIndy
originally posted by: Anyafaj



What is a Preference Dance?

If her parents bought the dress then they thought it was appropriate. And boys will rape girls no matter what she is wearing.




From the video, it sounded as if a Preference Dance is where a girl gets to pick the boy she would like to take to the dance, instead of the other way around. I could be wrong, as I never heard of one. I'm just going by the video and making an assessment from there.
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edit on 1/28/2015 by Anyafaj because: (no reason given)



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 09:07 AM
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a reply to: Anyafaj

I don't think that is the major point of a dress code, they had to start making guys wear belts on those saggy jeans, if they showed up without one they would put a rope for a belt on them.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 09:09 AM
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originally posted by: FlyersFan

originally posted by: Krakatoa
the only thing I can think that may have violated the dress code was the back.

At my daughters school, dance dresses couldn't dip in the back. No bare backs. If it dipped to the bra strap line then it was too low and couldn't be worn. Follow the rules or don't go to the dance. Very simple.



I can understand that and have no problem with that. I would like to see the back of this dress on her. Their rule is no dress below the shoulder blades in the back. Ok fine. Maybe when she had it altered, she should have had it brought up higher in the back as well and then the should would have had no issue. Personally, the front looks like it follows the guidelines, it's the back that leaves questions.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 09:12 AM
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originally posted by: Semicollegiate

originally posted by: FlyersFan

originally posted by: Krakatoa
the only thing I can think that may have violated the dress code was the back.

At my daughters school, dance dresses couldn't dip in the back. No bare backs. If it dipped to the bra strap line then it was too low and couldn't be worn. Follow the rules or don't go to the dance. Very simple.


The bra strap explains it. The shoulders didn't extend out far enough to ensure that the bra strap was covered.

Utah is not all Mormon but you will meet one everyday. Not that you would know it.

Mormons have always had women's choice dances, and Mormons have a lot of district dances, about one per district per month.

"Proper" is good word to describe Utah.

A bit too communitarian for me personally.



I thought the strap was fine. It required the strap to be 2 inches. The strap looked to be at least 2, maybe a little over 2 inches, so the strap didn't seem to be a problem for me. Same with calf length. I think the issue we're finding may be the back. Was it lower than the shoulder blades?




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