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Utah girl forced to wear a coat over her dress at the dance for violating "dress code"

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posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:10 AM
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I'm honestly curious here as I'm not aware. Is the entire state of Utah Mormon, or are there some parts where women do not live as if they are in an oppressive regime? This dress is pictured and I see not a thing wrong with it. Unless if shoulders have suddenly become porn. It states in the dress code shoulder straps. It says nothing about bare arms. She's dressed very appropriately, so I'm curious as to other opinions.

Girl in Saudia Arabia *cough* I mean Utah, forced to wear a coat over dress at school dance




A Lone Peak High School student was told her dress must be covered up because it was too inappropriate for the Preference Dance at the school last Saturday.

“She said, ‘Would you mind putting on a shawl?’ I didn't want to make a big scene so I said, yes. I had a coat in the car so I had to go back and get it,” she said.

“Somehow my shoulders are sexualized,” Finlayson said. “Like it's my responsibility to make sure the boys’ thoughts are not unclean.”

“Formals, backless dresses and/or tops may not extend beyond the bottom of the shoulder blades. Girls’ dresses and tops must have a 2″ minimum strap on each shoulder. Shawls, boleros and other shrugs are acceptable if worn over the dress at all times. Cleavage covered.”

Finlayson says her dress, which was purchased in Paris, and resembled in her mind, the classic, graceful style of her idol, actress Audrey Hepburn, was within the parameters put forth by the school dress code, and she says there were other girls at the dance whose dresses were questionable in her mind.


The dress straps seemed to have about 2 inches, if not more. She even had it altered to bring the bodice higher. It obviously extended beyond mid-calf. Very appropriate. If a bare arm is going to get a boy excited, then maybe we need to teach boys more on how to control themselves and send more right messages to girls, instead of "Cover up, you're enticing the boys to want to rape you."

It is a public school receiving public funding from the federal government, so not a private LDS school. What more does this school want? A burka and a veil? Have we really reached that point where girls must wear a full length robe or something to school, lest boys see an inch of flesh? Shall we bring back bathing suits that cover our ankles? [sarc]




posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:23 AM
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that dress looks conservative, not provocative in the slightest, especially by today's standards.

As a european it puzzles me, how when it comes to guns, it's all about amendments and freedoms but when it comes to something as trivial as clothing, then WE NEED REGULATIONS AND CONTROL!!



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:38 AM
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a reply to: Anyafaj

That dress look very modest and Conservative to me.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:48 AM
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a reply to: OccamsRazor04

Ya it really wasn't that bad at all.
If I had a 15 year old daughter I would have 0 issues with that dress.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:54 AM
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that dress actually looks like something from the 1920's.

...by which I'm not being critical (it's gorgeous), just highlighting how backward the whole 'controversy' is.
Oh, and as for Saudi Arabia... the only difference is, in Utah, they make you wear a coat.
In Saudi Arabia, they bury you kneck-deep and throw rocks at you until you're dead.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 02:55 AM
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It's just shoulders, how puritanical.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 03:44 AM
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Ever been to Utah?

It's a little different, but Saudi Arabia it certainly isn't, it was an unesecary dig at a state that a pretty cool place.

If the students agreed to the dress code what is the issue?

Bottom line is you don't have to understand it seems to work for them.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 03:47 AM
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a reply to: Irishhaf

It does not seem to work for them. This girl has a completely modest dress and was made to feel uncomfortable over it.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 03:48 AM
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"maybe we need to teach boys more on how to control themselves and send more right messages to girls, instead of "Cover up, you're enticing the boys to want to rape you." "

Kinda ridiculous to blame it on the sexuality of boys when it was supposedly female school staff who made this dress code?

I think this is far more an issue of how we too often over protect our kids and don't seem to allow them to make thier own mistakes, over protecting them to such an extent that it impinges on the lives of our kids when they're doing something completely innocent.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 03:55 AM
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Seems like someone was a little jealous of her.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 03:57 AM
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a reply to: OccamsRazor04

Right one girl = the state of Utah.

Without a picture of the entire dress you can only guess, but I would wager she did violate the dress code she agreed to.

Do I think it's silly sure, but it works for them.

Also donr forget a few years back a guy on the byu basketball team broke school code of conduct and he received a year long punishment. (can't remember if it was school suspension, or just from the team, and he was a star on the team expected to make a run deep into the tournament)

They take their rules seriously.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:12 AM
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I didn't see anything wrong with that dress... It's rather a pretty one, as these things go. Certainly suitable for a public school dance.

But it is Utah. ...and Utah is different.

Not sure how it broke the rules to the point of being asked to cover up, but apparently it did.

I would suggest that the kids get the rules changed.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:13 AM
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a reply to: Anyafaj

i want to know if any of the staff at the school dance said, "cover up so you don't send the boys in a frenzy."
it is a stretch to make the claim that males can't act like gentlemen in a school dance.

this story reeks of misandry.

there is a dress code, it is established, it was communicated, it was enforced.
i don't see the issue here. if other ladies with similar attire were not asked to cover up, then ask the staff why?

simple.

if the dress code needs to change, then the staff and the parents can come together and change it.

silly is as silly does i guess.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:18 AM
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a reply to: seagull

That Era dress had a tendency to leave the shoulder blades bare, if this dress had the same cut it violated the dress code.

Silly to me, but it seems to work in that state..

Edit: it's an easy religion to mock, oftentimes the entire state is mocked but I don't recall hearing about any school shootings in Utah so they are doing something right in high school.

edit on 28-1-2015 by Irishhaf because: additional thought



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:34 AM
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Bottom line - The school has a right to impose the dress code and the students know what it is ahead of time. No matter how 'fine' we think the dress is, the school has the right to decide if it is or not.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:40 AM
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a reply to: FlyersFan

The point is that according to the girl, the dress was within the parameters of the dress code.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:48 AM
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a reply to: SkippyBalls
Doesn't matter ... the school has the final say.

My daughter went to a school with a strict dress code for dances (Catholic All Girls College Prep Academy). Most of the girls would take pictures of themselves in the dance dresses on their cell phone and take it in to the school and get pre-approval. There is no arguing with the school officials.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:52 AM
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a reply to: FlyersFan

So they impose a dress code and even when this dress code is followed they still have the right to disapprove of a dress based on what, personal feelings?

What's the point of imposing a dress code if you are not going to judge a dress by that same dress code.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 04:55 AM
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a reply to: Anyafaj

I remember my schools leaving party. There was a dress code. I turned up in violation of it. The dress code stated that smart attire was to be worn. I turned up in a black biker jacket with a blue denim waistcoat over the top of it, slash knee jeans, and shin breakers on my feet, because one has to fight for ones right to party basically. When I was refused entry, I simply buggered off and listened to my CD player for three hours, sitting on the roof of the sports hall.



posted on Jan, 28 2015 @ 05:00 AM
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a reply to: TrueBrit




The dress code stated that smart attire was to be worn. I turned up in a black biker jacket with a blue denim waistcoat over the top of it, slash knee jeans, and shin breakers on my feet, because one has to fight for ones right to party basically. When I was refused entry, I simply buggered off


So much for fighting for your right to party.......



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