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Battle of the Sexes: What are you capable of?

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posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 08:30 PM
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The purpose of this thread is to see who really has the upper hand in life and relationships. Put on your rawhide and learn to take a punch or two cause this could get ugly. Throw some cheap shots at both sexes and try and stop yourself from getting offended.

Sometimes after a divorce, things can get tricky. We often have to learn new skills and behaviors that we relied on the opposite sex for. This is especially true when there is children involved. As a man or woman, we seem forced into roles that in some locations haven't changed for thousands of years. Equal rights and common sense have let each sex grow into something more and both have become just as useful as the other in terms of what a person is capable of.


Who here can change a tire in high heels? Any men here that whip up a mean blueberry muffin from scratch and let it bake while you braid your daughter's hair? Do you come home from a hard day at work only to find your wife is out mowing the lawn? Is your walk-in closet being taken over by your husbands shoe collection? Do you catch your wife checking the fluids in your car? Any men know what its like to Christmas shop or buy clothes for a young female? These are just a few examples.


Are there still skills or activities that strictly belong to a certain sex? Think about it in a fun way because the thread is not to be taken seriously. Stop by and drop a comment or two, post a joke or funny picture or let us know how capable you are of showing up the opposite sex.


Everybody here has a guilty pleasure or skill that usually defers to the opposite sex in your relationship. The question is, are you MAN/WOMAN enough to share? Don't be shy, flex that ego and let us know what you're capable of! We can be a tough crowd on here so don't get defensive if your willing to put yourself out there. And as always, stay within the T&C's.

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posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 09:00 PM
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I can weld and machine stuff. My boyfriend sometimes wears my bellydance costumes. Normally we call each other Buddy but today he called me Bro.... which changes things up a little. He's a wicked cook and has come to accept that my idea of doing dishes means putting them on the floor for the dog to lick. I am exceptionally nurturing. mostly if I imagine my children are puppies or plants. We shop together at the fabric store and dream of building chicken costumes, hen for me of course, rooster for him. People catch him in the women's blouse section of second hand stores where he muses over his misfortune to be born male as women's clothes come in much nicer fabrics, colours and styles.

There is no battle of the sexes at our house... we're both fine with mixing and matching!




posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 09:15 PM
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I'm an Alien person. And the Entities i deal with are Dark in the literal sense they are made of black matter.

So for me i can't relate to many of the opposite sex. I am a male and i'd rather make my life about E.T than about something as mundane as a typical life that billions of people on this planet struggle with everyday.

That's just me tho, I see my purpose. My purpose has no companions. That does not mean others should follow in my footsteps.

The spiritual, Mysterys, and secrets are my life. All a woman can do is try to prob mine, I feel people don't have much to offer me in terms of this kind of expectation. Where E.T trive on delivering it.

I am attracted by the allure of Eternal life. Something physical bonds cannot replace. I guess i can be termed a literal priest. Where i summon literal real entities. Where i believe i was once one of them, but my mission is to infultrate humanity as a human. You could say to me life is very interesting.



posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 09:36 PM
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a reply to: igloo


We shop together at the fabric store



I'm definitely guilty of this one.

I get artsy fartsy once in a while and you should see the look on her face when I ask, "Hey hun, you want to take a ride to the fabric store?"



posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 10:44 PM
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a reply to: eisegesis

It takes two to tango.
If your going to add a child into the mix..I will exit !

Never..ever ever use a child as bait!
New born Babies didn't have a say in the matter.

I got lucky.. my mom and dad still worked together.
They put themselves aside. ( thank you mom and dad ).

I won't give into the battle of the sexes. Both are so important to me.
Both brought understanding and laughter.. I got lucky.

Because of the two.
I experienced life.
East coast( Pennsylvania and California ) west coast.

Both taught me there is life out there. Go live it.
I mean this with absolute prejudice...
one can not exist without the other.
Naturally speaking...
It takes a man and woman to make n X/Y baby... go figure!







posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 11:55 PM
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well, men tend to be able to do physically demanding roles better than women. Biology at work there, so if some twiggy 130lb woman firefighter was coming to carry my butt down a ladder, I would be highly skeptical, and rightfully so.

Otherwise, meh, I can outbake the best of em. kitchen is filled with chemistry, fire, large equipment, etc..not sure how it got a feminine label on it.

I think the only real roles still held close by modern folks are more interpersonal relationship kinda thing, cultural, etc..but jobs in general, I think the view is, if you can do it effectively, then you can do it, regardless of where your bits are located.

Now, certain jobs are sought after more by certain genders. programming for instance seems to attract males, whereas service oriented jobs tend to attract females. Competitive tasks attract males, cooperative management females. there is most likely biological reasons for this also. not a hard rule, just a statistical fact..doesn't mean a woman cant be a outstanding DBA, or a man cant be a fantastic LPN.



posted on Jan, 21 2015 @ 11:57 PM
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originally posted by: AnuTyr
I'm an Alien person. And the Entities i deal with are Dark in the literal sense they are made of black matter.

So for me i can't relate to many of the opposite sex. I am a male and i'd rather make my life about E.T than about something as mundane as a typical life that billions of people on this planet struggle with everyday.

That's just me tho, I see my purpose. My purpose has no companions. That does not mean others should follow in my footsteps.

The spiritual, Mysterys, and secrets are my life. All a woman can do is try to prob mine, I feel people don't have much to offer me in terms of this kind of expectation. Where E.T trive on delivering it.

I am attracted by the allure of Eternal life. Something physical bonds cannot replace. I guess i can be termed a literal priest. Where i summon literal real entities. Where i believe i was once one of them, but my mission is to infultrate humanity as a human. You could say to me life is very interesting.

Wow..that was pretty off topic and pointless.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 12:53 AM
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I've never related to the battle of the sexes- I feel that it is a creative effort between us.

Yes, by the way, my husbands shoe collection is taking over the closet- he has three fourths of it. He is into shoes, but also jackets of all sorts (most of which he doesn't wear, just likes having).

There are lots of ways we are on the opposing ends of what are traditionally considered gender based behaviorisms. I am not materialistic at all, but he is. He likes objects, he likes possessing them, he likes shopping. I hate shopping and feel trapped if I have too many things.

I prefer mowing the lawn to mopping the floor

Some of that is due to his being a Taurus, me a Capricorn- some of it is due to him coming from a more maternal culture, me a more paternal one.

But he can't cook, I don't think he ever changed a diaper when we had babies, nor gave a bottle (I breastfed, so that isn't his fault). He takes out the trash, and shovels the snow.

There were times when I started doing all that, and he started to feel uneeded or useless! So I leave it for him.
Basically, either one of us is capable, and we are both aware of that, but we have a sort of agreement to split the chores of living together in this way, according to what each of us prefers to do.

I am finding the dynamics of the relationship changing a lot with age- he is becoming (at 50) more needy, more dependent, and it almost seems like the tables are turning. When I was in my early twenties, I was more emotionally dependent upon him.
He was very good at responding to that, being sensitive to it, and supporting me, and I think that is why I am able to respond to it effectively now. It is like- he showed me, through act and word, how he would like me to react to him when he gets needy, and we exchanged roles now. I showed him how to express himself honestly when he is feeling insecure or in need, and now he does it.

Funny thing with long term marriages.... that karmic type of dynamic. If I had been just passive aggressive, or hostile when feeling insecure or needy, I guess that is what he would be doing now! -And if he had reacted with impatience and hostility to my insecurity back then, that is probably what I'd be doing now!


Except the abdo builiding machine we bought, that is so damned complicated to put together it has dvd instruction to do so. That has been sitting in a huge box in the diningroom, and we are in a silent battle of endurance over it. Each of us hoping the other will get so fed up with stubbing their toe on it, they'll take on the monster. That battle has been going on for two weeks now.... and counting....
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posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 01:30 AM
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A woman can do any job a man can do.

Why? Because there are some beefy woman out there who have the physic of a man, But have the reroductive organs of a woman.

Humans arn't exactly one or the other.

There are people out there who even have both male and female genitalia.
What is battle of the sexes? Basically its fighting for equality well at the same time premoting a femenist Agenda.

I think all humans deserve to be labeled human, And if they don't want their gender specified then it shouldn't be a requirement for the public to know. But only in private. Since it can be embaressing puting a check mark on file for being a female when you look like a man...

I wonder how people like that feel about battle of the sexs. Seems like waves of support are coming in for such people as more and more people become *Transgender*. What will it mean to be a man or a woman by mid centry?.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 07:15 AM
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we don't divide tasks based on skill or anything. Its all divided by shift. My wife works over nights, and does the morning shift. I work days, and handle the evening shift. The differences:

Morning-

- cooks breakfast for anyone wanting it
- takes the kids to school
- reviews papers needing signing for school
- throws in the laundry to wash/dry
- Folds the laundry left in the dryer from the prior night
- leaves the kitchen clean before going to bed

Evening-

- cooks supper
- picks kids up from school
- handles teacher meetings, etc
- throws laundry in to wash/dry
- Folds what got washed that morning
- leaves the kitchen clean before going to bed


I usually do mowing, but my yard is enormous so I typically will hire it out.

With her being latin, and not completely untraditional, she still wants some gender roles. Example: if a button comes off my shirt, she thinks it has to be her to fix it.

We also divide tasks based on job skills. With her being a nurse, it is her job to examine any injury and handle its treatment. Now, i did all her homework in nursing school, so she could focus on the tests. and I worked in the industry for awhile myself. But that is her career, so she tends to it here. Meanwhile, I get to handle verbal communications/negotiations with third parties (its my job to handle "business" in the house because of my job skills in that regard).

But it all boils down to: we are a team. We act like a team. Our ultimate goal is to complete all household tasks quickly, and then spend time together. So we help each other and just make sure cracks are filled in seamlessly.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 07:17 AM
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I can kill a spider which my wife most certainly cannot do.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 07:36 AM
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There is no battle of the sexes in my house.

I am a domestic Goddess - don't like it - hit the road jack.


CdT



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 09:11 AM
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a reply to: SaturnFX


I think the view is, if you can do it effectively, then you can do it, regardless of where your bits are located.

You bring up a good point about biology and brain chemistry. People can deny it all they want, but internally men and women are hardwired differently giving each sex an advantage in certain areas of critical thinking.

If a woman threw me over her shoulders while saving me from a burning building I would be just as grateful. I might want to avoid the press though, lol.

How do you think men got around before taxi cabs?




posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 09:47 AM
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Yes, by the way, my husbands shoe collection is taking over the closet- he has three fourths of it. He is into shoes, but also jackets of all sorts (most of which he doesn't wear, just likes having).


Now that's what I'm talking about!

Interesting, as pointed out earlier, culture definitely plays a huge role. My current relationship is a good example of this. I am American as apple pie and my girlfriend was born and raised in the bush of Zambia. After she came to the States, she really never adjusted and always complained how fake our food is and how people aren't as friendly.

When her and I met, we seemed to fall in love so fast that our differences were left in the dust. She rarely invited me to her house always feeling the need to shield me from her culture. She was ashamed how women were treated in here own country.

Men are still the king in Zambia and woman seem to find a better life in the US. The problem is when dating an African male who resides in the US, they still try to live like the old ways. She is grateful that I'm nothing like that and has grown to see the shortcomings of her aging culture.

If you see any home bred African female with a white dude, they are usually trying to escape the "wife does everything" lifestyle if they were to date a man from their own country.

Your post was very enjoyable to read, thank you.


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posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 03:00 PM
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Sounds like you got the right idea- she'll maybe have some gripes about the country for a while, but at least she'll appreciate the way you treat her!

My husband always thanks me when I make dinner or do the laundry, he brings me flowers, chocolate, gifts...... I get so overwhelmed by that! In america guys only did that for the first few dates. After we'd been together a few months and he was still doing that I asked, "But....you've already gotten into my pants, so ... why???"


He says the french women expect that treatment as par for the course, so it's nice that I appreciate it so much.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 03:10 PM
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I took a home ec class during the summer once. So I can sew with the sewing machine.

So whenever the wife wants something sewed I do the sewing.

I made pillow cases for the couch pillows a few weeks ago.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 04:34 PM
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I like your approach but it seems born out of necessity than what each of you actually enjoy doing. I could be wrong. Do either of you regret or loath certain chores that are assigned to you based off your available hours at home?

I don't currently live with my girlfriend but I have my own place. She tells me she likes doing dishes, so I make sure I always save them for her, lol. She's over frequently so they don't pile up. I think I have a dishphobia complex.




reviews papers needing signing for school

Looks like she's got the upper hand there, you must really trust her unless you've discussed it the day before.


Folds the laundry left in the dryer from the prior night

I'm OCD when it comes to doing, folding, hanging laundry. I would have to have my hand in that somehow. Most guys don't care.

On your end,


handles teacher meetings, etc

Pretty big shoes to fill there. Gorillas have also been known to lose their temper and I'd love to think you've thrown some ATS mentality during those meetings. Tell her your a moderator and they'll cower in fear!

Wow, between her morning paper signing and your evening teachers meetings, there seems to be a lot of trust between you guys and I like that. Inspiring in a small way.

The rest of your post is a shining example of how two different people with different skill sets can overcome any obstacle by respecting a persons ability rather than thinking each of you can do it better than the other.

Congratulations!




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posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 05:35 PM
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Well......... I think I could probably change a tire wearing high heels, but I don't know where I'd get them.

When m'Darlin' and me lived in the San Francisco area, I'd frequently go clothes shopping for her. Frequently, the sales people would try to shift me to the 'plus' sizes, because they saw me employing the scrunch test on fabrics and naturally assumed I was shopping for myself. Why a 6'1 240 pounder would want to wear an Ann Klein suit is beyond me, but I suppose it happens. As it turned out, Ann Klein had a plus section that would have accomodated such a build.

We don't have much of a division of labor. I do all the cooking, and associated cleaning, because I like to cook. She does the laundry, because she doesn't mind and I don't like laundry. Plus, I tend to toss everything together and let the Lint Gods sort it out. I do the gross housework, and she does the fine tuning.

We both work on our trails through the bush and the general yard upkeep. She has her weedwhacker and I have mine. I do the construction. She does the accounting. We're both pretty loving, and, hey, that's what makes us both smile. She is smarter than me and I like that. She used to race cars in the SCCA when we lived in the U.S., so her automotive intuitions are better than mine. I hate working on cars. I'd rather just pay somebody to do whatever needs done.

We're a partnership. Happily married for 25 years. Not feelin' any pain about it either. I wish everyone could feel this good.



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 09:21 PM
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I can burp loud and long. If there are any ladies that can outdo me, please step up otherwise I'll just be a sexist and say it's a guy thing



posted on Jan, 22 2015 @ 09:31 PM
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I can write my name in the snow in pee!

until you can do that,
I am superior!

*thumps chest, grunts several times and admires his name in the snow*

Seriously though,
to be honest, in a lot of jobs I have been in, the women outdo the men.
Most of the managers end up being women,
and they tend to be ruthless.

But I can still write my name in the snow, so I win.




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