Just to clarify, it was my comments on another thread to which the opening post in this thread refers.
My experience is that getting boyfriends is not difficult, however I have historically chosen men for a combination of physical attributes and
personality, some well educated, some intelligent but not academic. I have to say that physical attraction always weighs top of the list as it matters
to me. I have been engaged a few times but all of those men were controlling, in that they praised me (which doesn't really sit that well with me, not
being very egotistical), and told me I needed ''looking after'' and some all too happy for me to pay more than my share of the bills /dinner etc but
they still expected me to essentially ''know they were the boss'' if that makes sense and more often than not refused to engage in intelligent
conversation as they were more interested in just chilling and when the topic of male /female roles in society appeared, they all believed men as
natural leaders and women more as followers.
I often found myself being subservient to keep the peace. I was also very aware in those relationships that these men considered it okay that they
went out with the guys and sometimes were flirty to other women but were insanely jealous if I were to do the same, even suggesting I was seeing other
men if they looked at me whilst shopping etc.
For years I settled for relationships that were controlling but familiar, but they weren't satisfy my needs for an intelligent partner that trusts and
values me as at least an equal on all levels as well as long term commitments and physical attraction.
The men I find most physically attractive are the typical good looking, tall, athletic etc type of guys, these guys find it easy to get women and they
have relationship priorities, ie. putting his needs first, in the bedroom, career, vacations, interests, house, location, looking after him etc, and
not questioning their overall authority. There are plenty of women that will just go along with all that without putting their needs first or
questioning anything, or wanting to have intelligent discussions.
Effectively, women are women and are attracted to men because they are men, masculine etc and likewise men being attracted to women because of
feminine attributes. The psychological connotations of women being subordinate in society historically has ramifications in male /female relationships
that we are seeing as a society today.
Traditional roles aren't so prevalent now and because that is a relatively recent development, in that many men were brought up in those traditional
value households and still see themselves as better due to having a Y chromosome, and women having the chances for exploring their own goals in
academia and career, as well as being seen as equal in law, albeit still treated differently in certain media (she is wearing /he said), both men and
women are experiencing inconsistencies in society and expectations of them as men /women and their roles in relationships. Despite more equality for
women, more than ever, women are being portrayed in media as sexual objects, many even having surgery as a means of trying to achieve an 'ideal'. Men
are still earning far more for doing the same jobs and undeniably the top strata of influential industry /banking /governments are still functionally
old boy networks.
That in itself is not a great move forward for humanity, ''here ladies you can study and work but you should look slutty and available for your boss
if you want to get ahead'' and ''now you can pay your way, work while also procreating and being a mother, but just remember who is boss''.
There should be a better balance of power in society and women valued for their minds more. The value of ethics should be prevalent instead of
demoralising women and applauding men based on their chromosomes.
edit on 21-1-2015 by theabsolutetruth because: (no reason given)