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originally posted by: Mianeye
I have never lied, this is actually the first time
It's ok to lie if it helps you, but hurt no one, the downside though, is it might hurt you if you get caught, and you have to live with knowing you lied, which can be a pain..
originally posted by: boymonkey74
a reply to: TheJourney
Everybody lies all the time If anyone says they do not they are lying.
If we didn't we would be at each others throats more than we are now.
White lies are crucial to our social structure.
BTW Have you seen the film The invention of lying? not a great film but shows what it would be like If we just told the 100% truth all the time.
originally posted by: rickymouse
I prefer to call it deceiving. We not only deceive others, we often deceive ourselves and find ourselves justifying our deceptions.
We are taught in this society that a white lie is necessary sometimes. So we tell our wives we like something she cooked and then we are eating it regularly. She eats it because you said you liked it, and you eat it because you told her you liked it. Meanwhile the two of you are eating something you neither like. Be honest, don't find out these things twenty years later. On the light side, it does give you something to laugh about once you discover neither of you liked it and you suffered all those years.
So where does being nice end and being honest start. In the case above, we would both have been much happier for years if I hadn't tried to be nice. We identified dozens of things like this that we were doing regularly. We learn to live with our lies and sometimes they become a part of us. It is good to be civil and also compassionate, but sometimes telling little white lies or avoiding discussing situations with your love ones is not good. There are more than a few types of lies. There is skirting the truth, avoiding the subject, quoting misapplied evidence, partial truths, and many more ways to deceive people.
Be honest but at the same time be tactful and try not to alienate the person. Getting caught in a lie is often worse than the lie itself. Another thing, don't be lying if you are not smart enough to get away with it. I know people who let out the truth about something a week later in a conversation. They do this to either make you feel like a fool for believing them or to test if you are actually aware. Some people do not like living with lies so intentionally let the cat out of the bag later too so they won't get caught in an unexpected slip someday.
Ok, I have to reread my post now to see if I lied about anything in it.