I think people really think that racism is gone. I thought it was. When you aren't racist, you're surrounded by people that aren't racist, you're
raised to not be racist... racism isn't something you see in your insulated world.
It's not gone.
I will freely admit that I was naively ignorant.
I'm in my mid to late 30s. I'm a white girl, I've always dated white men. Not because of a preference, just because that's who was around me and it's
who I fell in love with.
In my family, my circle of friends, colleagues... coming across an outspoken racist was incredibly rare. I think a lot of people that think racism is
dead may have been lucky that way, also.
Several months ago, I found out the man I was with for 12 years had been cheating on me. For a long time. I left him and started meeting new people.
One of the people I met was a black man. He's intelligent, educated, kind, patient, works 60 hours a week. We started dating.
I never look at the people around me but I'm noticing things. Old ladies in the arboretum giving him a 'sour lemon' face, things like that. When
before a policeman would glance up at a car I was in and glance away again, they now give the glare of death until we're out of sight. He drives a
regular SUV, not flashy, no tinted windows or anything. He dresses in corporate casual. He's a very nice man.
It's not make believe, woe-is-me fantasy. Black people really are regarded by many as 2nd class citizens or trouble waiting to happen. He's never
complained to me about it because it's been that way his whole life... he doesn't know any other way of being looked at.
Imagine spending your whole life being stared at with a glare of hatred penetrating your every step.
Racism is far from eradicated. Just because it's not in you or your circle of friends doesn't mean it's gone. It's a disease that's passed down from
generation to generation, permeating families and communities.
Anyways, that's my story.
edit on 10-1-2015 by PrincessTofu because: (no reason given)