a reply to: Kangaruex4Ewe
That sort of behaviour aggravates me no end. My best friend in the world, though I love her like a sister, has this habit of inviting one over for an
evening of tea and televisual entertainments, and then sitting there half the night with her smartphone, texting, or IMing people over the net, or
looking on ebay....
My favourite moment of the last little while came about thusly. I had gone over to her place for a cup of tea and a wag of the chin, since it had
been about two weeks since last we had met up. I had been ill, she had been working, yada yada. So, we sit down for a cigarette and a chat in her
kitchen, and she explained how hard she had been working, and how many hours, and how much she wants to slap her employees sometimes... I nodded,
smiled, and interjected where appropriate, took a legitimate and full part in the conversation, and in what she was saying.
Then I began to speak about the things that I had been up to, how well my medication was working, what I had been up to at work, updating her on
other matters... then I explained that my undergarments were actually made of lemmings, stuck together with chewing gum, and fairy spit, and that all
you have to watch out for is that they squirm a bit when you sit on them.
She did not bat an eye at any of what I said, because ONE SENTENCE into my delivery, she had injected her persona into the internet, and out of the
room, and indeed, out of our conversation.
The thing is, bad parenting with a telephone is very much like being bad at any other interpersonal relationship as a result of using the net on ones
phone, but has much worse consequences. Its basically saying "Here, Son/Daughter, you must behave yourself, because I am going to indulge myself in a
habitual escape from reality via the internet, so I will not be watching, and I will not respond to you one bit, no matter how much of a pain in the
rear you are being, and no matter how much danger you are in!".
So it is not enough that the child will not be protected due to a lack of diligence, and it is not enough that the child will learn no manners,
because they do not receive admonishment when they are rude, but these things will all happen purely because of the selfishness and skewed priorities
Its bad enough that people like my friend, who has no children and therefore no particular responsibility in terms of setting examples, are prepared
to throw themselves into the net without any regard for those around them, but that parents are prepared to do it to the point of endangering their
child... Bah. I give up. I think I need to find a cave in the mountains somewhere, build a nice fire, and hope no one sees the smoke!