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originally posted by: AccessDenied
I'm gonna go against the grain here. I don't see a child that needs punishment. I see a child screaming for help. He acted out to get attention,and likely due to feeling unheard at home. Hearing him call the guy holding him down STUPID instantly made me think he has had that yelled at him and had no fear to yell it out at others. Somebody broke this kid inside and it manifested outside. I feel sorry for him.
originally posted by: skalla
a reply to: Tangerine
I don't feel that accessdenied is suggesting that we tolerate or further enable the unacceptable behaviour of this child. She (?) is merely stating her compassion for him and that there is another way the advance him than just the "whupping" that was previously being advocated.
There is likely a root cause in the way the child is treated at home - no discipline (and discipline does not only need to involve physical punishment), no understanding, no love.
I've worked with some real terrors, often victims of horrific treatment themselves and usually neglect at the very least and have often had to use physical, non pain restraints at the height of acting out , sure - for the safety of the child and others... but gaining the kid's trust and showing that you can help them to be happy, communicate effectively, form friendships/interact appropriately with others without getting in deep s### all the time, broadening their horizons and demonstrating that you can aid them in reaching subsequent new goals and thus advancing their life is far more powerful than mere punishment.
This then genuinely helps the kid and society as a whole, it's a win-win but just requires more work and a deeper engagement with the child in question.