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originally posted by: Annee
a reply to: Parthin
Transgender is not gay.
Gay men are attracted to same sex.
Transgenders are attracted to the opposite sex of the gender they identify with.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Jamie1
Simple question re Leelah:
Is it a fact or story that she would have been happy if her parents accommodated everything she wanted?
Really? You're seriously gonna ask me if a teenager should be given everything they want?
Like I said ---- everything with you is black and white.
originally posted by: Lyxdeslic
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: Lyxdeslic
This story cuts deep, man. My boyfriend and I talked about this the other day, and he could not understand why I got so upset about it. He kept saying, "I don't understand why HE wanted to be female. If he wanted to be gay, he could just be gay." And "Why can't he just accept himself for what he is?" I wanted to punch him. I had to explain to him that sexuality has nothing to do with gender. And that there are MTF who like girls, not guys. And there are FTM that like guys, no girls. And that the better question is "Why can't society accept these people?"
Facts are, some people will never understand it until they see it unfold in front of them. He will likely not understand until he either has a friend in that situation or if one day we have a child in that situation.
I just don't get it, why would someone rather have a dead child than a happy child? If you can think of any time that you wouldn't love your child, you probably shouldn't be having children. I'm disgusted with this girls family, and I hope she's finally at peace.
I'm intrigued by the paradox in your post.
You want people to accept other people, but when your boyfriend had a different perspective, you wanted to punch him.
Aren't you condemning the parents for the exact same thing? Accepting somebody doesn't mean becoming angry when a person is different than you, right?
The difference is I love and accept him. His opinions are just differing than mine. You can have differing opinions and still accept someone. Who knew, right? Leelah's parents could have disagreed with her actions and wants but still accepted her as a human being. Parents do it all the time. For example, my younger siblings biological dad is on the sex offenders list. He's been to jail multiple times, and burned bridges with that vast majority of people who were in his life. His mother does not agree with what he's done. However she accepts him as the person he has become. She treats him differently for it. But she accepts him, loves him, and does things for him... Even though he doesn't deserve it.
People need to learn unconditional love. You may not like someone because of their choices, but that doesn't mean you don't love them. I used to work at a daycare. When kids misbehaved we put them in time out. in my 'classroom' after a child got out of time out, we talked. I explained to them that I did not love their actions, but I still love them. That's the way it should be with all things, and all people. You might not care for their choices, beliefs or actions, but you should still care about them.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: Jamie1
That was a decent post
But, not really an answer to my question
:-)
originally posted by: Entreri06
3: Everyone doesn't accept anything. We can stop kids from being physically assaulted and from them being ganged up on by "the mob". We cannot stop ANY kid from being offended or made fun of in single instances.
originally posted by: Mousygretchen
its a trick question so why would you even ask that? you know its just an opinion for the most part
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Jamie1
Simple question re Leelah:
Is it a fact or story that she would have been happy if her parents accommodated everything she wanted?
Really? You're seriously gonna ask me if a teenager should be given everything they want?
Like I said ---- everything with you is black and white.
You missed the point of the question.
It's not about a right or wrong answer, should a teenager be given everything they want, and what might or might not have happened.
It's about something very simple. Is the answer to the question a fact, or is it an opinion, a story?
Is saying Leelah would be alive now if her parents did things different a fact, or is it a story?
originally posted by: Mousygretchen
what can I say... its easier said than done to just "stop arguing and start hugging the person instead"
I mean c'mon nobody does that.. besides, it can be gratifying to defend oneself with words.
if your just taking it from a bully then your just giving them what they want...
when's the last time you really felt threatened and had to defend yourself, anyway?
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Jamie1
Simple question re Leelah:
Is it a fact or story that she would have been happy if her parents accommodated everything she wanted?
Really? You're seriously gonna ask me if a teenager should be given everything they want?
Like I said ---- everything with you is black and white.
You missed the point of the question.
It's not about a right or wrong answer, should a teenager be given everything they want, and what might or might not have happened.
It's about something very simple. Is the answer to the question a fact, or is it an opinion, a story?
Is saying Leelah would be alive now if her parents did things different a fact, or is it a story?
Putting words in my mouth?
I didn't answer the question in the way you wanted?
Life has variations --- it's not black and white.
originally posted by: Puppylove
originally posted by: Annee
a reply to: Parthin
Transgender is not gay.
Gay men are attracted to same sex.
Transgenders are attracted to the opposite sex of the gender they identify with.
Actually, who we're attracted to is completely separate from the gender we are. I'm bi, with attraction to both sexes. I'm also a woman with birth gender of male. Being transgender as you said is not gay, is is also not straight, is gender identity, gay, straight, ect is sexual preference not identity.
originally posted by: Mousygretchen
thanks : )