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originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: BomSquad
The parents should have gone to therapists that would understand better what this teenager was going through, but I don't believe that they were wrong in making the youngster wait until they could legally make the decision for themselves.
Yes they should have found the proper therapist. And yes they were wrong in making their "son" wait until "he" was 18.
If they had researched Transgender, they would have known that. They would have known "he" needed hormone blockers as early as possible to prevent the effects of testosterone.
What they did was take his laptop away from "him" because "he" was researching INAPPROPRIATE information. Then forced him into Christian counseling.
Now there are petitions to charge the parents with murder, because they forced their "son" into Faith Healing, instead of getting him proper medical help.
Some may scoff at this, but other parents have been charged with denying their children proper medical care and forcing them into Faith Healing.
originally posted by: Lynk3
a reply to: snarky412
I support the LBGT crowd, and I'm probably going to get a lot of hate for saying this, but why can't people just accept who they are and what they have in life? Why do people always want to be something other than what they're meant to be, and why do they they always what more in life, and want what they can't have?
I understand some people are born with different brain chemistry, but it makes no sense to me. However, I am not one to judge another's decisions in life, and I accept and support all people for what they are. I guess I just can't see in their world because different perspective comes into play.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Taupin Desciple
a reply to: Annee
So her parents kept her away, physically and technically, from the very society that was shunning her? Sounds like they were doing her a favor and neither her nor her parents saw that.
And neither do you I guess.
You are clueless.
She didn't have a problem at school.
Waiting until you are an adult and your brain is fully developed is not an undo burden when making such permanent life changing choice. It's not like you are deciding to change careers, you are changing your physical identity for life.
originally posted by: daftpink
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Taupin Desciple
a reply to: Annee
So her parents kept her away, physically and technically, from the very society that was shunning her? Sounds like they were doing her a favor and neither her nor her parents saw that.
And neither do you I guess.
You are clueless.
She didn't have a problem at school.
Have you read her suicide note? Where she talks about her friends not giving a sh*t about her and her feeling even lonelier than ever due to this?
Although I believe her parents definitely did not handle her situation effectively it is clear that the issue is one of acceptance from ALL of society and that includes school friends.
originally posted by: boncho
a reply to: BomSquad
Waiting until you are an adult and your brain is fully developed is not an undo burden when making such permanent life changing choice. It's not like you are deciding to change careers, you are changing your physical identity for life.
It was only in the 1900s that the christian settlers, quakers and others decided that adulthood should be this specific time, and it evolved further to this idea of teen hood, but, for thousands of years a brain was "fully developed" as soon as a women bled between her legs and a boy changed his voice and sounded like a man.
I think research shows that the majority of people with gender identity issues do not change their mind down the road,and they go to pretty great lengths to weed out people that are merely "going through a phase"", a lot of people seem to be putting everything into their own perspective, "Well I thought xyz when I was a teen so therefore no teens know anything concrete at that age" as if its impossible to have any insight about yourself because of a certain age limit.
For others the world is exactly the same at 10 as it is at 15 as it is at 20. And no matter how many more years you tack on nothings going to change. The more sheltered someone is the more of a revelation they are going to have growing up, its really really simple.
originally posted by: boncho
a reply to: BomSquad
Waiting until you are an adult and your brain is fully developed is not an undo burden when making such permanent life changing choice. It's not like you are deciding to change careers, you are changing your physical identity for life.
It was only in the 1900s that the christian settlers, quakers and others decided that adulthood should be this specific time, and it evolved further to this idea of teen hood, but, for thousands of years a brain was "fully developed" as soon as a women bled between her legs and a boy changed his voice and sounded like a man.
I think research shows that the majority of people with gender identity issues do not change their mind down the road,and they go to pretty great lengths to weed out people that are merely "going through a phase"", a lot of people seem to be putting everything into their own perspective, "Well I thought xyz when I was a teen so therefore no teens know anything concrete at that age" as if its impossible to have any insight about yourself because of a certain age limit.
For others the world is exactly the same at 10 as it is at 15 as it is at 20. And no matter how many more years you tack on nothings going to change. The more sheltered someone is the more of a revelation they are going to have growing up, its really really simple.
originally posted by: defuntion
I really do like your perception. I wish I could share it...
originally posted by: Entreri06
originally posted by: daftpink
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Taupin Desciple
a reply to: Annee
So her parents kept her away, physically and technically, from the very society that was shunning her? Sounds like they were doing her a favor and neither her nor her parents saw that.
And neither do you I guess.
You are clueless.
She didn't have a problem at school.
Have you read her suicide note? Where she talks about her friends not giving a sh*t about her and her feeling even lonelier than ever due to this?
Although I believe her parents definitely did not handle her situation effectively it is clear that the issue is one of acceptance from ALL of society and that includes school friends.
It is completely unrealistic to expect EVErYONE to accept ANYTHING!! We can expect for groups not to team up and bully children. But it's completely illogical to expect ANYONE to never be bullied. It's a part of growing up and has been for all of human history. That said we as adults should definatly step in if it gets physical or a mob mentality singles out one kid. But those who think everyone should just accept LGBT's your nuts. Everyone doesn't accept red heads lmao!!
Learning to deal with bullies and adversity are part of childhood. LGBT's don't get a magic free pass. Why should they? Whites don't get a pass, blacks don't get a pass, skinny kids, fat kids, short kids, ugly kids, dumb kids all get screwed with in school.
I don't know, it just seems like some expect a completely unrealistic goal to be met. That LGBT's shouldn't only get a fair shake, but should be protected above all other social groups.
Straight kids commit suicide as well because of being bullied and no one thinks the world should be focefully made to accept them...
originally posted by: daftpink
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Taupin Desciple
a reply to: Annee
So her parents kept her away, physically and technically, from the very society that was shunning her? Sounds like they were doing her a favor and neither her nor her parents saw that.
And neither do you I guess.
You are clueless.
She didn't have a problem at school.
Have you read her suicide note? Where she talks about her friends not giving a sh*t about her and her feeling even lonelier than ever due to this?
Although I believe her parents definitely did not handle her situation effectively it is clear that the issue is one of acceptance from ALL of society and that includes school friends.
"They took me out of public school, took away my phone and computer, and wouldn't let me on social media websites, so I was out of contact with any of my friends. I was like this for 5 months, completely and utterly alone. I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone outside of church and I wasn't allowed to be with any of my friends, I just had to stay in my house and be quiet."
originally posted by: Lyxdeslic
This story cuts deep, man. My boyfriend and I talked about this the other day, and he could not understand why I got so upset about it. He kept saying, "I don't understand why HE wanted to be female. If he wanted to be gay, he could just be gay." And "Why can't he just accept himself for what he is?" I wanted to punch him. I had to explain to him that sexuality has nothing to do with gender. And that there are MTF who like girls, not guys. And there are FTM that like guys, no girls. And that the better question is "Why can't society accept these people?"
Facts are, some people will never understand it until they see it unfold in front of them. He will likely not understand until he either has a friend in that situation or if one day we have a child in that situation.
I just don't get it, why would someone rather have a dead child than a happy child? If you can think of any time that you wouldn't love your child, you probably shouldn't be having children. I'm disgusted with this girls family, and I hope she's finally at peace.
originally posted by: Annee
a reply to: Jamie1
Really don't care.
Teens are ALL emotion. You want to force logic where logic doesn't exist.
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: Lyxdeslic
This story cuts deep, man. My boyfriend and I talked about this the other day, and he could not understand why I got so upset about it. He kept saying, "I don't understand why HE wanted to be female. If he wanted to be gay, he could just be gay." And "Why can't he just accept himself for what he is?" I wanted to punch him. I had to explain to him that sexuality has nothing to do with gender. And that there are MTF who like girls, not guys. And there are FTM that like guys, no girls. And that the better question is "Why can't society accept these people?"
Facts are, some people will never understand it until they see it unfold in front of them. He will likely not understand until he either has a friend in that situation or if one day we have a child in that situation.
I just don't get it, why would someone rather have a dead child than a happy child? If you can think of any time that you wouldn't love your child, you probably shouldn't be having children. I'm disgusted with this girls family, and I hope she's finally at peace.
I'm intrigued by the paradox in your post.
You want people to accept other people, but when your boyfriend had a different perspective, you wanted to punch him.
Aren't you condemning the parents for the exact same thing? Accepting somebody doesn't mean becoming angry when a person is different than you, right?
originally posted by: Jamie1
Simple question re Leelah:
Is it a fact or story that she would have been happy if her parents accommodated everything she wanted?
originally posted by: daftpink
originally posted by: Entreri06
originally posted by: daftpink
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: Taupin Desciple
a reply to: Annee
So her parents kept her away, physically and technically, from the very society that was shunning her? Sounds like they were doing her a favor and neither her nor her parents saw that.
And neither do you I guess.
You are clueless.
She didn't have a problem at school.
Have you read her suicide note? Where she talks about her friends not giving a sh*t about her and her feeling even lonelier than ever due to this?
Although I believe her parents definitely did not handle her situation effectively it is clear that the issue is one of acceptance from ALL of society and that includes school friends.
It is completely unrealistic to expect EVErYONE to accept ANYTHING!! We can expect for groups not to team up and bully children. But it's completely illogical to expect ANYONE to never be bullied. It's a part of growing up and has been for all of human history. That said we as adults should definatly step in if it gets physical or a mob mentality singles out one kid. But those who think everyone should just accept LGBT's your nuts. Everyone doesn't accept red heads lmao!!
Learning to deal with bullies and adversity are part of childhood. LGBT's don't get a magic free pass. Why should they? Whites don't get a pass, blacks don't get a pass, skinny kids, fat kids, short kids, ugly kids, dumb kids all get screwed with in school.
I don't know, it just seems like some expect a completely unrealistic goal to be met. That LGBT's shouldn't only get a fair shake, but should be protected above all other social groups.
Straight kids commit suicide as well because of being bullied and no one thinks the world should be focefully made to accept them...
Hmm I'd really hate to live where you do, where apparently red heads aren't 'accepted'?!? Have never in my life met anyone who does not accept someone for having red hair.
Don't know about you but i expect society to accept everyone as individuals.
My kids attend a very mixed culture school where they are taught the opposite of your words.
This isn't just about LGBT. It's about society accepting ALL people, being tolerant of people despite your own or their beliefs. Isn't that what you teach your kids?
originally posted by: Entreri06
2: we should not be doing sex changes on children or introducing hormone therapy. It's just too invasive for a child to make that call.