posted on Jan, 1 2015 @ 11:31 AM
a reply to: Danny85
If you split the two right in half, making sure you are happy then using the extra time to help others it is best. Other wise you become a slave to
others obsessions and depression. If they see you enjoying life a little while helping them a little, they may change their attitude. Other wise you
reinforce their negativity that drives their downward spiral. They want to have others suffer like themselves so they can have something in common
with others. I see whole families driven by this type of depression. Number one is to take care of yourself, your increased happiness may convince
others to follow suit and get up and get going.
I am in no way promoting you to abandon your responsibilities. You just have to identify what is really your responsibility. Reinforcing someones
negative outlook towards life is not good, joining them in this path is also not good.
I had a minister working for me building homes and I told another worker not to swear too much in front of him. My worker laughed when I told him he
was a minister, so I confronted the minister who was a very nice guy about it. He was always cheerful. My other worker asked him why he never said
he was a minister and Bill told him that you do not have to tell anyone you believe in god, when they see the tranquility in you they ask and wonder
what is the reason. My other worker did not get religious that day but did learn about where Bill's great personality came from. It came from inner
peace which he had obtained from being friendly to others. I paid Bill the same as I paid the other employees, he worked just as hard.
After that day my other employee did change a little, and he had a lot of respect for Bill. But he never acheived the tranquility because he was
stuck in a rut that he had put himself into. Bill made sure he was happy to make others happy. When he comes into the room, people can sense he is a
good person. He smiles as much as a person with Angelman syndrome but it is not a disease that fuels his mood.
I hope this helps guide you, you can not help others if you are in a depressed mood, you need to be able to shine to boost their mood and help them
from being dragged into the abiss. You do not need religion to be this way either, you just have to want to be happy, no matter what the situation.
I rarely see Bill's enlightenment in people who go to church, he is one in a million. I finally have the time to understand what he told us, I was
too busy to comprehend it totally before. I put myself on the wrong path before, I am trying to find the path I should be on.
I do not need religion to succeed, but I do need to believe there is something out there that is structuring things.