originally posted by: Bloodydagger
Also, part of it is that parents do not parent anymore. Instead, they let the TV, IPADs and video games do the parenting for them. This too can make
children at young ages develop odd disorders.
I'm not sure where the popular opinion started (or the common belief) that the rise of neurological diagnosis has to do with lazy or 'bad' parenting.
I can certainly understand the confusion and will humbly admit that I had my own range of ideas of where the rise in diagnosis was coming from, lazy
parenting being one of the possibilities (along with food allergies, red food coloring, etc.).
I guess I really never gave it much thought, until the next time the topic came up (whether with friends' children or casual conversation). Then, I'd
pipe up with my current fave reason the disorders were on the rise, which usually had some tinge of disbelief it (ADHD, Autism) actually existed.
See, my problem was that I didn't HAVE to think about it, research it, or live it. I was just an opinionated person (like many of us here at ATS)
that loved discussing the latest current issues/events and hot-topic social debates.
To me, the 'every-thing-other-than-real-medical-science' theories made the most sense to me. Another thing that played into my thinking had to do
with the 'psychological' aspect of diagnosis. I've always been weary of psychiatrists (still am). The title alone denotes 'behavioral issues' to me;
therefore Autism and ADHD had to be 'behavioral' issues (in my mind). This was more than twenty years ago.
Well, back to the point of lazy or bad-parenting being a factor in over-diagnosing these particular neurological disorders. Believe me when I say
that any lazy/bad parenting is so far off the mark on this and let me tell you why. While it could (that's a very miniscule could) play a part in
originally diagnosing or attempting diagnosis, it definitely plays no part in the on-going management.
There is NO SUCH thing as a miracle drug or pill that will manage either disorder for anyone and most certainly not for any parent of a child of
either disorder. A much better argument would be that these disorders are either under-diagnosed or not being managed, due to lazy and/or bad
parenting. So many parents of these children end up having to choose which one will give up their career for the sake of the child. In many cases
an extended family member takes on the role (as ATS member Annee has so graciously done) due to finances or single parent households. ADHD, Autism,
and some other neurological disorders are very demanding of -parents that serve as advocates and managers.
I'm confident that if any child has been diagnosed and is under current treatment, that should be a sign that his/her guardian is very much involved
in that child's daily well-being.
I am also confident that the majority of those very guardians are living under prejudicial conditions that has resulted in a very lonely and stressed
lifestyle. I say this because too many people (myself included) in society has jumped to the most popular opinion of the causes, resulting in the
very guardians having to fight harder, shout louder, and step up for the child that they are just too tired to wear and defend the label (lazy/bad) in
their own personal social settings. They are usually the quietest ones at the table when others are 'debating' the causes.
So think about it, next time the topic comes up. Who is mysteriously 'non-opinionated' at the table? Order them a drink, they certainly need it.
edit on 1-1-2015 by SourGrapes because: (no reason given)