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originally posted by: Expat888
Still attempting to figure out why theres even a need for marriage ..
Marriage only seems to benefit religion.. the state and divorce lawyers who all profit from it.
originally posted by: Bluesma
a reply to: TheBlackTiger
I hear your meaning behind your sarcasm, I think. You mean that I am generalizing and stereotyping too much?
Point taken. I realize that not all people are the same, even within the same population. But I also feel that generalities and stereotypes exist because there are predominant attitudes, conceptions, and values within specific cultures, that are held by a majority. That is what I mean to address.
There is enough evidence in the media that there are profound differences on this subject between the two countries.
In movies, tv shows, you get expressions that for example, all people in one country will understand the reference, no matter what their personal stance on it is.
All americans understand the movies which focus on the planning of weddings, and the endings of children's movies which have for ending the princess achieves ultimate joy and reward by a marriage.
In France, the famous ending of children's stories is "and they lived long and happy lives, and had many children". But you don't see any marriage!
Yes, some people feel differently, of course. If it needs to be concise in my rant, I am refering to a certain part of the american population who feel marriage is very important, even essential, in the formation of a family.
I wonder why they feel that way, and why they place that higher than other considerations- like a woman getting an education or career?
originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
I preface this whole post with this is my belief of American standards, being an American:
To often in this culture, men disappear from a relationship when children enter into it. Without the additional anchor of marriage, your American family is looking at that first.
Americans place value on commitment, which they are not seeing from this gent, who's not willing to settle down after 6 years of dating.
It is absolutely a cultural thing, be it right or wrong.
originally posted by: TheBlackTiger
How long ago was it that, even in France, an unmarried woman ought not to have a child? Probably not (relatively) that long ago.
originally posted by: Sremmos80
a reply to: randomtangentsrme
Op doesn't say why they are not married.
Could be mutual that they don't feel the need to do that dog and pony show we call marriage.