As a Christian I was shocked to discover that Marriage Vows between a man and a woman are Un-biblical.
Yep, that's right - No where in the Bible, Old testament or New did there ever be a marriage preformed with vows and no marriage was ever preformed by
a priest or religious figure.
Sure they take our tradition vows from the Old testament, but they were never meant to be used by rote - they were only for an example, not actual
vows that you say to each other - those Hebrews never said marriage vows, nor did they in the New Testament.
In fact, the bible goes to great lengths to speak of marriage as being a matter of Local Government Law, not a religious event.
Getting married "In the eyes of God" is also no where to be found the the Bible.
This concerns me because this means all we have been taught all our lives about Christian Marriage is a LIE.
The real way God set up marriage was SEX. (this going back to Genesis) Period. This for the purpose of procreation. The man and woman would be
betrothed for a year (dating and getting to know each other) then they were simply considered married after a "wedding dinner party" ( a wedding
feast at someones house) of course then the man and woman consummated the marriage when all the house quests left. - And that was it - that's the
whole Biblical marriage.
The vows as used today are in fact legally binding through the law. If your vow says the wife must obey the husband, did you know if the wife fails to
obey the husband you can take your spouse to court for it - and you'll win too because those vows are a legally binding verbal contract preformed in
front of a judge and witnesses including signed papers. We don't want vows like that.
Protestants, Listen Up - If the God fearing folks of the Old and New Testaments did not use marriage vows, where did it come from?
The Catholic Church !
But I want to back up a bit and ask the VERY NEEDED QUESTION: WHO CAME UP WITH THE PRACTICE OF WEDDING CEREMONIES????
According to Wikipedia, 'In the time of the Roman Empire (17 B.C.- A.D. 476) the lower classes (proletarians) had "free" marriages. The bride's father
would deliver her to the groom, and the two agreed that they were wed, and would keep the vow of marriage by mutual consent. Wealthy Romans, though,
would sign documents listing property rights to publicly declare that their union was legalized and not a common law marriage. This was the beginning
of the official recording of marriage.
The oldest traditional wedding vows can be traced back to the manuals of the medieval church. In England, there were manuals of the dioceses of
Salisbury (Sarum) and York. The compilers of the first Book of Common Prayer, published in 1549 based its marriage service mainly on the Sarum manual.
Upon agreement to marry, the Church of England usually offered couples a choice. The couple could promise each other to "love and cherish" or
alternatively, the groom promises to "love, cherish and worship", while the bride to "love, cherish and obey."
Now I find this very interesting. That the very institution that - as far as I'm concerned - polluted the Church that GOD built - THE ROMAN CATHOLIC
CHURCH - started this practice.
So you see the Local Roman Government at the time used religious marriage to make things legally binding they never used before - such as the land
money and goods the husband and wife shared. They saw this as a way to CONTROL the masses and the things that belonged to the people.
You Protestants should really be ashamed of yourselves for falling into a Roman Catholic Trap. - But I don't blame you, I blame the Reformation (I'm
Protestant myself) - In the Protestants zeal to be rid of the false catholic church, they overlooked the things which the catholic church simply made
up and didn't make a clear distinction on what was actually in the bible - they ignorantly lumped all data together with no thought for it's
Learning all of this was distressing so to the point I want to have no truck with any un-biblical traditional marriage. ( the above is not my only
source, there are many examples that prove my point.)
Yes, you Can find passages in the Bible to back up someone say a man for instance making a wedding vow to a woman but these are all taken out of
context - no vows were ever exchanged in the bible during the wedding ceremony.
Mind you I am not against getting married in the eyes of God, in fact the woman and I have been living together for over 10 years and we have
consummated the relationship many times - in the eyes of God who see's everything - so there is no real point to " getting married in the eyes of God"
during a silly ceremony.
This is very important -> I believe they did not use vows in the bible because it will be Against God's Will - God in the bible tells us not to swear
any oaths ever - and if you look up the word vow as used in the bible it means to swear an oath - They knew what they were doing, it's just everyone
since that got it all wrong.
Now you have heard the arguments and seen the data, I need new vows. We'll be using a Justice of the Peace because a legal marriage is what is
required, not a religious marriage.
Any ideas? Your thoughts on the matter?
edit on 16-12-2014 by JohnPhoenix because: addition