a reply to: Vaedur
Just explain to her, that she might have been living many past incarnations in male body, so she got used to it, and that feels natural to her, and
her all-new female body that has been aligned with the etheric body and astral body to express femininity, as well as her brain that will have more
white matter than grey, IS her new body now.
She can still identify herself as a 'male' internally, as far as her deeper identity goes, but she will always be a 'woman' during this
incarnation, no matter what she does (mutilating the genitals and using hormones does NOT change your energy or brain gender, or kill the female
instinctual side, which is what the gender mostly consists of anyway - the rest is just an expression of the gender).
Messing up with hormones, trying to fight your Karma and your life choice that you made before incarnating, will only mess you up, you suddenly have
still the female urges and instincts, but the additional unnatural reactions that the hormones create, plus the identity crisis and mix-up, plus the
environment's reaction to your changes - and mutilating your body simply damages it, it can't really and truly turn your physical body from an
actual male to an actual female body, or vice versa. It can LOOK like a relatively acceptable replica after an enormous effort, but it's not exactly
the same (there's never going to be the exact same nerve pathways, for a man-to-woman-example, or the exact same feeling from orgasms, or the exact
same features, like being able to give birth, or menstruate or or or etc. Same of course goes when you do it the opposite).
I think it's best to just ACCEPT the gender you are incarnated into, after all, it's not YOUR gender, it's just your bodies', brain's,
instincts', and the energy flows' gender. Soul has no gender.
Also, it's best not to focus too much on the gender - it's what it is, and they are the cards you chose and you were given, deal with it, and learn
to live with it, and then find something that interests you and focus on that. Unless gender dynamics and sex-change-attempts really interest you.
The ONLY way your daughter (who is too young to even know the implications of what she's talking about, or make this kind of decisions - funnily kids
never talked about this stuff a few decades ago, as far as I know. It almost sounds like some feminist got to her and force-fed these 'sexual'
thoughts to her, like they always do - they mess up everything) is ever going to change the gender she is now living in, is to either reincarnate or
just leave the physical body.
You can't make a male body out of a female body - it's not an electronic build-it-yourself kit, it's an
organic-energetic-etheric-astral-causal-mental-soul-filled living entity. What she has is what she gets, and that will only change after she
permanently leaves the current physical body.
If you can explain it to her, that it might be uncomfortable and doesn't feel natural, but we all have to go through it at some point or another, and
it's more brave to actually just endure it and go through life as a something that feels uncomfortable, than to try to customize everything to her
liking, like a spoiled child. I mean, we didn't incarnate to have a paradisic holiday, we came here to pay karmic debts and to suffer, learn from
life's lessons and all that.
Life is not supposed to be an easy walk in the park!
Besides, how about teaching your kid patience? Why the rush to change gender? Why can't she change it between incarnations? Perhaps she will learn to
like it, after enduring it for awhile, and choose to incarnate again into a female body, to get more practice. We can't escape our destiny, although
we can live in illusions that we have done so, but it never works.
Have you ever met those 'gender-changed' people? At least take your daughter to a comprehensive tour, from the most failed ones to the most
successful ones, and then talk about the psychological problems that will almost certainly arise if she makes this an obsession and mutilates her body
accordingly and expects her surroundings to simply accept that now she's a man all of the sudden. She will never seem very manly, because even the
most butch female seems like a weak, nerdy and wimpy man at best, if they try to masquerade as men (some lesbian hag even wrote a book about it -
it's quite revealing, but at the same time, she gives a lot of misandristic comments in the end).
There's just no way to cross that bridge now, it's burned down already. You can jump in the water and struggle your whole life to get to the other
side, but even if you do, you won't be the same, and the current has taken you to a completely wrong direction, you will never find back to where you
wanted to go, and in the end, you will realize you never actually crossed the river, you just got confused by the waves and actually swam back to the
Gender can't be changed.
However, I am all for freedom of ROLES. People should never be forced to live in any roles, and they should usually only utilize their gender roles,
when they are in the mating / coupling process. Other than that, it's not much use to be overly masculine or overly feminine, a gender won't help
you dig a ditch or program a game (but for some reason, mostly men seem to be doing these things.. ).
The world is messed up, and it'd be best for your daughter's lifestyle, if she didn't try to even identify herself as a man - I mean, men do all
the dirty work, they are expected to automatically offer their services, especially for women, for free, everywhere they go, and everywhere a woman
wants help (not even needs - just, wants). Men are expected to lift the heavy objects for women, put their shelves together, install their software,
repair their cars, rooves (yes, it is the correct spelling, though a tad obsolete) and computers, dig their ditches, and so on and so forth. Men are
expected to pay everything everwyhere, and men are ABSOLUTELY required to work, work and work.
Whereas women are not. Women can choose to work, become a housewive, a welfare mom, a single mom, become an artist, or some combination of these.
Men are expected to work, work and work. Those are pretty much the choices.
To WANT to be a man, she has to be either crazy or not realize what she's saying. Still, we have all made our choices, and karmically speaking,
incarnating into a male body is a very effective, but a very tough choice.
Men are, by the way, also the scapegoats of the world, the targets of ridicule, the stupid, clumsy oafs that are easy to laugh at and kick in the
nuts. You can never say the same things about a woman that you can easily say about a man.
A quote from Seinfeld: "I am not a lesbian - I mean, I hate men, but I am not a lesbian!" .. nice laughter, heh, heh.
How about if a man said: "I am not gay - I mean, I hate women, but I am not gay!" .. *shocked gasps* *silence* *FURY!*
There's no equality on this planet - at least in the actual reality.
She's better off leaving her gender as is, and just taking it .. like a man! (: