As someone who is mixed race, I can generally see both sides of an argument about racial issues pretty well. I am going to tread very lightly with
this post. At least, those are my intentions. The issues going on in the US have deeply saddened me. I am everyone's only "black" friend and have been
getting a lot of pressure to give my opinion. I have yet to do so in a social setting, but want to share my thoughts on here.
I believe the huge difference in opinion about the current race war is perspective. We have been somewhat trained by TPTB to view the black community
as ignorant, oppressed, angry, violent, "ghetto", etc etc. Even those among the black community who preach of peace and love are viewed negatively as
radicals. I'm not saying for one minute that there are not plenty of black people who fit those stereotypes, and do their best to pass all of that on
to the next generations, but there are people in every race who fit those stereotypes. There are unfortunately different classes of people out there
who are these things and more in every racial/ethnic group.
I have experienced racism from every angle under the sun. Black women don't like me because I'm "light skinned with light eyes". Apparently I'm a
threat to their men, and they get jealous of my hair (??) Black men don't prefer me either because I'm not white enough or black enough. White women
don't like me because I'm exotic looking and a threat to THEIR men. I freak white men out because I guess I'm a scary black woman. I get a lot of
grief from hispanics and latinos because they generally don't like black people. I've mentioned in a few posts that I have dealt with racial profiling
because I'm "dark" and drive a nice vehicle. I get pulled over regularly for "following too closely, etc" and my info is ran and I am let go without
incident. I have dealt with profiling all of my life. Whether it be people assuming I am Mexican and handing me literature that is in Spanish, people
trying to "relate" to me about being in the "system" not being taken seriously with the business I run, not being accepted by a significant other's
family, not being given a chance. Racism is real and alive. And my examples above are just a mere look into what some people have to deal with on a
DAILY basis. And this goes for white people too! White people experience just as much racism from blacks and hispanics. My point is, if you haven't
experienced it personally, it is difficult to understand it. I will forever have an experience burned into my memory. I was riding bikes with my dad
as a child and we were crossing a busy road. We had the right of way. A man almost ran into us and yelled "Stupid ni**er and your stupid ni**er baby!"
It wasn't the words that hurt. It was seeing the look on my dads face and the look he gave me. I've never seen him cry, and he was doing everything he
could not to cry in front of me. My dad has worked incredibly hard in his life to overcome racial oppression and not fall into patterns that a lot of
African Americans do. He is a highly successful and well known member of the community (not black community, THE community). And he deals with
constant reminders of how much people view blacks so negatively. So yes, racism stings. More than anything anyone could possibly say. Because nobody
can choose what race they are. You CAN choose to be an asshole, or a bitch, or a thief, a liar, etc. But you don't get to choose your race, nor can
you make any changes.
So I have stayed relatively mum until last night when I viewed the video of the little boy in Cleveland being murdered by our men in blue. And then I
read the comments... "he deserved it." "Thug kid" "Oh my gosh he could have shot the surrounding houses! I'm glad they took him out!" And so on and so
on. I understand your privileged suburban mentality. I too live in the burbs and get worked up when there is something amiss. You saw a kid up to no
good with a gun. But I saw a child. A child who wasn't taught how to behave in public, losing his life because of our inability to HELP and TEACH and
I am a mother to 3 boys. 3 very bold boys. One is 11. And that could have easily been his life lost. My oldest two will play for HOURS like that child
was doing. My middle one loves to go outside and play "zombies". He runs around and stabs and shoots the air. Obviously they do not do this in public
and we have had hours of conversations about what's appropriate and what isn't when it comes to guns (dad went to Columbine). But what I saw was a
little boy just playing in the park, being slightly obnoxious, lifting his shirt to show it was probably a fake gun, and being shot and killed. I was
horrified. It is a police officers job to gain control of a situation. Not just eliminate. That would have been an excellent opportunity for those
officers to TEACH this young boy (who clearly wasn't taught by his parents) about gun safety and what can potentially happen if you're outside, waving
a gun around, fake or not. They could have done something positive in light of all of this tension going on. It is our job as adults to model for the
generations growing up below us. We are all so selfish and self absorbed. Out of sight, out of mind. Not my problem. But where is that getting us?
I know the majority of my thoughts posted above isn't going to change anyone perspective on how they view certain ethnic groups. Or how they viewed
these recent events in the media. We all have our own ideas and opinions and ways of thinking. But it wouldn't hurt some of us to REALLY get to know
someone of a different race. You can learn that they deal with the same BS you do. They have a husband or wife who annoys them just like you do. They
have dramatic teenagers. A crazy toddler. A double masters degree. It's enlightening, and it also takes away the fear, and the stereotypes. We want to
open our minds to so much... we should be opening our minds to eachother as well.
I may look different, but I am human. I love, I laugh, I cry, I get angry.
JUST LIKE YOU. Does it really matter in the end anyway?
edit on 27-11-2014 by alishainwonderland because: grammar!!