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originally posted by: Hushabye
He'd rather be stubborn and part of the problem, than help fix it. You see, it's a competition between him, and his mom. He doesn't want his mom to win...and screw the dog.
Don't condemn the dog to insanity.
she has been asking my wife and i to let my daughter come over there and spend the night...my daughter has never done that. i have always come up with some sort of reason why its not a good time. we got in the argument though and i told her what was up.
my mother is not a breeder. just an idiot
when she does something about it we will start coming back around...
that is how i am handling it
originally posted by: Hushabye
..and screw the dog.
pretty much. their dog is a dick. i dont like how he acts...
If you're going to ignore the situation, at least order her the Cesar Millan training videos- your parents might just give up and deem the dog 'uncontrollable,' and it will end up in a shelter, probably dead. All this can be changed with some simple changes in their OWN behavior. Order the videos, and then be done with it, if you must. Don't condemn the dog to insanity.
its not my responsibility.
originally posted by: InhaleExhale
I guess you haven't sat down and discussed your concerns for your own daughter with your mother then.
no. i have not sat down and had a family meeting about it...she knows how i feel though..i have voiced my concerns numerous times in the pat year
You come up with reasons instead of telling the truth
i have not told her point blank that is the reason i will not let my daughter spend the night but i have voiced my concerns about her dog multiple times.....just had not told her that is the specific reason for my daughter not spending the night
I suggest you sit down and talk to your Mum
nope. im pissed at her
and not say these things about her on the net
this is the rant forum. i am ranting
No wonder you experience what you do,
yeah. cause my mom is an idiot
it sound as though you are saying your mother doesn't respect your views all
she dont. that is a large part of why i am so pissed....i have told her my concerns about her dumb ass dog being around my daughter and she is doing nothing about it
at the same time as you disrespecting her behind her back by calling her an idiot which would hurt her feeling quite a bit I assume.
i dont make it a point to hurt my mothers feelings but i have said way, way worse # to her than that...when i get pissed i dont pull any punches. i try to keep my cool with everyone and especially her cause she is my mom, but that does not give her a free pass
Maybe you should revise your argument with your mother after your phone was eaten and instead of screaming at each other bring up your concerns in a fashion that you both get what is being said as leaving an issue unresolved or resolved in the fashion you have said will only be more damaging in the long run for all parties involved.
originally posted by: Dimithae
Then STICK BY YOUR WORD. I don't care if its a holiday or what. Do not relent,your daughters safety comes first.
originally posted by: intrptr
Guard your stuff when you are there. Its your fault if you leave your stuff lying around to get stolen and slobbered on.
He'd rather be stubborn and part of the problem, than help fix it. You see, it's a competition between him, and his mom. He doesn't want his mom to win…and screw the dog.
originally posted by: Grovit
im not ordering #....im not condemning the dog to anything. its not my responsibility.
I completely agree with those that have mentioned Cesar Millan.
originally posted by: Domo1
You seem to have some very strong anger issues. Have you gotten help? Do you think perhaps you are making this worse because of your anger? You say you have gone for years without talking to your Mother. That is not a normal relationship. She may be to blame, but reading your posts I think you have some serious issues. Really hoping you're not in your twenties.
i guess it depends on what you consider an issue. im pretty direct and brash when i pot on here but i type how i talk. im that way in real life too. what i post reads almost exactly how i talk. for the most part i think i keep it together well but some things just set me off. when i get fired up it is just hard to calm down....i never start throwing # or breaking #...nothing like that....i just get cranked up man...and no, i have not gotten help...not in my 20's....pushing 40.
Worried about you OP. You seem unreasonably angry. I'm glad you don't blame the dog. It's not the dogs fault. Perhaps you could offer to pay for some training classes, or research them and show a schedule to your Mother? Tell her you aren't willing to visit if she doesn't take some action?
i know its not the dogs fault. i cant stand the dog but thats not his fault. when he was a little puppy i would play with him...he was cool. now he is a dick but its cause my mom lets him run the show...there is no way in hell that i am paying for classes, dvd's, anything for that dog...it is not my dog so it is not my problem. well, the issues i have with him are my problem but i am solving that by walking away from all of it. like i said, she knows. i have voiced my concerns many times and it came to a head this time....she knows me and she knows why....i have been this way my whole life
It's annoying to have a dog jump all over you. I go to the dog park all the time, and this is something that I expect. When you go to your Mother's you should expect it. It doesn't mean you have to like it, but don't go if you have a problem.
my dog does not jump all over people and eat their #. my father in law has 2 dogs and they dont do it...i should not expect to be jumped on and have my 2 year old mowed down by this big bastard. what i expect is when people invite others over their house, they keep their big ass dog in check...if i wanted the dog to jump on me thats one thing but i dont. since i dont want it i expect the owner not to let it happen
I get that you're pissed, and I don't really blame you, but some of the things you've said really have me worried. That along with some patterns in your typing. Dismiss it all you want and call me a jackass, but if you want to talk about something U2U me. No judge and strictest confidence.